mrB2006 Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 I have my old problem resolved. You know, my female friend. She told me that she loves me as a friend, period. I am fine with that. I have gotten a great female perspective on things. However, something else is on my mind. I remember when I was on the trip with my friend. She asked me if I had any regrets. I had only two. (And I am only 26 1/2). One was that I didn't ask this one girl to the prom our senior year. I asked another girl. And that girl had no interest in me. In fact she ditched me at the prom itself. The girl that I had wanted to ask was as shy as I was. I remember her as being very intelligent and descent looking. I had several classes with her. We seemed to have gotten along well. Fast forward about three years after hs graduation. I met up with her at Barnes and Noble. She worked there. We talked for about twenty minutes before her boss came over and told her to get back to work. Stupid me I didn't get her phone number. She dropped out of my mind for another year. Well she eventually crept back into my mind. I think about her at least two or three times a month. I think to myself what we would have been like if we were together. Cut to the chase: My friend told me that I should try to find her. I have been doing that. I think I found her phone number. She lives in my town. Now, should I give her a call? Would it be too creepy? And if I do decide to call her, what should I say? I don't even know if she is married. And I feel like I would be a psycho if I paid for the information over the internet. How should I approach this? mrB2006
allaboutchoices Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 From girl's perspective: Call her. What do you have to loose? Be honest with her, tell her you were thinking about her and were wondering what and how she's been doing. Tell her that you would like to ask her out if she is single. If she is not single, she will tell you and you will be OK. Mature girls won't laugh at you. If nothing else I guarantee it will make her day. Good luck! Keep us posted!
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 I think it's sweet. Go for it. There's nothing worse than wondering, "What could have been?"
JS17 Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Half of me wants to say it's really sweet and romantic and the other half of me wants to say it's creepy. I just told the half of me that says it's creepy to buzz of cause what the heck do you even care if you come off as creepy? If it works then hey, you got yourself something good. If it doesn't, then you never have to wonder again. I say win win
kitkat826 Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Is there anyway you can find out where she works or where she hangs out, and then just show up and have it be a "chance" meeting? That's probably what I would do for fear of seeming creepy.
Author mrB2006 Posted October 17, 2005 Author Posted October 17, 2005 Well, as soon as I posted, I did some more research. I found out that the girl I wanted to talk with is married with kids. I found this out through my local paper's website. I should just kick myself now for not getting her number. I certainly won't call her now. I'll just make a fool of myself. Not to worry. mrB2006
Hot Coco Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Yeah, believe me...you don't want to end up on the OM/OW board!
JS17 Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 well mrB2006, it's probably best if you don't call her since she's married. It's one heck of a lesson in taking chances when they present themselves though. IMO, if I can interject some psychomumbojumbo, I think you're projecting your idea of your perfect woman onto this one particular woman. I think you have used her physical being, her picture, to be the shell of some fantasy you have of who she is and that fantasy is your idea of the perfect woman. It's not really her.
Author mrB2006 Posted October 17, 2005 Author Posted October 17, 2005 js17, you may be right. But I now know that I should jump on opportunities. I have a tendency to be shy and unwilling to take chances due to rejection. But I am slowly coming around. Life is too short to dwell on regrets. Since my ordeal with my friend (read "lost my marbles"..) I have learned a lot about women. My friend has taught me to take advantage of opportunites headed in my direction. I think that I am coming out of my shell. (it's like ten years overdue). (I am kind of glad that my friendship didn't develop into something more, I really do value her advice and kindness). mrB2006
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