Author IntBrowser Posted April 1, 2021 Author Posted April 1, 2021 1 minute ago, poppyfields said: It's your entire vibe man, sorry it just comes off entitled. And since you struggle getting dates (from what I've read), I'd have a think about that. A man's energy/vibe is everything, it even trumps looks imo. Im not going to lie I have been feeling kind of down but she was willing to look past something unusual about me for my age and I blew it. And not only that it was on Bumble, a dating app I only get a match on 3 times a year lol So I am kind of annoyed with myself right now
poppyfields Posted April 1, 2021 Posted April 1, 2021 (edited) 9 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: Im not going to lie I have been feeling kind of down but she was willing to look past something unusual about me for my age and I blew it. And not only that it was on Bumble, a dating app I only get a match on 3 times a year lol So I am kind of annoyed with myself right now I am not sure you blew it necessarily, OLDing can be brutal for everyone. And even if you did blow it this time, looking back I have made mistakes too, some doozies! Almost cringeworthy when I look back. We all have, it's nothing to feel ashamed about, you simply pick yourself up and carry on. Don't beat yourself up too bad, okay? Life is for experiencing and learning, it's a process, a journey. Hang in. Edited April 1, 2021 by poppyfields
Author IntBrowser Posted April 1, 2021 Author Posted April 1, 2021 8 minutes ago, poppyfields said: I am not sure you blew it necessarily, OLDing can be brutal for everyone. And even if you did blow it this time, looking back I have made mistakes too, some doozies! Almost cringeworthy when I look back. We all have, it's nothing to feel ashamed about, you simply pick yourself up and carry on. Don't beat yourself up too bad, okay? Life is for experiencing and learning, it's a process, a journey. Hang in. And then the ones who reply on tinder only seem to be able to talk between 9 and 5 and once I get off work so we can really chat they are no where to be found. I wake up and grab my phone and see that I have a match and then they talk while I am on the clock. Now, Im off the clock and have all the time in the world to chat and no texts, no matches.
poppyfields Posted April 2, 2021 Posted April 2, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, IntBrowser said: And then the ones who reply on tinder only seem to be able to talk between 9 and 5 and once I get off work so we can really chat they are no where to be found. I wake up and grab my phone and see that I have a match and then they talk while I am on the clock. Now, Im off the clock and have all the time in the world to chat and no texts, no matches. Yeah I could see how that would suck Int. Not sure if this will help, but I read a post a couple of days ago from a poster (male) about appreciating a woman's "essence," how important that is and also how important a man's vibe/energy is. Even before a meet, you should do this, appreciate her, as a woman, one you'd like to get to know. If that means being a little more accommodating than you typically would be, that's okay.. She will notice I promise you! Don't act entitled and don't play games. The post was on a thread re OLDing and how men are just not getting matched or messaged that much anymore since the pandemic. I thought it quite insightful. It might be worth checking out. So if it's any consolation, you're not alone, everyone struggles and as a woman, I (we) also struggle in a different way. Edited April 2, 2021 by poppyfields
Author IntBrowser Posted April 2, 2021 Author Posted April 2, 2021 10 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Yeah I could see how that would suck Int. Not sure if this will help, but I read a post a couple of days ago from a poster (male) about appreciating a woman's "essence," how important that is and also how important a man's vibe/energy is. Even before a meet, you should do this, appreciate her, as a woman, one you'd like to get to know. If that means being a little more accommodating than you typically would be, that's okay.. She will notice I promise you! Don't act entitled and don't play games. The post was on a thread re OLDing and how men are just not getting matched or messaged that much anymore since the pandemic. I thought it quite insightful. It might be worth checking out. So if it's any consolation, you're not alone, everyone struggles and as a woman, I (we) also struggle in a different way. the confusing part is they message me first. So when I try to take it offline it takes forever
