onegoalstl Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 (edited) Pretty much self explanatory. It seems ever since last April OLD has totally changed. I mean, in my region OLD in Southwest FL totally sucks, but after the lockdowns of April last year it totally tanked and I know on the Don Suave forums they're saying the same. A lot less quality women on the sites such as match, Tinder, bumble, Facebook dating, etc. A lot less. I'd say 95 percent not even attracted to. However, it seems their behaviors have changed too. Like before last April I'd say I'd have a reply rate of about 15-20 percent on all the platforms I used combined which is quite above the average of 3 percent for strong profiles. I'd say at least half the time I'd get numbers after a few messages if I asked. Now it's like a reply and match rate of like 2 percent and even harder to get numbers when asking and more ghosting. Facebook dating suddely I can't match with anyone to save my life and I always got matches a lot easier on there from HB7s and such. Right now OLD wants to make me just smash my phone lol. Edited March 30, 2021 by onegoalstl
Angelle Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 We're in a pandemic. Maybe they don't want to meet up with anyone at all, right now. 1
Author onegoalstl Posted March 30, 2021 Author Posted March 30, 2021 1 minute ago, NuevoYorko said: what is HB7? I'm almost afraid to ask. 7 on the hot scale
Angelle Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 8 minutes ago, onegoalstl said: 7 on the hot scale Are you saying anything that might have them realizing that you're into PUA stuff? I was put off by that in the past, and still am. 3
Author onegoalstl Posted March 30, 2021 Author Posted March 30, 2021 3 minutes ago, Angelle said: Are you saying anything that might have them realizing that you're into PUA stuff? I was put off by that in the past, and still am. No lol.
Mrin Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 (edited) When I was in OLD during the pandemic in saw no drop in replies. Honestly there was an uptick in reply rate. But the number of women using the platforms definitely went down. Edited March 30, 2021 by Mrin
Author onegoalstl Posted March 30, 2021 Author Posted March 30, 2021 8 minutes ago, Mrin said: When I was in OLD during the pandemic in saw no drop in replies. Honestly there was an uptick in reply rate. But the number of women using the platforms definitely went down. Around Aug and Sept there was a spike in replies. Then around Jan totally tanked and a lot less on there. You would think with the vaccine out now there would be more on there.
Mrin Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 1 minute ago, onegoalstl said: Around Aug and Sept there was a spike in replies. Then around Jan totally tanked and a lot less on there. You would think with the vaccine out now there would be more on there. Possibly but I'm not sure what it's like for you are but in my area it's still 50 and above who qualify for vaccines 1
Author onegoalstl Posted March 30, 2021 Author Posted March 30, 2021 16 minutes ago, Mrin said: Possibly but I'm not sure what it's like for you are but in my area it's still 50 and above who qualify for vaccines Next week everyone in FL 16 and over can get it. I got mine cause of my part time job had extras. The age thing varies but the retailers who are giving the vaccine out are not as strict on the age thing. I'm 37 and was able to get it in FL when 65 and over allowed. If they have extras they tend to give them out so they don't go to waste.
Wiseman2 Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 6 hours ago, onegoalstl said: 7 on the hot scale When you read the pickup artist material your success rates go down because women peg you as a jerk. Delete all your dating profiles. Women see the same tired profile over and over that makes you a hard left swipe. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting women without the pickup artist lingo. 3 2
Fletch Lives Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 Yes, online dating slowed down the first four months of the pandemic.
Wiseman2 Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 9 hours ago, onegoalstl said: 7 on the hot scale
Ami1uwant Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 Dating in Covid..I’ve given up with OLD for right now.
Gaeta Posted March 30, 2021 Posted March 30, 2021 As per Elite study the best month to start online is October, more people are looking for a companion to keep warm. In my city I hear it has not slowed down at all even if we're in a red zone. New local dating app are popping up left and right.
Author onegoalstl Posted March 30, 2021 Author Posted March 30, 2021 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: As per Elite study the best month to start online is October, more people are looking for a companion to keep warm. In my city I hear it has not slowed down at all even if we're in a red zone. New local dating app are popping up left and right. I live in Southwest FL so weather isn't an issue. SWFL is the oldest median age in the state so there isn't tons of young people. It seems I did better in summer because the teachers are bored and out of school. Always more teachers on OLD in the summer. However, they seem to be nutty the ones I met from OLD and went on dates with.
norealusername Posted March 31, 2021 Posted March 31, 2021 My reply rate before the pandemic was 2% , so you're not doing too bad.
Author onegoalstl Posted March 31, 2021 Author Posted March 31, 2021 1 hour ago, norealusername said: My reply rate before the pandemic was 2% , so you're not doing too bad. Lately it has been tanking though.
