Redguitar35 Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 Today for some unknown reason, perhaps boredom, I looked up what my ex who dumped me two week before Xmas is up to these days. Turns out she’s moved to Colorado with her fiancé (they’ve been together since January of 19 which would put it at a month after she dumped me). Meanwhile in that same amount of time I’ve been through a string of one night stands and then the pandemic which kept me out of dating for a year. Now that I’m vaccinated the irony is I don’t see the point of going back to dating? Why bother when I’ve had such a lousy track record with relationships and they all end badly?
Gaeta Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) Sounds like you need more time on your own to process the breakup. I'm not gonna try to convince you to go back to dating if your heart isn't into it because you sound bitter and that will not attract the right woman. The problem with a lot of men is they don't deal with their hurt they just numb it with casual sex, alcohol, gaming or what ever makes them forget for a minute. Edited March 14, 2021 by Gaeta 1
Ami1uwant Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 Covid has pretty much killed random meet dating. Dating seems to come from peop,e you had known pre-Covid
Author Redguitar35 Posted March 14, 2021 Author Posted March 14, 2021 31 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Sounds like you need more time on your own to process the breakup. I'm not gonna try to convince you to go back to dating if your heart isn't into it because you sound bitter and that will not attract the right woman. The problem with a lot of men is they don't deal with their hurt they just numb it with casual sex, alcohol, gaming or what ever makes them forget for a minute. I don’t think about her that much. I just think it’s was gross how she treated me in the end and that I don’t want to risk feeling that way again.
Author Redguitar35 Posted March 14, 2021 Author Posted March 14, 2021 27 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: Covid has pretty much killed random meet dating. Dating seems to come from peop,e you had known pre-Covid I guess I’d be screwed anyway in that case. I don’t know anybody I’d like to reconnect with.
Miss Spider Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) You don’t have to date if you don’t feel like it. However, you might find yourself lonely and want that feeling of love again. Getting hurt is a risk you have to take with it. There are ways to mitigate that, though. Like love yourself first, really get to know the person before you invest a lot of emotion, and don’t ignore red flags. Edited March 14, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1
Author Redguitar35 Posted March 14, 2021 Author Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) 15 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: You don’t have to date if you don’t feel like it. However, you might find yourself lonely and want that feeling of love again. Getting hurt is a risk you have to take with it. There are ways to mitigate that, though. Like love yourself first, really get to know the person before you invest a lot of emotion, and don’t ignore red flags. I’m not really interested in love, I’m interested in sex. If there’s an option for sex without having to date, that’s what I prefer honestly. Edited March 14, 2021 by Redguitar35 1
Miss Spider Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) 17 minutes ago, Redguitar35 said: I’m not really interested in love, I’m interested in sex. If there’s an option for sex without having to date, that’s what I prefer honestly. Escorts/prostitutes are the only thing I can think of. While not maybe not even dating, there usually is a ‘process’, even for casual sex. There are women who just want sex, but you still have to risk the potential of trying and failing. Again, there are ways to mitigate that too. Raise your SMV, practice your game, punch a little below your belt etc It sounds like you weren’t having much trouble with that before since you said you had a string of ONS Edited March 14, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1
Author Redguitar35 Posted March 14, 2021 Author Posted March 14, 2021 13 minutes ago, Gaeta said: The net is full of women wanting sex. The net is full of people who haven’t been vaccinated for covid.
Gaeta Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) Then you wait out. It is that difficult to not have sex for another couple of months? Edited March 14, 2021 by Gaeta 1
Miss Spider Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 Is this really about Covid because no one can help with that. We are all in that boat for awhile
Highndry Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 Unless you want to get married and have kids, yeah, why bother going back to dating? I think I'm done, to be honest. Unless serendipity strikes, I really don't have the interest anymore. 1
Author Redguitar35 Posted March 14, 2021 Author Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Is this really about Covid because no one can help with that. We are all in that boat for awhile I’m just saying it’s a catch 22. I only want to meet people for sex. But the only people who are out there looking sex right now are people who haven’t been taking the pandemic seriously. What I need is a woman who only wants sex but like me has also been vaccinated and cares about the pandemic. Edited March 14, 2021 by Redguitar35
Gaeta Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 1 minute ago, Redguitar35 said: What I need is a woman who only wants sex but like me has also been vaccinated and cares about the pandemic. Then put that in your profile. 3
Author Redguitar35 Posted March 14, 2021 Author Posted March 14, 2021 5 minutes ago, Highndry said: Unless you want to get married and have kids, yeah, why bother going back to dating? I think I'm done, to be honest. Unless serendipity strikes, I really don't have the interest anymore. What’s unfortunate is that our culture has conditioned people to think a relationship should be the thing sought after and that only bad people just want sex. Just wanting sex is totally legitimate in my view.
