Really bad text.

[DannyKayyy]

After texting my current gf  (we're going through a very, very rocky period) over 20 texts over the weekend without her replying . She finally replied this today:

 

"If I were you I wouldnt text coz it makes it more irritating than it already is"

 

What should I read from that?

Edited March 29, 2021 by DannyKayyy

[FMW]

21 minutes ago, DannyKayyy said:

What should I read from that?

Stop texting her, you're only making things worse.  Leave her alone, she'll get in touch with you when and if she's ready.   

[d0nnivain]

What you should read from that is that texting is the absolute worst way to communicate in the whole world. 

Communication is 90% non-verbal.  You need tone, facial expression & body position to get the full measure.  You lose all of that over text. 

She is telling you that 20 texts over the weekend are annoying her.  You are making her angry.  Leave her be.  If you must reach out, try mailing her a card using the post office.   The delay between when you send it & when she gets it may give her a chance to cool down.  You must go radio silent until she reaches out.  If she never does, this is over.  

[Highndry]

8 hours ago, DannyKayyy said:

"If I were you I wouldnt text coz it makes it more irritating than it already is"

 

What should I read from that?

What can't you read from that? Note for the future: One text is enough. Period.

[Brooke02]

How about calling her? 

[BaileyB]

9 hours ago, DannyKayyy said:

After texting my current gf  (we're going through a very, very rocky period) over 20 texts over the weekend without her replying . She finally replied this today:

 

"If I were you I wouldnt text coz it makes it more irritating than it already is"

 

What should I read from that?

The relationship is done. Or perhaps, it should be. I’m sorry. 

I say this based on the fact that you are experiencing a “very, very rocky period” and she has told you by her words and actions that she does not want to talk to you. 

Edited March 29, 2021 by BaileyB

[ShyViolet]

Your first mistake was texting her 20 times over the course of a weekend when she wasn't replying.  That's never appropriate.

You gave very little info here, but from what you said it sounds like you and her should just break up.  "A very, very rocky period" and now she is not speaking to you basically, and not replying to your texts.  Just admit that it's over.

[trident_2020]

The biggest problem is that you don't see anything wrong with texting her 20 times without getting a response.

The second biggest problem is that when she tells you that texting her 20 times is annoying and you should stop you don't understand what she's saying.

I sure hope you didn't text her to ask her to clarify it.

 

[DannyKayyy]

16 hours ago, d0nnivain said:

What you should read from that is that texting is the absolute worst way to communicate in the whole world. 

Communication is 90% non-verbal.  You need tone, facial expression & body position to get the full measure.  You lose all of that over text. 

She is telling you that 20 texts over the weekend are annoying her.  You are making her angry.  Leave her be.  If you must reach out, try mailing her a card using the post office.   The delay between when you send it & when she gets it may give her a chance to cool down.  You must go radio silent until she reaches out.  If she never does, this is over.  

 

Shes not the type to reach out. I must admit its over.

[DannyKayyy]

8 hours ago, Highndry said:

What can't you read from that? Note for the future: One text is enough. Period.

 

When you're in love, its not that simple. You get a strange urge to bombard them with texts until your fingers are numb, regardless if they reply or not.

Edited March 30, 2021 by DannyKayyy

[DannyKayyy]

16 hours ago, Brooke02 said:

How about calling her? 

 

I tried that. [] I phoned until I almost went deaf from listening to the unanswered dial tone all day.

Edited March 30, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
offensive joke

[DannyKayyy]

6 hours ago, ShyViolet said:

 

 

4 hours ago, trident_2020 said:

The biggest problem is that you don't see anything wrong with texting her 20 times without getting a response.

The second biggest problem is that when she tells you that texting her 20 times is annoying and you should stop you don't understand what she's saying.

I sure hope you didn't text her to ask her to clarify it.

 

 

I sure hope you didn't text her to ask her to clarify it...................You bet I did and got no reply.

Edited March 30, 2021 by DannyKayyy

[Dis]

You tried and of course we all do until...there's nothing we can do anymore

 

At least you can walk away from this knowing there is nothing left to do but move on without regrets 

 

(((Hugs)))

[Negotaurus]

42 minutes ago, DannyKayyy said:

 

When you're in love, its not that simple. You get a strange urge to bombard them with texts until your fingers are numb, regardless if they reply or not.

I'm confident we have all been in love and know what it's like. We have all also learned from such mistakes. You should, too. 

[Wiseman2]

20 hours ago, DannyKayyy said:

  She finally replied this today: I were you I wouldnt text coz it makes it more irritating than it already is".

Stop texting. Sounds like it's over. You're bombarding her with texts. Why?

Give her space, leave her alone before she blocks you.

 

Edited March 30, 2021 by Wiseman2

[Marc878]

You need to learn to take a hint.

[DannyKayyy]

 

Thanks guys for the advice. Yesterday, I received a surprise text from her at 6am. I was so happy seeing as since the relationship started deteriorating she had never texted first...until I read the contents of the text. 

