morals limit dating prospects

[smackie9]

On 3/18/2021 at 1:51 AM, Wiseman2 said:

These don't seem like any sort of moral high ground, vis-a-vis your acquaintances.

They seem like fairly standard red flags.

 

Ya I would say these are normal dealbreakers for a vast majority or people. If your town is full of people that are dating while still married, just got out of prison, dating peoples relatives, etc. I would find a new place to live...there is something very wrong with that population if those are your only options.

[Miss Spider]

Standards might limit your dating prospects, but that’s not always a bad thing. The ones you mentioned seem pretty bare minimum 

Edited March 20, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[BC1980]

The older you get, the better you get at setting standards. I think back to some men I entertained in my younger years and would never put up with that nonsense today. Your standards sound reasonable to me. 

[Ami1uwant]

On 3/17/2021 at 10:50 AM, primer said:

Do you think your moral standards interfere with your dating prospects?

While I don't want to lower my standards, I realize they play a big role in the reason I am single.

For example:

1) My friend is engaged to her ex-boyfriend's uncle. I would not date my ex-boyfriend's uncle.

2) Another friend is living with a guy that was in prison for drugs and armed robbery. I would be afraid to get involved with that type of person. I hope for the best.

3) I won't date someone that is married or separated. I want a finalized divorce.

3) Ex's of my friends are off limits too.

Do you have the same types of standards? I am not religious or anything. There are certain things I don't want in my life.

What are some of your standards?

 

1.  My uncle is closer in age to me than my mom.  I know of people who have an aunt/uncle within a few years of them.  I have an aunt through marriage that’s the same age as me.

 

2. case details matter. He could have bern around and participated in it without knowing like buddy says wait here I need to run into the bank...then comes out and you drive off.

 

3.  That’s common..not unusual

 

4. I have no problem dating someone I met through an ex.  Sure there are rules on dating a best friends SO of the past.  My brother met his wife this way.  He went out of town for college. He wasn’t around friends much. He moved back and worked. He and buddies were at a bar.  An ex gf of one of the group of a dozen guys who regularly socialized (the guy was t there) was at this bar and knew the guys but not my brother. They called him over to introduce him knowing this was ZZZs ex gf. He said is this the infamous YYY?  She wasn’t, she knew who he was referring to, and she punched him.  Later she came over to apologize and they started to date.

 

what you have are very low standards that wouldn’t explain ir justify you still being single.

 

standards that coukd be very limiting sre

 

1 I have a phD, I want someone who has something similar

2 I make $X and this person needs to make around the same

 

3. they are also of this rare religion in this area I live.  Some Jewish sects are limited to NE cities, or there aren’t many white Catholics in the Deep South. You are in a small rural town and you only date atheists.

 

4. they are of a certain age range like late 30s and fo t come with some sort of baggage like prior marriage or having kids.

5. you live in a big fishing town and you want to date a non fish eater or you are a vegan in cattle country.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[SumGuy]

On 3/17/2021 at 3:35 PM, primer said:

I have been told that my sisters and I think our shi# don't stink. 

It's not that. It's our morals.

 

 

Some shi# stinks more than others, and no one needs to take another’s shi#
 

I suspect they are not the open minded types anyway, just want understanding and empathy to flow one way...to them.   That was called selfish where I grew up.