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3 minutes ago, Redguitar35 said:

How does this sound for a profile?: 

“Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for same. Only looking for casual sex and only with other vaccinated people. No couples or people in open relationships. Send a hey there if interested.”

It sounds good to me but make sure your pictures are good and you look  hot 

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9 minutes ago, Redguitar35 said:

How does this sound for a profile?: 

“Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for same. Only looking for casual sex and only with other vaccinated people. No couples or people in open relationships. Send a hey there if interested.”

I don't like it. Why? Because it looks like you want to have sex with as many people as possible. That's not going to bring a quality woman your way. You need to say something like:

"Photographer feeling a bit lonely due to pandemic lockdowns. Fully vaccinated and looking for a woman who is also vaccinated and would like to enjoy a monogamous physical relationship with no strings attached."

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7 minutes ago, Highndry said:

I don't like it. Why? Because it looks like you want to have sex with as many people as possible. That's not going to bring a quality woman your way. You need to say something like:

"Photographer feeling a bit lonely due to pandemic lockdowns. Fully vaccinated and looking for a woman who is also vaccinated and would like to enjoy a monogamous physical relationship with no strings attached."

Wow. I didn’t really see it that way..  however, you probably have a point.  I’ve never really gone trolling for sex so I’m probably not an authority but how about this: 

“Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for someone to share some cuddles and butt touches with during the pandemic. “
 

Or something else that’s indirect but clear. And  then when they hit you up you can get into any fine print ... But it’s true what you have might look a little too easy/thirsty and it may work against you. Obviously, the main thing here is that your pictures look hot

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2 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

“Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for someone to share some cuddles and butt touches with during the pandemic. “

Haha. I suppose that works.

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3 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Wow. I didn’t really see it that way..  however, you probably have a point.  I’ve never really gone trolling for sex so I’m probably not an authority but how about this: 

“Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for someone to share some cuddles and butt touches with during the pandemic. “
 

Or something. And  then when they hit you up you can tell them the details like how you want NSA casual sex only or get into any fine print ... But you might look a little too easy/thirsty and it may work against you. Obviously, the main thing here is that your pictures look hot

I think I look a lot better than a lot of guys who are dating or in relationships. I see men who are unshaven, unwashed, beer bellies, hairy as hell, out of shape getting tons of sex with beautiful women. It’s nuts. 

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7 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Wow. I didn’t really see it that way..  however, you probably have a point.  I’ve never really gone trolling for sex so I’m probably not an authority but how about this: 

“Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for someone to share some cuddles and butt touches with during the pandemic. “
 

 

That sounds good. 

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57 minutes ago, Redguitar35 said:

How does this sound for a profile?: 

“Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for same. Only looking for casual sex and only with other vaccinated people. No couples or people in open relationships. Send a hey there if interested.”

You should add ...only if it's true that you are kind & respectful and would meet a few times first to get acquainted.

In these types of meeting security wise women are the vulnerable ones.

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At least you had success in the past lol

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I would leave out mention of "butt touches". 

Too crass-soudning. 

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l did this once way back . After my divorce lst time ever on a date site .

l said something like can hardly remember but,,, l;m just here for fun nothin serious , l could use some partying too- or something like that . To my surprise low and behold l got a lot of takers too , didn't expect that.

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13 hours ago, Redguitar35 said:

How does this sound for a profile?: 

“Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for same. Only looking for casual sex and only with other vaccinated people. No couples or people in open relationships. Send a hey there if interested.”

Drop the photographer part, it sounds like your casting for a porno. 

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Haaa that's a point.

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10 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I would leave out mention of "butt touches". 

Too crass-soudning. 

We are taking about looking for sex here. I think it’s important to state up front. What would you use instead? 

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26 minutes ago, Redguitar35 said:

We are taking about looking for sex here. I think it’s important to state up front. What would you use instead? 

Even if a woman only wants sex doesn't mean she's ok with vulgarities. You use words like *looking for a physical relationship*.

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Gentleman feeling a bit lonely due to pandemic lockdowns. I am vaccinated and looking for a woman who is also vaccinated and would like to enjoy a monogamous physical relationship with no strings attached. I am kind and respectful and would like to get to know you first over coffee. 

 

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I like the "butt touches" part. Maybe because I'm a butt man but also because it will weed out the women that don't have a sense of humor, which for me is critical. For OP? Maybe not so much. 