 

Basically, I'm now single.

Edited March 30, 2021 by DannyKayyy

[Marc878]

Hopefully you learned something. If you chase they move farther away.

[d0nnivain]

5 hours ago, DannyKayyy said:

Shes not the type to reach out. I must admit its over.

Then admit defeat & move on.  It's all you can do. 

Learn from this.  Never bombard people with multiple texts unless it's life & death, literally.  When my father was dying after an accident, I texted my husband 7x even though I knew he was in a training & his phone was off.  I called about 3x & finally got so desperate that I called his boss & had him brought out of the class.  But I was in an Emergency Room & my dad's brain was bleeding.  Short of that, you reach out once, maybe twice but no more. 

 

5 hours ago, DannyKayyy said:

When you're in love, its not that simple. You get a strange urge to bombard them with texts until your fingers are numb, regardless if they reply or not.

Yes it is that simple.  It's called impulse control.  Even then I have never had the desire to bombard somebody with texts or anything else.  That is not love.  That is you being a nuisance, a pest & a stage 5 Cling-on, none of which are attractive. 

 

14 minutes ago, DannyKayyy said:

Thanks guys for the advice. Yesterday, I received a surprise text from her at 6am. I was so happy seeing as since the relationship started deteriorating she had never texted first...until I read the contents of the text. 

Basically, I'm now single.

Not a surprise.  

You really need to reign in your baser instincts.  You think you are showing excitement & enthusiasm for the relationship.  You are not.  You are making yourself highly unattractive by being a giant p.i.t.a.  Learn more self control.  

[trident_2020]

You've been single.

It took a 2x4 from her to knock the sense into you.

It's really concerning how much you contacted her after she stopped responding.

Please just leave her alone, don't text, call, drive by her house, ask her friends about her.. etc.

Just stop, give the woman the courtesy of leaving her alone

[DannyKayyy]

3 minutes ago, trident_2020 said:

You've been single.

It took a 2x4 from her to knock the sense into you.

It's really concerning how much you contacted her after she stopped responding.

Please just leave her alone, don't text, call, drive by her house, ask her friends about her.. etc.

Just stop, give the woman the courtesy of leaving her alone

Thank you. This is the worst moment of my life. I came in to work and went to a backroom desk and slept until an hour ago. I dont even feel like opening my eyes, turning my head, walking...all the basic human things.

 

Damn this hurts but I'll have to do what you've advised me to.

[d0nnivain]

Just now, DannyKayyy said:

Thank you. This is the worst moment of my life. I came in to work and went to a backroom desk and slept until an hour ago. I dont even feel like opening my eyes, turning my head, walking...all the basic human things.

We know it hurts but don't lose your job over this too. One foot in front of the other until you can go home & grieve.  

[DannyKayyy]

9 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Then admit defeat & move on.  It's all you can do. 

Learn from this.  Never bombard people with multiple texts unless it's life & death, literally.  When my father was dying after an accident, I texted my husband 7x even though I knew he was in a training & his phone was off.  I called about 3x & finally got so desperate that I called his boss & had him brought out of the class.  But I was in an Emergency Room & my dad's brain was bleeding.  Short of that, you reach out once, maybe twice but no more. 

 

Yes it is that simple.  It's called impulse control.  Even then I have never had the desire to bombard somebody with texts or anything else.  That is not love.  That is you being a nuisance, a pest & a stage 5 Cling-on, none of which are attractive. 

 

Not a surprise.  

You really need to reign in your baser instincts.  You think you are showing excitement & enthusiasm for the relationship.  You are not.  You are making yourself highly unattractive by being a giant p.i.t.a.  Learn more self control.  

 

To be honest, even if I knew that I was being a pain, at that moment I just didnt care. I was only interested in getting my message across. Now I know it's done more harm than good.

 

Having said that, I've already sent 6 texts today...and she's replied to the grand total of.....NONE. 

[d0nnivain]

1 minute ago, DannyKayyy said:

Having said that, I've already sent 6 texts today...and she's replied to the grand total of.....NONE. 

Dude you are going to end up on the wrong end of a restraining order.  You better start caring & you need to leave her alone.  You are bordering on a criminal harassment charge.  You think today was the worst day of your life because somebody broke your heart ? No the worse day of your life will be when those jail cell doors close behind you after you get convicted of stalking or harassment.   Delete her # out of your phone.  Disconnect on all social media platforms & LEAVE THIS WOMAN ALONE!!!!!!!!  

[DannyKayyy]

1 minute ago, d0nnivain said:

We know it hurts but don't lose your job over this too. One foot in front of the other until you can go home & grieve.  

I'm seriously thinking of handing in my resignation. She was all I ever worked for. She's gone away with my daughter. I honestly dont feel like I have anything to work for. I know its rush but then again nothing makes sense anymore.