Late night text during no contact

[Cool_hand]

it always ends well for me.. we have history.  I can get a woman no problem... but under the circumstances and that ive given it another chance years later is a factor.  we are all normal... with our differences.. do we not still deserve love?  i feel the money asking was a dig.. and its cool.. we all get emotional.. and cant help it sometimes.. but i am well prepared for an interrupt .  dating someone 

who isnt into games isnt that easy under these times.. we still are under a pandemic.. how do you just go out and meet the next?

[MsJayne]

Sounds like she was genuinely texting someone else to me.  I've done this when I haven't texted someone for a while and someone else's name starts with the same letter and I don't check properly.  But, on the chance that she's into stupid games and you feel like indulging her, send her a text back asking her to pick up a box of super-size tampons and a pair of rubber gloves while she's at the store. 

[poppyfields]

18 minutes ago, Cool_hand said:

...but under the circumstances and that ive given it another chance years later is a factor.  we are all normal... with our differences.. do we not still deserve love?  i feel the money asking was a dig.. and its cool.. we all get emotional.. and cant help it sometimes.. but i am well prepared for an interrupt .  dating someone 

who isnt into games isnt that easy under these times.. we still are under a pandemic.. how do you just go out and meet the next?

What do you mean you've given it another chance years later, is she an old flame from your past?

I agree we all have our different styles, different way of interacting and communicating, showing our investment; it can get confusing and that often leads to games being played on both sides.  Just the nature of the beast imo.

It's not always such a bad thing but ideally and eventually you need to be honest and open with each other otherwise those games will come back and bite you both in the arse and I speak from experience saying that.

Edited March 18, 2021 by poppyfields

[Cool_hand]

yes... old flame.  So I do know her style.

[Cool_hand]

18 minutes ago, MsJayne said:

send her a text back asking her to pick up a box of super-size tampons and a pair of rubber gloves while she's at the store. 

I thought of this...lol

[Mrin]

Mayhaps send this: "sweet. Can you pick me up some 3-in-1 oil and some gauze pads. And I'm gonna need 'bout ten quarts of anti-freeze, preferably Prestone. No, no make that Quaker State." 

See if she gets the reference. 

[poppyfields]

1 minute ago, Cool_hand said:

I thought of this...lol

Yeah that would be funny.  I like it better than what I suggested.

[Cool_hand]

humor was what i wanted........

[Cool_hand]

I think its... see if "I" get the reference.  Thats cool... I do... keep going Im going to exclude you.  Do remember

you were once traded for animals...

Edited March 18, 2021 by Cool_hand

[Happy Lemming]

9 minutes ago, Cool_hand said:

keep going Im going to exclude you.

What does this mean??

When you write in sentence fragments, your true meaning is lost.

I think a lot of the posters would have less trouble following your thread, if you wrote in complete sentences with punctuation. (Subject, Verb, Predicate)

 

Edited March 18, 2021 by Happy Lemming

[Crazelnut]

This thread makes zero sense.

[d0nnivain]

I don't understand. 

You have been dating a woman for about 1 year & claim to love her.  Something happened.  You reached out & she didn't reply.  So now you two have been giving each other the silent treatment for 3 weeks until last night when you got this odd text.  

First understand the silent treatment & NC are vastly different things.  NC is something you do after a break up to heal.  It helps you not pick at the emotional wounds & prevents you from begging, pleading & debasing yourself to get the other person back.  The silent treatment is this manipulative game playing you & this woman are doing to each other.  It's some sort of power play because neither of you want to look weak or give the other one the satisfaction of thinking they have won.  It's destructive & unhealthy. 

So the Q becomes what do you want?  Unless you drove her to the store as part of your relationship or she's some how dependent on you, I would assume that text was not meant for you.  

If you want to continue dating her, I suggest reaching out.  Searching for a clever witty retort to this odd message is not the right path. Just talk already & stop with the power games.  

 

 

[Cool_hand]

ohhhhhh ok.   you are right Don.

[Cool_hand]

Btw yes, I do take her places until her license appointment comes up which, where we live is taking a while.

[ShyViolet]

This whole post is very confusing.  Why have you been dating a woman for a year but were no-contact with her for 3 weeks?  What is the reason for that?  Did you and her break up?

[lurker74]

I don't understand how people have the time or the inclination for these types of games. Just move on...both of you.

[Cool_hand]

can anyone tell me how to delete this thread?

[poppyfields]

10 minutes ago, Cool_hand said:

can anyone tell me how to delete this thread?

Why?  Personally, I found it interesting.  And was looking forward to how it all played out.  Oh well.

Anyway,  below your post asking how to delete you will see a flag.  Click on it and in the message section, ask the moderation team to delete the thread.

Sorry to see you go, hope it all works out.

 

Edited March 18, 2021 by poppyfields

[Cool_hand]

Thank you.. that's what i did.   I'd like to allow that as well.   I did reach out and now would rather they not come across the thread one day...lol.  Be well.   Too many people are making a joke and do not realize it is a sensitive situation.

Edited March 18, 2021 by Cool_hand

[poppyfields]

27 minutes ago, Cool_hand said:

Be well.   

You too.