From past experience, can yall give me example of what happened during the date and after the date when it went well?

[IntBrowser]

Have another date coming up and have a new game plan but just wanted yall to share the experiences you had when it was mutual interest.   it doesnt happen that often for me and I tend to forget.  I do remember one successful date when she asked me after dinner....."what else do you want to do?          So like did yall talk the same night after it was over?   How many days after the 1st date did yall talk again or see each other again?     Just want to have some kind of idea in my head of how things will go if she is enjoying herself.      I was always basing her interest on if we text each other the same night once we arrived home which is false.

[d0nnivain]

CW says that in modern times the person who was treated on the date (stereotypically the woman) should reach out by at least the next day to say thank you (again) as a clear signal to the person who paid that they are open to another date. 

To me a sign of a good early date was a great goodnight kiss.  By the 3rd date it was always just sort of organic with much need for analysis because it flowed easily & we clicked.  If there was too much stress, I rarely let it go past the 2nd date.  

[Gaeta]

I have always sent a thank you text after the date. Usually if the guy is interested he'll reply with the question if I'd be interested in doing it again, to which I'd respond yes I would. Then the 2nd date is usually set for the weekend coming up. 

[smackie9]

Goodnight kiss, and said yes to another date.

[Miss Spider]

The only sure-fire sign is if she keeps dating you. 
 

Because there is no template. First dates go all different kinds of ways. And there all different kinds of women. There are some women who intentionally leave early on a first date, even if they like the person. 
 

I would assume you can just kind of feel it, though. You get this sense from the other person that there’s high interest. But I guess a lot of people are attuned to that

Edited March 26, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[Miss Spider]

Might I suggest something further to you, int. I think you shouldn’t analyze this too much. I think that at least one of your main pitfalls.  Don’t analyze on the date for signs you are doing something right or wrong. Experiment on your next few days and try to do as a little analysis or expectation as you can. Just be present in the moment and making it a fun and interesting date, not whether or not you’re “doing things right” or the outcome. 

Edited March 26, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[Fletch Lives]

The best indicators of interest on a first date are a kiss, compliments, touching, and staring at you (can't keep her eyes off of you!). Texting is better than nothing, but not much of an indicator. (but you don't have to kiss on the first date - it's just a good indicator when it does happen.)

 

The best indicator after a date is successfully setting another date (right away is not necessary - within a week is better).

 

The key is actions - actions are the biggest indicators, by far - so kiss and setting dates are huge. Talk is cheap, actions scream.

 

However, it's never a relationship and a done deal until the person falls in love with you - and that can take 7 to 8 weeks of dating a person. (I suggest shooting for one date a week. If the other person wants to go faster and they initiate it, great.) Until then, count on nothing - hope for the best but be prepared for the worst until that time.

Edited March 26, 2021 by Fletch Lives

[Fletch Lives]

4 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said:

duplicate

 

Edited March 26, 2021 by Fletch Lives

[Weezy1973]

57 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

The only sure-fire sign is if she keeps dating you. 
 

This. Everybody’s different. I’d also add that you can’t really control how she feels so worrying about it is kind of pointless. 
 

How do you know when it’s a good date for you and you’d like to see her again? 

[Fletch Lives]

1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said:

The only sure-fire sign is if she keeps dating you. 

Well, that and kissing, I would say. A woman can date a guy with no interest. But kissing is a whole different story, it's huge.

Kissing is the gateway to affection and sex.

Did you know? - many prostitutes won't kiss.

Put a grade on the kiss - how good was it on a scale of one to ten? No pressure, lol

If you are not kissing, you are just wishing!

[Miss Spider]

5 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said:

Well, that and kissing, I would say. A woman can date a guy with no interest. But kissing is a whole different story, it's huge.

Kissing is the gateway to affection and sex.

Did you know? - many prostitutes won't kiss.

Put a grade on the kiss - how good was it on a scale of one to ten? No pressure, lol

If you are not kissing, you are just wishing!

I kissed a guy on a first date when I wasn’t that into him and didn’t want to see him again. 
Hey , he was kind of hot and I wanted to get a little lip-smacking in before I continued down my road of involuntary celibacy 

Edited March 26, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[Fletch Lives]

8 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

I kissed a guy on a first date when I wasn’t that into him and didn’t want to see him again. 
Hey , he was kind of hot and I wanted to get a little lip-smacking in before I continued down my road of involuntary celibacy 

Right, these are indicators, not guarantees.

As I wrote in my first post, you don't have a solid relationship for 7 to 8 weeks. Until they fall in love, you don't have a hook to keep them with you.

Edited March 26, 2021 by Fletch Lives

[Miss Spider]

14 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said:

Right, these are indicators, not guarantees.

As I wrote in my first post, you don't have a solid relationship for 7 to 8 weeks. Until they fall in love, you don't have a hook to keep them with you.

Agree 

[central]

Half the time, there was no kiss on the first date for me, but at least a hug.  I think you can usually tell if things went well, but maybe that feeling is one-sided.  The key is whether a second date gets planned soon afterwards.  A second date, if it goes well, almost always ends in a kiss -  if not, then something isn't right.  Sometimes a second date also involves sex (if she initiates), but iff there isn't sex by the third or fourth date, it is almost certain nothing further is worth pursuing.

As someone said, if they want to extend the date beyond the original parameters (e.g., go for a walk after a coffee date), that's a very good sign.

