IntBrowser Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 earlier in the week I sent her a text saying......"Weather looks real good for saturday" Then she responded and I dont know how we starting discuss the details over text. Then when she said lets meet at 11am my response was "I dont go to sleep until 4am and dont wake up until 12pm so lets make it for 2pm? Then had a issue with that and then I even tried to bend a little and was willing to set my alarm for 945am. Then I text her yesterday and said hope your day is going well and I will call you later to discuss tomorrow. She said........"I made plans to do something with my friend so it will have to be later" I called last night at 11pm to confirm what time and she never answered the phone and never text me today so her number has been deleted and she has been blocked Reminder for the future to myself........."never discuss anything regarding meeting over text just wait until we talk on the phone" I think the 11am discussion would have been better over the phone
dramafreezone Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 (edited) If you're the guy (and maybe I just old fashioned) the onus is on you to hammer out the plans, definite plans well ahead of time. You should not be still ironing out details the night before. You offer a time, say a week ahead of time. If she can't give you a definite yes at that time you withdraw the offer, you say "if your plans are uncertain get in touch with me when your schedule opens up." She made other plans, she wasn't ever that interested in going out with you. Women that want to see you don't throw up a bunch of obstacles, they move stuff around to see you. Edited March 28, 2021 by dramafreezone 5 1
jspice Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 Your schedules don’t match up. There’s nothing “weird” here. I get up at 4:30-5:00 depending on my schedule. 11:00 is a reasonable time to do something on a weekend. If someone I don’t know tries to call me at 11pm I’m not taking that call. No need to be so dramatic about it. 2
jspice Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 43 minutes ago, norealusername said: You did the best thing blocking her. Why?
dramafreezone Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 33 minutes ago, jspice said: Your schedules don’t match up. There’s nothing “weird” here. I get up at 4:30-5:00 depending on my schedule. 11:00 is a reasonable time to do something on a weekend. If someone I don’t know tries to call me at 11pm I’m not taking that call. No need to be so dramatic about it. Doesn't have to do with schedules. She didn't want to go out with him. 1
norealusername Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 41 minutes ago, jspice said: Why? She wasn't interested enough. She's a waste of time so he did the best thing by not wasting more time on her.
jspice Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 4 minutes ago, norealusername said: She wasn't interested enough. She's a waste of time so he did the best thing by not wasting more time on her. So if she’s not interested why does he need to block her and then announce it? just move on.
Watercolors Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 She gaslighted you by refusing to communicate and then telling you she was already busy with plans she made. Block and delete her. The point of dating is not to try to make each person you meet like you. The point of dating is to find someone who likes you without you forcing it. Even where schedules are concerned. 1
norealusername Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 7 minutes ago, jspice said: So if she’s not interested why does he need to block her and then announce it? just move on. Maybe it made him feel better, can't blame him.
Author IntBrowser Posted March 28, 2021 Author Posted March 28, 2021 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: Do you go to bed at 4 am because of work? On fridays, I know I dont have to get up the next day so I am up watching videos or listening to music or doing whatever and wake up at 11am at the earliest and 1pm at the lastest
Author IntBrowser Posted March 28, 2021 Author Posted March 28, 2021 3 hours ago, dramafreezone said: If you're the guy (and maybe I just old fashioned) the onus is on you to hammer out the plans, definite plans well ahead of time. You should not be still ironing out details the night before. You offer a time, say a week ahead of time. If she can't give you a definite yes at that time you withdraw the offer, you say "if your plans are uncertain get in touch with me when your schedule opens up." She made other plans, she wasn't ever that interested in going out with you. Women that want to see you don't throw up a bunch of obstacles, they move stuff around to see you. I dont think I have never met anyone that early on 1st meet. That was such a odd time to be meeting
Author IntBrowser Posted March 28, 2021 Author Posted March 28, 2021 1 hour ago, norealusername said: She wasn't interested enough. She's a waste of time so he did the best thing by not wasting more time on her. I did too much explaining why over texting and should have just waited to call. The first 3 saturdays of April I have to get up at 7am and was looking forward to sleeping this saturday and she had a hard time understanding that
basil67 Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 1 hour ago, IntBrowser said: I did too much explaining why over texting and should have just waited to call. The first 3 saturdays of April I have to get up at 7am and was looking forward to sleeping this saturday and she had a hard time understanding that You could have gone to bed at 11:30pm so that you could easily wake and be bright and chipper for an 11am lunch date. But you chose not to. She now knows where your priorities lie and has made her choice accordingly. 7
Author IntBrowser Posted March 28, 2021 Author Posted March 28, 2021 21 minutes ago, basil67 said: You could have gone to bed at 11:30pm so that you could easily wake and be bright and chipper for an 11am lunch date. But you chose not to. She now knows where your priorities lie and has made her choice accordingly. she said me being a night owl gave her a red flag??? lol
basil67 Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 5 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: she said me being a night owl gave her a red flag??? lol She said that?
