Late night text during no contact

[Cool_hand]

I have had a lady I've been dating for a while in no contact for 3 weeks. She texted me at 12 am saying she needs to go to the store tomorrow. We have iPhones and my read receipts were not turned off. My phone was right next to me, so I looked at the text.

Ladies,  would you think I was on the phone if you got the notification right then? I'd prefer she didn't think that bc I wasn't.

One minute later,  I got a text that said just send some money. I think it's hilarious, actually, because I don't take care of her like that,  but I treat her nice. I think she wanted to see if she is blocked and when she saw I read it, understood I just hadn't been calling.

We haven't had a fight or anything,   just didn't seem to see eye-to-eye about something, so I just stepped back a few weeks while I was out of town, which i didn't inform her of. I was about to contact her anyway, but the late night text puts a new spin on my reaching out.

Trying to think of a good reply and or opener for that one, because I know she could not be serious about the second part of that text.

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[Gaeta]

10 hours ago, Cool_hand said:

We haven't had a fight or anything, just didn't seem to see eye-to-eye about something, so I just stepped back a few weeks while I was out of town, which i didn't inform her of.

That's not cool. It's pretty disrespectful & passive aggressive and I have no clue why she's texting you. I wouldn't. You'd be blocked I'd be gone. 

Good luck.

 

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[Versacehottie]

Hmmm, well I think she is into you lol.  I think she is squirming and trying to find both aggressive and passive ways to get through to you (figuratively)..  I don't know that this is the best sort of communication from either of your ends.

Are you exclusive? Is she your girlfriend?  I don't think it's entirely fair of you to just stop calling her.  Why don't you tell her what's bothering you so she can fix her end, you can make compromises, move past it, have a better understanding of one another.

And yeah, I would ignore the money part for now.  But I guess explain your position if she brings it up again in a serious way.  Is there anything she would believe you owe her for?

[Cool_hand]

I actually communicated last after the situation,  she didnt reply,  so I waited for her to reach out,  we have been dating regular for a year.   Thanks Gaeta,  I understand.....but im not here to be trashed,  she does deal with her own issues and I won't be pushy.

[Wiseman2]

42 minutes ago, Cool_hand said:

I got a text that said just send some money.

Is she talking to her ex or other BFs? Sounds like a misdial. Don't reply. If it's important or makes sense, then reply.

[Cool_hand]

Thanks Versace,  Im into her too.   Can't always be the nice guy for both our sake im sure.  Love the name!

nooo I cant owe her money.

Edited March 17, 2021 by Cool_hand

[Cool_hand]

Wiseman2,  I checked if she needed to go anywhere before I left... I dont think an ex but Im sure there are interesting friends and wasnt planning on ghosting the lady..lol

Edited March 17, 2021 by Cool_hand

[Gaeta]

20 minutes ago, Cool_hand said:

I actually communicated last after the situation,  she didnt reply,  so I waited for her to reach out,  we have been dating regular for a year.   Thanks Gaeta,  I understand.....but im not here to be trashed,  she does deal with her own issues and I won't be pushy.

Then you have to explain all that to us. All I read is you're dating this woman for a while and you simply ignored her for 3 weeks while on a business trip. 

[Cool_hand]

I respect that Gaeta... well I said plenty more than that.   It seemed like you focused on me more than my query which was about her.   Thanks for the update.

Edited March 17, 2021 by Cool_hand

[Miss Peach]

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

Is she talking to her ex or other BFs? Sounds like a misdial. Don't reply. If it's important or makes sense, then reply.

I was thinking the same thing. It sounds like it might have been meant for someone else if it was out of the blue like that.

[Mrin]

This is all very weird. This ghosting stunt you pulled makes it impossible to have any non-awkward reply/re-opener. Well, other than: "was in coma, just woke up, how are you?"

Lol. What is it you really want to know OP?

[Cool_hand]

what stunt did I pull... I have said "I" spoke to her last... "she" didnt say anything in reply... am I supposed to run after her then??  Maybe "she" is pulling the stunt and "got" stunted.

