SweetMisery Posted October 17, 2005 Share Posted October 17, 2005 So hey I just want to see if you guys think this guy's desperate or also a little strange. I met this guy last fall, he was a room mate to one of my guy friends and he managed to get my email from my friend and then one night hanging out he put his cell number in my phone and then used my phone to call his so he could get my cell #. This was cool at first, but then I called him and we talked on the phone one night. Never spoke on the phone again after that. Then about a month later, I was talking to my friend and he was telling me about the arguement that Eddie got into with him and how he pushed my friend on his bed and my friend was scared he was going to get physically violent. So that was like huge red flags for me so I deleted the guy from my cell phone and email. Well last night I get this email from him after not talking to him in a year: Subject: Remember Me? From Eddie To SM SM, i hope this is the rite person...the gurl that came over back when i lived in the same aptmnt as david ? well its me eddie, the guy with the silver pimped out civic i hope ur ok...email me sometime or something and let me know what you're up to, how work is going, the love life, etc.... eddie I stupidly replied to be nice. Hi Eddie, yes I remember you. Work is going well and keeping me on my toes. I hope all is well for you. I hate to cut this short, but I've got to go tackle some laundry. Take Care, Sweet Misery His reply today: Hey there. SM, hey there...*hug*...i'm good...i mean i've had 2 funerals to go to in the past 2 weeks..but i'm good. not much going on besides work and finishing up fall softball...i live in the aptmnts behind arbys on first street now...aptmnt #if ur ever in the neighborhood and wanna stop by. i'm still single. oh...i got a new(er) vehicle...i still have my civic tho....i got a 2004 ford ranger edge. where are you living now and are you single? just curious... Eddie The last line is just creepy. It sounds if he has me in mind to date and I don't even really know this guy just know what my friend has said about him and isn't it a little strange a year later to contact me out of the blue like that? What do you all think? I personally feel like he's a bit desperate and it just is bizarre. I just don't think it would be a good idea to hang out with him bc of what my friend said and my mom also came across him when she used to work where he did and didn't get good vibes. Link to post Share on other sites
kitkat826 Posted October 17, 2005 Share Posted October 17, 2005 Go with your instinct. Hmmm...Eddies with pimped out Civics...I've been there and advise you to stay away... Link to post Share on other sites
J dub Posted October 17, 2005 Share Posted October 17, 2005 lol if it's the same eddie I know with a modified civic (I HATE the word "pimped out" ew...), I advise you run for the hills immediately! I'm sure its not tho because the one I knew went to jail in January. Link to post Share on other sites
kewllady123 Posted October 17, 2005 Share Posted October 17, 2005 It doesn't really sound like he's desparate, just that you made a good impression with him. You never know, your friend could just have gotten jealous about u guys hanging out, and made up a story about him. I would maybe meet up with him at the mall or something. Then you can see what he's like for yourself. Wuz he cute? Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted October 17, 2005 Share Posted October 17, 2005 Geesh. If you trust your friend and his story, then run. There's plenty of other guys out there. Personally, I never have good experiences with guys who are so egocentric about their cars. They always end up shallow, and messed in the head. After a few of those, if a guy even mentioned his car without my absolutely needing to know (ie. I had his keys in my hand and was going to get something out of his car in a parking lot of cars.) I would run like my a$$ caught fire. They seem to want show pieces, or objects that they can brag about, including gf's. Just seems like there's too many other opportunities out there to start dating a guy who already has warning flags that he may be abusive... I don't think I'd be able to really relax and trust the guy. I'd always be looking for other things, not trusting him, wondering... and it'd probably kill the relationship anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SweetMisery Posted October 17, 2005 Author Share Posted October 17, 2005 Okay now here comes the tricky part. I dont know the indepth details of why my friend and this guy argued. It was just kind of avoided by the friend although I noticed other behavior between the two guys when I was hanging out over at their apt last year. One being is that they would play around and Eddie would chase him around the couch and stuff. It didn't seem like the average guys messing around. My friend David actually is a little on the feminine side but he says he likes girls but its just in the way that he carries himself that I sometimes wonder. However, no matter what his preference I would still be his friend. It just came off wierd to me. Secondly, since Eddie's sent a reply what's the best way to handle the situation? I am not really interested given the factors that I am aware of. So do I reply back to him politely and kind of express I am not interested or do I just ignore the email or do I wait a few days and have a polite response? Link to post Share on other sites
allaboutchoices Posted October 17, 2005 Share Posted October 17, 2005 It seems to me that Eddie lives in All About Eddie Material Lonely World. He doesn't sound like a keeper to me. Why does he state that he is single? You should know if you want to get to know this guy, but it does sound a bit desperate to me. If he replies, hm, maybe wait few days and see? If he writes you back and is being pushy, then he is probably desperate. Like some other poster said, go with your guts. Link to post Share on other sites
kitkat826 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 I'm sure its not tho because the one I knew went to jail in January. Interesting, because the one I know spent 5 and a half years there... Ditto what allaboutchoices said. Link to post Share on other sites
browneyes22 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 I don't like how he got your number. And I don't like how he was asking about your love life in the 1st email after one year of not seeing you. And, from the sound of it, not even knowing you whatsoever. Those things are creepy to me. Every guy has sent this letter to a girl. But usually it is after some rapport is established after seeing them on a regular basis. I've had phone numbers of girls I liked on my cell phone for other reasons. But I still didn't use it to ask them out 'cause I thought it was a little creepy. Whenever I can I do this in person. If this guy said in his email how beautiful he thought you were I think you would't worry as much. Plus, he invited you to his place behind Arby's??? I would avoid this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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