Author IntBrowser Posted March 28, 2021 Author Posted March 28, 2021 1 minute ago, basil67 said: She said that? yes that it was unusual that I go to sleep at 4am/5am on the weekends
basil67 Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 5 minutes ago, S2B said: It’s possible she thinks you may be doing grubs if you are staying up all night... opting for that instead of waking up at a reasonable time to meet for a date (first date especially). You opted - stated that was your priority - and she saw that your priority was different than hers. And she's likely got a few guys interested in her, so the ones who are delighted to have an 11am brunch with her (something she obviously enjoys) will win at this point.
Author IntBrowser Posted March 28, 2021 Author Posted March 28, 2021 6 minutes ago, S2B said: It’s possible she thinks you may be doing grubs if you are staying up all night... opting for that instead of waking up at a reasonable time to meet for a date (first date especially). You opted - stated that was your priority - and she saw that your priority was different than hers. that’s just my read on it. but any guys who is showing that he isn’t making sacrifices to be sure the first date goes smoothly - it’s probably not a good fit. She got the clear message you prioritized staying up all night over seeing her. well I was already coming out to her area so she didnt have to travel that far and then go to bed earlier on top of that?
basil67 Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 Just now, IntBrowser said: well I was already coming out to her area so she didnt have to travel that far and then go to bed earlier on top of that? This counts for nothing. If the distance is going to be an inconvenience for you, choose women who are closer to you. 5
Author IntBrowser Posted March 28, 2021 Author Posted March 28, 2021 3 minutes ago, basil67 said: This counts for nothing. If the distance is going to be an inconvenience for you, choose women who are closer to you. It wasnt a inconvenience I was just doing that so she wouldnt have to go far the 1st time. I just cant figure out what was the big deal about moving it to 1pm especially since we both were off and had a clear day
basil67 Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 (edited) Just as she can't figure out what the big deal is with going to bed on time to make an 11am brunch. Edited March 28, 2021 by basil67 5
d0nnivain Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 Neither of you was into the other enough to bend to make the meeting happen. You would rather stay up until 4 a.m. playing video games then go to sleep earlier so you could wake up & meet this new person at 11 a.m. She prioritized friends over meeting you. When trying to work out the time for a new date when you are already having scheduling struggles you don't throw yet another obstacle -- meeting friends -- into the mix to further contract the time you have available to meet. In conclusion neither of you care enough to make an effort. Just be done. Why waste more time when obviously you are not a priority to each other? 3
poppyfields Posted March 28, 2021 Posted March 28, 2021 10 hours ago, IntBrowser said: On fridays, I know I dont have to get up the next day so I am up watching videos or listening to music or doing whatever and wake up at 11am at the earliest and 1pm at the lastest So in her mind, you'd rather watch videos and listen to music until 4:00 am, then go to bed at a reasonable hour to take her out the next day. >>Then when she said lets meet at 11am my response was "I dont go to sleep until 4am and dont wake up until 12pm so lets make it for 2pm? This^^ sounds rigid, inflexible, and if me reflects a lack of interest. Not sure what you were thinking assuming she or any woman would be okay with this non-chalant, lackadaisical attitude. When "courting" a woman, an interested man would have gone to bed early enough to take a woman out the next day at a time convenient to her. Not expect her to accommodate your wacky schedule cause you'd rather play video games to all hours of the morning. Lord. If it was because of your job, that's different, if me I would have accommodated. But to play video games? What were you thinking telling her that? She's not a frat buddy for goodness sakes, I am assuming this is a woman you are interested in romantically? 2
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