prince0fgame Posted April 2, 2021 Posted April 2, 2021 (edited) If she is an attractive female then she probably lives in abundance and simply went down the list and another guy was willing to meet her at 11 am. The first meet is impersonal and she is just taking job applications and doing interviews. If Google offered you a job interview at 11 am and they had 1,000 applicants, they are not going to bend over for you. Unfortunately that's how dating is in the sexual market place in 2021 with OLD and all the apps that cater to women. I know several attractive women who go on 3-5 dates a week, 100+ dates a year. Their level of abundance is unfathomable to the average guy who swipes right on everything with a pulse on tinder. However, women don't have all the power. The bad thing that comes from having too many options is the feeling like you have no options at all. One guy is too this. Another guy is too that. No guy ever seems to be the right fit. A year later she is still on the same app going on first dates. This is why dating doesn't work. Dating is flawed. It's a made up concept created by women and dating companies. It was not created by nature. Nature created people to be tribal creatures. Most people meet each other in social environments where they share similar interests, aka social circles/work/hobbies/gym/clubs, etc. In these environments, sexual tension naturally takes place. You don't have to do anything out of the ordinary to create sexual tension. Nature did that for you by creating testosterone and estrogen and other sex hormones. When you meet a woman in a shared social environment, her hormones will drive her to meet up with you in private. Her chemistry would have already intertwined with your chemistry through osmosis in real life. How is her hormones going to drive her to meet up with you through online dating? Perhaps you can call her and drive up her buying temperature with really good phone game. But that's a lot of work for someone you haven't met yet. I always prefer real life social gatherings. Serendipity always seem to happen in these environments. All you have to do is go to places where women see you more than once and if you are an attractive enough guy, some woman is going to pick up on your scent/hormones/vibe/wavelength. And you won't have to deal with all of these hoops that the "dating" crowd have to go through. So don't date. Just have a fun and abundant social life that has women in it based on your hobbies and passions. The rest will take care of itself. Just like the way nature intended to. If nature didn't know what it was doing, there wouldn't be 7 billion people in this world. Nature is perfect. It is the human ego that complicates things. Edited April 2, 2021 by prince0fgame 3
dramafreezone Posted April 2, 2021 Posted April 2, 2021 (edited) 5 hours ago, IntBrowser said: And then the ones who reply on tinder only seem to be able to talk between 9 and 5 and once I get off work so we can really chat they are no where to be found. I wake up and grab my phone and see that I have a match and then they talk while I am on the clock. Now, Im off the clock and have all the time in the world to chat and no texts, no matches. Start filling your time up with other things, your hobbies (not watching Youtube videos), your studies, trade school, something that actually helps to build you into a better man. You'll find that the more purpose you put into your life, the less time you have to worry about OLD matches. It's the law of attraction, you build an attractive life, good women are going to want to be near it. Doesn't mean they're going to walk up to your house and say give it to me big boy, but you'll be a more attractive guy with a full life. That's all you can do, make yourself into the best version of yourself. Edited April 2, 2021 by dramafreezone 1
poppyfields Posted April 2, 2021 Posted April 2, 2021 (edited) Int, good stuff from princeofgame and dramafree. I've never liked OLDing for those reasons, it's contrived, forced, not natural. I did meet my recent ex that way and know other couples who have, but I don't think I will go that route again. Prefer the natural way where I can get a sort of "feel" for a man in person over time and experience that natural 'sexual tension' (and vice versa), it's pretty powerful and exciting when it happens. I was actually going to suggest getting off OLDing and meeting women naturally in real life, but don't know where you live and what the lockdown situation is. But yeah, what they both said is very true and super good advice. Good luck! Edited April 2, 2021 by poppyfields
Wiseman2 Posted April 2, 2021 Posted April 2, 2021 On 3/30/2021 at 11:29 PM, IntBrowser said: So in the future I will just lie and say I have to do something in the morning if someone ever wants to meet at 11am on a saturday. In the future simply agree on a mutually convenient time. If you can't get past the arranging a meeting thing, just move on. 1
Author IntBrowser Posted April 2, 2021 Author Posted April 2, 2021 15 hours ago, poppyfields said: Int, good stuff from princeofgame and dramafree. I've never liked OLDing for those reasons, it's contrived, forced, not natural. I did meet my recent ex that way and know other couples who have, but I don't think I will go that route again. Prefer the natural way where I can get a sort of "feel" for a man in person over time and experience that natural 'sexual tension' (and vice versa), it's pretty powerful and exciting when it happens. I was actually going to suggest getting off OLDing and meeting women naturally in real life, but don't know where you live and what the lockdown situation is. But yeah, what they both said is very true and super good advice. Good luck! Not an option for me, i am too shy to approach strangers in public. I'm still shy even when I meet someone from the dating app because I still have to approach her in public but the only difference is I have a reason to because we already talked. I dont go to clubs or bars so It would be no way for me to meet someone in public. I dont know what I would have done if I came along in the 60's and 70's
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