Luna01010 Posted April 8, 2021 Posted April 8, 2021 So, I come across a message my boyfriend sent to a friend last year at the start of uk lockdown. His friend was saying that he’s been DMing loads of women since the lockdown started. My boyfriend replied, I’ve kept loyal but if this goes on much longer my thumbs might start wondering. We had 3 weeks at this time that we did not see each other, we had been together since mid January the same year. this is why I’m confused though..... every single night without fail that we were apart he FaceTimed me for hours until he fell asleep. He asked everyday to FaceTime, I didn’t ask for that and he stayed on until late through his own choice. He spent a lot of the calls telling me how much he missed me, loved me, knows now he can’t be without me etc and as soon as we were able to be together he rearranged his life to make that happen. still this message to his friend has completely broke my trust now. How can he care about me that much, but say that to someone? Or was it just stupid banter with a friend and I’m overthinking?
d0nnivain Posted April 8, 2021 Posted April 8, 2021 It's probably closer to stupid banter between guys born of sexual frustration. Young guys rarely think about the long term consequences of their words. His remark to his buddy was funny in the moment. Try to recognize that his thumbs were wandering not the good parts: brain, heart or sex organs. Let it go. 1
Wiseman2 Posted April 8, 2021 Posted April 8, 2021 3 hours ago, Luna01010 said: We had 3 weeks at this time that we did not see each other, we had been together since mid January the same year. every single night without fail that we were apart he FaceTimed me for hours until he fell asleep. How did you come across this message? It could just be bro talk, but you seem to already have doubts if you are reading his private messages. Step back from the oversaturating facetiming. Be busier with your own life and friends. That could be part of the issue. 1
smackie9 Posted April 8, 2021 Posted April 8, 2021 (edited) There isn't a guy on the planet that would admit to his buddy or buddies that he's going to act like a sappy romantic to his GF because he loves her so much, etc. It's just him flexing his masculinity to his friend....boys will be boys. In other words he lied to his friend to look like a bad ass man. Edited April 8, 2021 by smackie9 3
redglass Posted April 8, 2021 Posted April 8, 2021 It sounds like harmless bravado ‘banter’ to me. Saying that, how did you see these messages? 1
Versacehottie Posted April 8, 2021 Posted April 8, 2021 3 hours ago, d0nnivain said: It's probably closer to stupid banter between guys born of sexual frustration. Young guys rarely think about the long term consequences of their words. His remark to his buddy was funny in the moment. Try to recognize that his thumbs were wandering not the good parts: brain, heart or sex organs. Let it go. 100%. Think it's bravado among the guys. His real actions show he is pretty whipped over you--which he probably doesn't want to admit to his friend. Especially that was a while ago. Life is not stuck in that time. You guys sound like you've grown closer and are established now. Something that wasn't determined at the point in time that he wrote that message. 1
ShyViolet Posted April 8, 2021 Posted April 8, 2021 It was silly banter, it was a year ago, and at the time you had only been dating for 2 months. Let it go. And stop snooping through your boyfriend's phone at messages that are over a year old. 1
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