I caught him- by looking at cell bill

[lifestyle1]

My BF dumped me Fri after 5 years we live together with my 3 kids. i felt the argment didnt warrant his anger ( I asked for the rent money) and was suspicious there was something else. so i looked at his cell phone bill. sure enough i called a number and a woman answered. she revealed that she had gone out with him 3 times, is divorcing her H but still lives together, was introduced by a friend ( i think his necice) shes 27 hes 45. said they had not slept together but they have been talking to each other daily from 8 in the morning sometime s he would call her 5 times a day and she called him 10 to 20 times. as far as i can tell it has been since august. he denied the number, the girl and a relationship, even with the proof.

 

so i called her and revealed all the ugly facts about him i am sure he wouldnt reveal to a woman he is romancing. this got his attention and he called me with "what are you doing?"

 

I feel like hell, because 5 yrs ago i left my H and he left his w FOR ME. when you begin a relationship from an affair there is already a trust issue because you both are liars. So i prevailed to make this work. we had our share of problems, and i suspected he had ulteriro motives. he never finalized his divorce after 5 yrs. his parents live on the propeety, his w in the house, and he with me around the corner. the family accepted me and my kids.

 

I am devastated. I feel like pay back is a motherf#$@ for doing it to wife #1

 

i STILL LOVE HIM AND WONDER WHY AM I SO FUC#@ UP to want this.

im angry and hurt as he is verbally abusive and called me every name.

 

he has also been a provider and support to me and my kids, helped me launch my business, and been a firend in need.

 

i'm so hurting. feeling something was up but unable to pin point it, i too began looking on the computer at dating sites to see what was out there in my age group. i never pursued anything. but he did find out, and said how is what he did any different than me? well i didnt pursue anything

help

[basscatcher]

I don't know what to tell you but I too had a feeling something wasnt right with my last relationship and I looked on his cell phone and found he was still contacting his exgf/fwb.. We got into some stressful talks about it and eventually he left and went back to her. He tried to rekindle with me after that and I said no... I told him to never contact me again unless he or I are on our death beds..

 

I wish you all the best. I know what you are feeling.You need to do what is right for you and your children. If you are stressed out by this it will affect you and your children.. It's not a easy situation and I don't think there is any right thing you can do but to try talk it all out and see what you both agree to do..

[lifestyle1]

ya know what sucks is that I discovered by 25 yr old neice introduced the 2 of them- as they work for the same company. I TOLD MY (EX ) BOYFRIEND that this really sucks that family would do this.