[cleverusername]

First meeting- regular hug

After first date- low waist hug, maybe a little lower back rubbing

Second meeting- low waist hug again

Second goodbye- kiss

Usually that gives me a pretty good indicator depending on how she reacts

[IntBrowser]

14 hours ago, Gaeta said:

I have always sent a thank you text after the date. Usually if the guy is interested he'll reply with the question if I'd be interested in doing it again, to which I'd respond yes I would. Then the 2nd date is usually set for the weekend coming up. 

Question like......"Are you free this week?

[IntBrowser]

10 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

The only sure-fire sign is if she keeps dating you. 
 

Because there is no template. First dates go all different kinds of ways. And there all different kinds of women. There are some women who intentionally leave early on a first date, even if they like the person. 
 

I would assume you can just kind of feel it, though. You get this sense from the other person that there’s high interest. But I guess a lot of people are attuned to that

I know which is why I just wanted to get an idea of what will happen if it goes well.

[IntBrowser]

9 hours ago, Weezy1973 said:

This. Everybody’s different. I’d also add that you can’t really control how she feels so worrying about it is kind of pointless. 
 

How do you know when it’s a good date for you and you’d like to see her again? 

well a couple of years ago after dinner she said..........."what else do you want to do?   I wasnt sure if she was hinting to go back to my place but I felt the interest when she asked that question

[Gaeta]

6 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

Question like......"Are you free this week?

Questions like

Would you like to do this again? if she says yes then you ask for a very specific time and place like *are you free next Saturday for dinner?*

If she ask *what else  you want to do* you offer to go on a walk, grab a drink somewhere, don't offer to go home after a 1st or 2nd date, doesn't make you look good. 

[Eternal Sunshine]

If the date has gone well, I would receive a text within an hour after the date. Occasionally, a guy would contact me the next day instead. If no contact within 24 hours, it's unlikely to go anywhere. When they contact you, they should be suggesting the next date. Beware of people that text you all the time but seem elusive when trying to make plans.

[dramafreezone]

You're way too much in your head dude.

When you experience a woman that's really into you, you'll know it.  If you have to ask if she's into you, or wonder if this is what it's supposed to look like, then she's either not or she's playing a game.  Doesn't really change how you approach anything.  All you have to do is to provide a good experience and it's either good enough for her or it's not.

Even if she's not feeling it yet, it doesn't mean that her feelings won't grow.  Every woman isn't going to be doing backflips after the date, and many have fallen in love after beginning with lukewarm interest.  If you like her, just ask her out again.  Don't overthink things.

Edited March 27, 2021 by dramafreezone

[IntBrowser]

6 hours ago, dramafreezone said:

You're way too much in your head dude.

When you experience a woman that's really into you, you'll know it.  If you have to ask if she's into you, or wonder if this is what it's supposed to look like, then she's either not or she's playing a game.  Doesn't really change how you approach anything.  All you have to do is to provide a good experience and it's either good enough for her or it's not.

Even if she's not feeling it yet, it doesn't mean that her feelings won't grow.  Every woman isn't going to be doing backflips after the date, and many have fallen in love after beginning with lukewarm interest.  If you like her, just ask her out again.  Don't overthink things.

I still have not gotten over that weird rejection last year.    Go on a 1st date and agree to see me again in 3 days and say can we go out as friends and pays for the date.

 

Those are the type of experiences that make me want to join the "imitate encounter" website lol

[Wiseman2]

If it's going well, there's dates and progress and no confusion about the friendzone.

[prince0fgame]

This is where a lot of guys mess up. 99% of the time when guys mess up, they either overcompensate for some insecurity of they act too needy. And nothing is more repulsive to women. 

The number 1 key is how attracted you are to her and how turned on you are and how much you appreciate her feminine essence. 

Do not worry about whether she is into you. This will get you stuck in your head. And the chances of you overcompensating to impress her skyrockets. And then you'll turn her off.

Women are turned on when YOU are turned on. They like you when YOU appreciate them. So focus on your desires. Her desires are out of your control.

Any contrivance in an attempt to impress her (overcompensating) will kill the romance. 

The number one thing is always appreciation. Get out of your own ego and simply appreciate her presence. She will sense it. Women always sense when they are genuinely appreciated. 

[poppyfields]

5 hours ago, prince0fgame said:

This is where a lot of guys mess up. 99% of the time when guys mess up, they either overcompensate for some insecurity of they act too needy. And nothing is more repulsive to women. 

The number 1 key is how attracted you are to her and how turned on you are and how much you appreciate her feminine essence. 

Do not worry about whether she is into you. This will get you stuck in your head. And the chances of you overcompensating to impress her skyrockets. And then you'll turn her off.

Women are turned on when YOU are turned on. They like you when YOU appreciate them. So focus on your desires. Her desires are out of your control.

Any contrivance in an attempt to impress her (overcompensating) will kill the romance. 

The number one thing is always appreciation. Get out of your own ego and simply appreciate her presence. She will sense it. Women always sense when they are genuinely appreciated. 

Man, this^ was well said.  The entire post. 

"Inspired" - great word, I use it often myself.

People complain about their partners, not doing this or that, well have you looked within to determine what role you're playing?

What do you bring, how are you "inspiring" your partner to be the best he/she can be?  Goes for both men and women.

Step away from ego =

Appreciate her feminine essence =

Appreciate his masculine essence =

Again, super well said @prince0fgameand welcome to the forum.