smackie9 Posted March 19, 2021 Posted March 19, 2021 You have posted this sometime back on another site. Seems you are still with this person that belittles you. Sorry to say this but what I see is guy that wants out. He's frustrated, annoyed, and scared that he feels this way. How he treats you is him projecting how he has been feeling lately. He is picking on you because he is no longer satisfied/happy and doesn't know how to end a 3 year relationship. Instead of constantly taking his treatment and not getting anywhere with address it, it's time to ask if he wants to end the relaitonship. Now mind you if he gives you a song and dance this isn't true, I would take a look at if this is benefiting him financially, and would be worst off if you broke-up. It's sad and cruel, but people do do this. There are many threads on here, mostly women tho, that are stuck because they can't afford to leave. They end up having a partner that is confused, and the OP fears the consequences. Some secretly seeing someone new and don't know what to do. So him treating you like crap within the last few months, is a symptom of something else. You need to put you big girl panties on and dig into this deeper.
peach302 Posted March 19, 2021 Posted March 19, 2021 (edited) On 3/16/2021 at 2:37 PM, clueless_crab said: He swears he has no intention of ending things. The only thing I can think of that changed is I'm less patient with him now, too. I used to love listening to him but because he is always so critical of me when I talk, it's become harder to enjoy now. He does say I constantly critisize him too so maybe that's why he feels it's okay to do the same? But... I don't think I do. I feel he often misunderstands me and is quick to jump to negative intent. Some time apart would be a good idea. edit: what would be some healthy time apart? I told him I need some space earlier, and he has granted me a day... Time apart? Whats the point. You two are clearly on different pages now. For whatever reason he has zero respect for you. I don't see how that will miraculously change or how you could come back from that into a more positive space. No disrespect but are you that desperate for a man you will sacrifice yourself and continue in this Relationship? Edited March 19, 2021 by peach302
kendahke Posted March 19, 2021 Posted March 19, 2021 If he has been relatively reasonable with your for 3 years and suddenly, he's acting like this, I'd say he's met someone and is building the case against you in his mind to justify this new interest he has. Of course he's not going to admit that because that interferes with the construct he's built about himself being a "good guy", but either he's a calculating sort who's been smoothly grooming you for abuse and has decided "yeah, she's in too deep, let me rip her to shreds now", or someone is making him pissed he's not free to pursue them and wants to drive you to breaking up with him so he's not the "bad guy". No matter what, you do know you don't deserve to be treated this way, right?
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