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Gentleman feeling a bit lonely due to pandemic lockdowns. I am vaccinated and looking for a woman who is also vaccinated and would like to enjoy a monogamous physical relationship with no strings attached. I am kind and respectful and would like to get to know you first over coffee. 

 

I have to be honest, @Gaeta. Way back when I was still dating and decided to stick to NSA stuff, I had to be a lot LESS respectful. It's like attracting the women I was interested in required me to be clear that this wasn't really even about sex...it was about f___king. Now, granted, it was Tinder, but your message may hit no one. Those women that want a relationship will skate and those women that want NSA may find the message too weak, for lack of a better term.

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Free moustache rides. You manage to take if off with friction, breakfast is on me. I'm a photographer, so don't forget to stop by the gift shop for your commemorative photo. 

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 When I divorced 22 years ago I had my best luck by stating WHY I was not seeking a relationship but NSA  or  FWB it went something like,

" recently out of a 9 year marriage, not ready to be in a longterm relationship, plus the months I've been single I've learned that the current dating environment is not conducive to the type of longterm relationship I would be happy in and choose not to risk my heart again, that being said I do have need's so I'm seeking a longterm "Friend with Benefits" with a respectful woman who is in the same place as me"

 

 That one worked almost too well as it opened the floodgates from women trying to prove they weren't like other girls, those women would slowly try to turn it into a relationship but not get mad when it did not turn into one. it also attracted alot of career women who did not want to be distracted from their goals by LOVE.

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1 hour ago, lurker74 said:

..it was about f___king.

I'd be worried what type of crowd that'll attract. If OP isn't too picky that will work on some. 

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20 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

Wow. I didn’t really see it that way..  however, you probably have a point.  I’ve never really gone trolling for sex so I’m probably not an authority but how about this: 

“Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for someone to share some cuddles and butt touches with during the pandemic. “
 

Or something else that’s indirect but clear. And  then when they hit you up you can get into any fine print ... But it’s true what you have might look a little too easy/thirsty and it may work against you. Obviously, the main thing here is that your pictures look hot

Lmao good and funny

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On 3/14/2021 at 11:29 AM, Redguitar35 said:

Today for some unknown reason, perhaps boredom, I looked up what my ex who dumped me two week before Xmas is up to these days. Turns out she’s moved to Colorado with her fiancé (they’ve been together since January of 19 which would put it at a month after she dumped me).

Meanwhile in that same amount of time I’ve been through a string of one night stands and then the pandemic which kept me out of dating for a year.

Now that I’m vaccinated the irony is I don’t see the point of going back to dating? Why bother when I’ve had such a lousy track record with relationships and they all end badly? 

If you're refraining from dating because your life is full, then that's great.

if you're not dating beecause you feel you're a piece of crap then you need to work on yourself.

Start with why your ex dumped you and why these relationships have ended badly?  Is it because you become needy?  Maybe work on that.

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6 hours ago, Gaeta said:

Gentleman feeling a bit lonely due to pandemic lockdowns. I am vaccinated and looking for a woman who is also vaccinated and would like to enjoy a monogamous physical relationship with no strings attached. I am kind and respectful and would like to get to know you first over coffee. 

 

This will not work.   Conveys that no one else wants to hang around him, and makes him sound depressed.  No one wants a charity case.

I know *you* would appreciate the honesty but don't think this works for most women.  I think he's better off with great photos and stating his likes and hobbies.  Leave out anything that makes him seem as though he's not content in life.

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9 minutes ago, dramafreezone said:

Conveys that no one else wants to hang around him, and makes him sound depressed. 

Of course there is no one around him to have sex with that's why  he's online looking for a physical relationship. He doesn't need to speak about his hobbies, he wants a sex partner. Women that only want sex still want it to be with a descent men that's why I suggest he specifies he's kind and respectful. These women will only care about his cleanliness,  appearence and if he can be nice when they meet. 

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You might as well ask what the meaning of life is because I don't know what that is either.  Not completely that is.  But as to your situation as noted...

Your former gf sounds like she is in a rebound relationship with this new guy.  Chances are it's not going to last if she was/ is crazy enough to not just move in with a guy she's known for such a short period of time, let alone move to another state with him.  She'll end up in a bad place with a lot to regret someday.

As for you?  Show me one person (man or woman) who has not been in the same place you are.  I've been there.  I have a few guy friends I see from time to time but we aren't in a relationship.  We all have "needs" I suppose and the world's full of lonely people.  You'll be okay.

 

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