SkyHook33 Posted March 17, 2021 Posted March 17, 2021 So a girl I met a few months ago really seemed to hit it off and got really close in very short timeframe. I wasn't aware there was some guy she knew before we met that she still kept up with that asked her to be his girlfriend recently. She didn't think I was that interested in a relationship when she accepted (now she does), but wants to keep talking to me even now knowing that I do. Should I keep pursuing her if it seems like she wants me to and now knows my intentions?
chillii Posted March 17, 2021 Posted March 17, 2021 Well , if she wants you then there can be no other guys . 2
d0nnivain Posted March 17, 2021 Posted March 17, 2021 Tell her that while you would be interested in seeing where things could go if she was single & available, you are no homewrecker so for now you are going to bow out. Then you basically stop talking to her.
Gaeta Posted March 17, 2021 Posted March 17, 2021 Think hard. She could leave him to be with you but then you'd always wonder if she secretly communicate with someone else right! This is not the type of girlfriend you want. 2
ShyViolet Posted March 17, 2021 Posted March 17, 2021 Not if she's actually in a relationship with the other guy.
central Posted March 17, 2021 Posted March 17, 2021 If they are exclusive, then leave this alone. If not, then fair game. Also fair game is she is polyamorous (and you're okay with that and willing to share).
Miss Peach Posted March 17, 2021 Posted March 17, 2021 If they literally just because exclusive and you want a shot I don't see anything wrong with letting her know and letting her be exclusive with you. But if he didn't choose you I would bow out. I know in my situation I've had some scenarios where I like two guys and I just have to make a choice. If I think the other guy is hesitating and there is one pushing me I'll just go with the guaranteed option. I wouldn't se yourself up though to let her cheat or be part of a triangle unless everyone is openly poly or something.
Wiseman2 Posted March 17, 2021 Posted March 17, 2021 17 hours ago, SkyHook33 said: I wasn't aware there was some guy she knew before we met that she still kept up with that asked her to be his girlfriend recently. Don't buzz around in the friendzone, if what you really want is to date her.. Just move on. 1
smackie9 Posted March 19, 2021 Posted March 19, 2021 Not sure if you see this or not, but she's been playing the both of you this whole time. TBH what are you perusing is a girl that no qualms about talking to and dating multiple guys. If she's really hot, and has a bangin rack, that would explain why she gets away with it.
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