Miss Spider Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) 13 minutes ago, Redguitar35 said: I’m just saying it’s a catch 22. I only want to meet people for sex. But the only people who are out there looking sex right now are people who haven’t been taking the pandemic seriously. What I need is a woman who only wants sex but like me has also been vaccinated and cares about the pandemic. Yeah you don’t know that? There are probably some people that have been vaccinated and feel the same as you do. Make sure that you mention that you are only interested in those who are vaxxed only when you say you are looking for casual. Wanting sex only is totally fine. Just be safe out there, Opie, there’s a lot more than Covid. Sorry, this just went in a completely different direction than your OP which was why I was confused Edited March 14, 2021 by Cookiesandough 2
Gaeta Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 1 minute ago, Redguitar35 said: Just wanting sex is totally legitimate in my view. No one said otherwise so far as long as you're honest with the ladies.
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 Gloves, mask face shield, tyvek suit, condom, hand sanitizer...ready to go. 5
Highndry Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) 51 minutes ago, Redguitar35 said: What’s unfortunate is that our culture has conditioned people to think a relationship should be the thing sought after and that only bad people just want sex. Just wanting sex is totally legitimate in my view. Eh, I wouldn't pay much attention to what our "culture" or society thinks, to be honest. When I look back on my dating life, there were plenty of women who were really only wanting sex. They just want to be more discreet about it because otherwise they are viewed as sluts and what not. Some wouldn't even admit it if pressed. I remember a girl back in my early 20s who used to just show up knocking at my window when I was asleep. She was really cute, too. I really didn't know how good it was to be young. At any rate, if I were you I'd just put an online ad on Tinder or wherever and list exactly what you're looking for. Then it's right out there and no beating around the bush. Explain that you are vaxed and looking for the same. If it were me I would stress that I was looking to have sex with the same partner so as to be safe, but understand that it's purely a physical relationship with no strings. Edited March 14, 2021 by Highndry spelling 1 1
Miss Spider Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) 40 minutes ago, smackie9 said: Gloves, mask face shield, tyvek suit, condom, hand sanitizer...ready to go. yeah I don’t go to a hook up without my Tyvek coveralls with the hole cut into it .... but just to add on a serious note to the trajectory that this thread is now going. If you are a more physically attractive man, the easier it will be to do hookups with people you find attractive ... the other things matter less when it’s just a ONS type of sitch, I would think And looking at at least several more months until almost everyone is vaccinated, there’s no harm in getting on Tinder and looking for people like you Edited March 14, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1 1
Highndry Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said: yeah I don’t go to a hook up without my Tyvek jumpsuit with the hole cut into it .... but just to add on a serious note to the trajectory that this thread is now going. If you are more physically attractive, the easier it will be to do hookups... this obviously varies from person to person but being in good shape doesn’t hurt along with some other stuff. Yes, and I would add that he needs to take some high quality pictures which show his entire physique (clothes on, of course), not just his face. If I were going to do it, I would create the best profile possible. I guarantee there are a number of women out there who would jump at it. 1
Author Redguitar35 Posted March 14, 2021 Author Posted March 14, 2021 (edited) 24 minutes ago, Highndry said: At any rate, if I were you I'd just put an online ad on Tinder or wherever and list exactly what you're looking for. Then it's right out there and no beating around the bush. Explain that you are vaxed and looking for the same. If it were me I would stress that I was looking to have sex with the same partner so as to be safe, but understand that it's purely a physical relationship with no strings. I just might do that Edited March 14, 2021 by Redguitar35 1
Highndry Posted March 14, 2021 Posted March 14, 2021 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: Then you wait out. It is that difficult to not have sex for another couple of months? Not as difficult as it can seem at times. As a man, I think sex is kind of like sugar - the more you have it, the more you want it. You have to ween yourself off it. Once you realize you're ok without it, it becomes easier. 1
Author Redguitar35 Posted March 14, 2021 Author Posted March 14, 2021 38 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: yeah I don’t go to a hook up without my Tyvek coveralls with the hole cut into it .... but just to add on a serious note to the trajectory that this thread is now going. If you are a more physically attractive man, the easier it will be to do hookups with people you find attractive ... the other things matter less when it’s just a ONS type of sitch, I would think And looking at at least several more months until almost everyone is vaccinated, there’s no harm in getting on Tinder and looking for people like you How does this sound for a profile?: “Photographer. Fully vaccinated and looking for same. Only looking for casual sex and only with other vaccinated people. No couples or people in open relationships. Send a hey there if interested.” 1
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