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Dude, can you fix that? Are are you serious?!

You're in an abusive, unfair, mean, nasty relationship and you're on the defensive when you didn't do anything wrong, and you want to fix this?

Dude get to therapy. You don't need to put up with abuse. You ought to be running.

Can you fix this? That's a spectacularly self-destructive, self-demeaning question to answer the question in the way YOU mean.

Can you fix this (in the way I mean and others mean)? Yes, get out of an abusive relationship asap. 

Did you grow up in an abusive home? In an abusive family? Why are you putting up with this nonsense? We all have real flaws and relationships have to work with our real flaws. You're getting abused about fake flaws. This relationship has no chance.

Get some hobbies, get a life, get some friends. There is no way you have friends, because if you shared this story with them, they would tell you to get the hell out.

Go development some friendships, go examine what happened when you were growing up and THEN and only then think about dating. 

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What exactly was shared between you two on past relationships? Only serious ones or anyone you ever banged?

 

if that relationship was short lik under a month I don’t see the issue.  It woukd be a far bigger issue if this was a 3 yr live together relationship.

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Agree. If you or these crazy violent women are using drugs or alcohol, it's time to stop.

If you are not with these crazy violent women to do drugs and they're all just crazy and violent, you need to slow your roll.

For example do you trive on drama or women getting into catfights over you for fun and games?

Reflect on that.

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I don't know how old either of you are or are not,but I have this to say about everyone's pasts:

First, keep in mind that I am 46.  Anyone who reads this may be a 15 year old or a 65 year old or something in between.  At my age I have realized many things and one of them is that it would be foolish if not downright nieve to think that everyone you meet in some way, shape or form has had some kind of a past.  Unless you are a 15 year old of course.  Whatever did or did not go on in that past is not my or anyone else's business.  The old saying "don't ask don't tell" exists because it is true.

This is the result of being a more flamboyant person in the past and being hurt and beaten by others in the past.  I'm sure there are others out there who have had a number of partners that have gone into the triple digits or who are spending every waking moment drunk/high.  I'm sure there are others out there who spend every weekend in front of the TV.  And there are those who you have no idea what they are doing with their time.  Whatever the case may be, we are in the here and now and that's what matters.  

Either put these facts aside or break up.  

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I would say that next time she physically assaults you, you need to call the police. However, I'm hoping you don't go back to her because you have nothing but trouble to look forward to with her. Seriously, why should she care about your past relationships? You didn't cheat on her. It was in the PAST. Frankly, she sounds like a nightmare. All the beauty and intelligence in the world isn't worth that type of abuse (and I question her level of intelligence if she cannot understand that what happened in your past has nothing to do with her.)

Also, it does sound like perhaps your SO's are a little too familiar with one another. Perhaps try fishing in a different pond, next time.

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l don't get it , the girl was before her anyway wasn't she , l mean you weren't 2 timing her were ya ? Alright you didn't mention that one , seems like you hid it to her , not a good look at all my man. Butttt, then there is your gf now and the way she's acting. She sounds like she has many many problems and that's only at 12mths, and just over that, you ain't seen nothing yet with her. And the way itself that she's acting and treating you what , you wanna take that bs and be in a relationship with someone like that man , do yourself a huge huge favor and get out of this while you can. Unfortunately hotness does often come with crazy.

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19 hours ago, chillii said:

Unfortunately hotness does often come with crazy.

nvm.

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Haaa , well admittedly l suppose that does sound like a bit of a broad brush , l'll try putting it this way , certain kinds of hotness- or something like that.

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Unfortunately it seems like you are in trouble because of your present as well as the past.

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Wow, it sounds like you have a lot of stalker exs contacting your girlfriend.

 

You might have to find a new girl outside the circle of your stalker, drama queen exs.

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Dump her....this is so done. Stop dating hot crazy insecure women. Your picker is way off.

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17 hours ago, chillii said:

Haaa , well admittedly l suppose that does sound like a bit of a broad brush , l'll try putting it this way , certain kinds of hotness- or something like that.

I was going to post the hot-crazy matrix video, but then thought better of it. 🤣

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14 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

I was going to post the hot-crazy matrix video, but then thought better of it. 🤣

Watched it....so funny!

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There's some truth to it. I think it's because the hottest women get so much attention, both good and bad from so many guys throughout every single day, they're looked at like sex objects and it just messes them up in the head.

Not all of them. But enough that there's a pattern.

 

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Same goes for hot men. They will take it for granted.

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l have my theories haha. They find out very young that boys men even people in general just give them attention , then they figure out that they don't even have to do anything and become kinda stunted , then they figure out that they can get away with murder , then they get a bit crazy - how's that.  🙄

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