I wasnt ghosting anyone.  when a woman wants to talk she will... or she doesnt have to.  As for it being meant for someone else..

thats cool too.. but if you havnt texted someone in 3 weeks your text is way down the line and itd be hard to make that mistake.  The 

question Im asking isnt who it was for.... its,  is there a better reply than haha very funny...??  maybe not.  

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[Cool_hand]

mrin,   I like that one actually.. think i'll go with "was in a coma".

[Happy Lemming]

If it were me... I'd actually call her, (not text) and ask her to clarify exactly what she needed/wanted and why she would text that late??

So she texted you at Midnight, that she was going to the store (the next day) and needed money?? I don't understand... Why would she do that??

The only texts I've ever received that late were "booty calls".

[Watercolors]

4 hours ago, Cool_hand said:

 Trying to think of a good reply and or

opener for that one because I know she could not be serious about the second part of that text.

Why would you need to ask for advice on how to reply to your girlfriend-of-one year's text message? 

 

[Cool_hand]

Im not asking for advice... just looking for better replies than I have thought of... I see nothing wrong with that.

[Cool_hand]

hi happy lemming... not that she was going... that she would like me to take her...to the store.... then a minute later the text

turned into something else.

[poppyfields]

I don't think the text was meant for someone else, but you could play off on that and reply "haha, I think you might have texted this to me by mistake, lol."

She was definitely trying to get your attention, somehow, some way. 

I agree with Versache, she's into you, no doubt.

 

Edited March 17, 2021 by poppyfields

[Happy Lemming]

8 minutes ago, Cool_hand said:

 not that she was going... that she would like me to take her...to the store.... then a minute later the text

turned into something else.

OK... so let me see if I got this straight...  She texted you at Midnight to take her to the store the next day and buy her "stuff"??

Are we talking food??  Are we talking groceries and toiletries (necessities)??  Is she indigent to the point that she has no food??

[Cool_hand]

I agree with both of you... I was just seeing if there was better wording... we do have history and I know and love her,  challenging as she can be. I'm going to copy and paste it... just like that.... I know how to act... just interested in feedback.

[Cool_hand]

Happy lemming... she is highly educated and a medical professional.. but not essential.. so the situation could be anything.. I have her back if its for real

[poppyfields]

3 minutes ago, Cool_hand said:

I have her back if its for real

Does she know that?

[Happy Lemming]

Just now, Cool_hand said:

Happy lemming... she is highly educated and a medical professional.. but not essential.. so the situation could be anything.. I have her back if its for real

OK... if someone needs food, I would make sure they have food.  If she is a medical professional, I'm sure she has enough money for food/necessities.  If she needed a ride to the store to acquire food because her car wasn't running, then yes I would do that, as well.

6 hours ago, Cool_hand said:

One minute later,  I got a text that said just send some money. 

I don't understand this line from your original post.  Why would she want you to "Just Send Money"?? I don't hand out money to anyone... I'll buy them food and give them food, but I don't hand out cash/money... this is not normal. 

She is asking you to just give her money?? Why??

[poppyfields]

Just now, Happy Lemming said:

She is asking you to just give her money?? Why??

Lemming, I think she was messin with him, a bid for attention.  

She wants him to think the text was meant for another man (a jealousy test), because you're right, it makes zero sense that she would text that to him.

Cool hand, you might want to consider ignoring unless you want to play her game.

[Happy Lemming]

3 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Lemming, I think she was messin with him, a bid for attention.  

 

This is not appropriate (in my opinion), this is not how normal people act.

5 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

She wants him to think the text was meant for another man (a jealousy test), because you're right, it makes zero sense that she would text that to him.

If your hypothesis is correct, this is very immature... She is not someone to date/take seriously.

6 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Cool hand, you might want to consider ignoring unless you want to play her game.

This does sound like some weird twisted game.  I'd ignore her and attempt to date someone who wasn't into games.

If the OP plays this stupid game, it won't end well (for him).