spiderowl Posted March 31, 2021 Posted March 31, 2021 (edited) I don't know about your area but I think that in general dating is a problem at the moment. Covid is the big problem. When exchanging messages with someone, there is always that thing at the back of your mind 'Is there any point doing this because they are likely to be too far away to meet up anyway'. Where I live, until recently, people could not travel far so any long-distance meeting was out of the question. A guy I chatted to, who seemed nice initially, said he could come and meet me because he was allowed to travel because of his work (in care homes!). I thought, hell, no! Just because your work allows you to travel, does not mean you can abuse it. I felt he should have been more responsible. Even now, people can only meet outdoors - what kind of dating prospect is that? It all seems a bit pointless until things have become safer. I guess most of the people I have chatted to have been thinking in terms of making a new contact rather than meeting very soon. It is someone to chat to for a while and then, once safe, possibly meet. Any who suggest meeting quickly and appear to be ignoring the Covid rules would be written off by me as irresponsible. You might have more luck if you come across as a responsible guy who wants to make a lovely new contact but not rush to meet due to Covid. These are strange times. It is difficult to build and maintain a relationship during lockdown. Maybe women are finding it too much to cope with at the moment? Of course, depending on where you are based, there will be people whose families have been severely affected by Covid and some bereaved. Women in families who are affected are much less likely to be dating, simply because it is hard to be enthusiastic about anything when you are overwhelmed by sadness and the people around you are hurting too. Edited March 31, 2021 by spiderowl 1
Angelle Posted March 31, 2021 Posted March 31, 2021 58 minutes ago, onegoalstl said: Lately it has been tanking though. Maybe a lot of women have decided that they want to meet someone for a serious relationship, instead of dating around. This pandemic has affected people in different ways. 1
Angelle Posted March 31, 2021 Posted March 31, 2021 27 minutes ago, spiderowl said: I don't know about your area but I think that in general dating is a problem at the moment. Covid is the big problem. When exchanging messages with someone, there is always that thing at the back of your mind 'Is there any point doing this because they are likely to be too far away to meet up anyway'. Where I live, until recently, people could not travel far so any long-distance meeting was out of the question. A guy I chatted to, who seemed nice initially, said he could come and meet me because he was allowed to travel because of his work (in care homes!). I thought, hell, no! Just because your work allows you to travel, does not mean you can abuse it. I felt he should have been more responsible. Even now, people can only meet outdoors - what kind of dating prospect is that? It all seems a bit pointless until things have become safer. I guess most of the people I have chatted to have been thinking in terms of making a new contact rather than meeting very soon. It is someone to chat to for a while and then, once safe, possibly meet. Any who suggest meeting quickly and appear to be ignoring the Covid rules would be written off by me as irresponsible. You might have more luck if you come across as a responsible guy who wants to make a lovely new contact but not rush to meet due to Covid. These are strange times. It is difficult to build and maintain a relationship during lockdown. Maybe women are finding it too much to cope with at the moment? Of course, depending on where you are based, there will be people whose families have been severely affected by Covid and some bereaved. Women in families who are affected are much less likely to be dating, simply because it is hard to be enthusiastic about anything when you are overwhelmed by sadness and the people around you are hurting too. Yes, this too.
Wiseman2 Posted March 31, 2021 Posted March 31, 2021 2 hours ago, onegoalstl said: Lately it has been tanking though. Sometimes there's just a lull. Ride with the tide and stop panicking. Meet people in real life.
prince0fgame Posted March 31, 2021 Posted March 31, 2021 I've had a drastic reduction of replies when it comes to OLD. But it's not what you think. In the past I've always been able to manifest abundance with women whenever my life was in balance. Whether it's women on OLD, the nightclubs, work, social circle, off the street, etc. Since the pandemic I haven't had anything that resembles balance. I haven't been able to g to the gym, socialize, create social connections, explore hobbies, etc. So my vibration is coming from the state and energy of lack now. And as above, so below. I attract nothing because I have no life. It's your vibe that attracts abundance. I think in order to attract serendipity in romance, people need FOUR things. 1 - A hobby that makes you money (financial freedom is a high vibrational state) 2 - A hobby that makes you fit and healthy (yet another high state of being) 3- A hobby that allows you to be creative (the inspirational state) 4- A hobby that improves your mindset (the ultimate state of being) When you are operating on all 4 cylinders, women (and men) will literally drop out of the sky. It's the serendipity equation. Covid-19 and the subsequent shutdown has lowered our vibrations. We are operating from lack and imbalance and so we attract more of that wavelength. So whatever you do, don't try to simp harder on OLD. It's not going to work. Do what inspires you. Go run a marathon. Read a good book. Join a social club. Seek to find some balance in your life that activates the four pillars of abundance.
Miss Peach Posted April 1, 2021 Posted April 1, 2021 I think this depends a lot on the person to be honest. I was going to not date for several months after my last relationship broke up. But I am getting out there. I've been meeting friends, reconnecting with people I haven't seen, doing meetups, hikes, etc. There are ways to do this relatively safely especially if you're in an area with good weather. This month not even looking to date I've managed to be asked out by multiple men. I have been on several dates. I have two really interested me at the moment. I seem to keep adding more men as it's getting through my social circle I'm single again. New men who wanted me while I was attached are also reaching out to me as they hear the news. I haven't even bothered to try OLD since my in person options have been enough I don't have the time for more right now. Just letting you know it's possible to date even during a pandemic. There have been a lot of awkward conversations about things but there are people who are willing to go out and men still seem to be asking.
Author onegoalstl Posted April 2, 2021 Author Posted April 2, 2021 2 hours ago, Miss Peach said: I think this depends a lot on the person to be honest. I was going to not date for several months after my last relationship broke up. But I am getting out there. I've been meeting friends, reconnecting with people I haven't seen, doing meetups, hikes, etc. There are ways to do this relatively safely especially if you're in an area with good weather. This month not even looking to date I've managed to be asked out by multiple men. I have been on several dates. I have two really interested me at the moment. I seem to keep adding more men as it's getting through my social circle I'm single again. New men who wanted me while I was attached are also reaching out to me as they hear the news. I haven't even bothered to try OLD since my in person options have been enough I don't have the time for more right now. Just letting you know it's possible to date even during a pandemic. There have been a lot of awkward conversations about things but there are people who are willing to go out and men still seem to be asking. Well, if that's you in the avatar I don't think you would have any need for OLD. You'd get bombarded with messages that's for sure!
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