IntBrowser Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 Normally when I am rejected the woman ignores my calls and never makes herself available to see me. But this particular woman has seen me 3 more times after the 1st meet and sends texts like "how is your week going? I am sorry for not getting back to you. I have shared this with my platonic female friend of 20 years and even she says that sounds weird to ask a guy who only want to see as friends......"How is your week going? Sound strange to anyone else?
elaine567 Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 Not really, if she has decided to add you as a friend, after she rejected you. "How is your week going?" sounds pretty "friend-like" to me. 4
Author IntBrowser Posted March 12, 2021 Author Posted March 12, 2021 51 minutes ago, elaine567 said: Not really, if she has decided to add you as a friend, after she rejected you. "How is your week going?" sounds pretty "friend-like" to me. I have never in my life had a platonic friend who is a woman that came from either a dating site or from a job send me a text to ask me how my week is going.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 How did she reject you? When you get together, what are you doing? Are you going dutch?
Author IntBrowser Posted March 12, 2021 Author Posted March 12, 2021 9 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: How did she reject you? When you get together, what are you doing? Are you going dutch? After the 1st date, word came out that the city was going to shutdown again due to the pandemic. So I suggested seeing her again in 4 days over the phone and thats when she said......"can we go out as friends?" And I agreed and went since she was treating. But her communication doesnt sound platonic like sending a text saying "will you be available to talk tonight around 8pm? lol
Ruby Slippers Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 I agree it sounds unusual - but since you're going dutch and there are no romantic overtones, I'd assume you're friends, enjoy the friendship, and continue dating others. Some of my best relationships started as friendships. 1
Author IntBrowser Posted March 12, 2021 Author Posted March 12, 2021 3 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: I agree it sounds unusual - but since you're going dutch and there are no romantic overtones, I'd assume you're friends, enjoy the friendship, and continue dating others. Some of my best relationships started as friendships. we been out 4 times, I treated 3 times and she paid once. One of the 3 times I paid she paid the tip and then said........."I hope this doesnt offend you"
Miss Spider Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, IntBrowser said: I have never in my life had a platonic friend who is a woman that came from either a dating site or from a job send me a text to ask me how my week is going. Probably bc she actually wants to be friends. The dating site and coworker people probably just said it to let you down gently Edited March 12, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes
ShyViolet Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 If she already rejected you and said that she just wants to be friends, then believe her. I'm not sure why you are still reading into this. If you are looking for signs that she may in fact be interested, even though she told you she's not, you are wasting your time. Just believe what she said. The things she's texting you sound completely neutral and friend-zone. Maybe she actually does think that you and her can be "friends". 3
Ruby Slippers Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 (edited) 17 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: we been out 4 times, I treated 3 times and she paid once. One of the 3 times I paid she paid the tip and then said........."I hope this doesnt offend you" I wouldn't pay for a female friend. It'd be fine to take turns, but I'd make sure it stays roughly 50/50. If she's not stepping up to pay her half, I wouldn't do anything that costs money with her - or I'd ask the waiter for separate checks, just buy my own ticket, etc. Save that money for actual dates that show clear relationship potential. Edited March 12, 2021 by Ruby Slippers 3
Author IntBrowser Posted March 12, 2021 Author Posted March 12, 2021 21 minutes ago, ShyViolet said: If she already rejected you and said that she just wants to be friends, then believe her. I'm not sure why you are still reading into this. If you are looking for signs that she may in fact be interested, even though she told you she's not, you are wasting your time. Just believe what she said. The things she's texting you sound completely neutral and friend-zone. Maybe she actually does think that you and her can be "friends". why would I ask a platonic friend is she is available? you just call and if they are unavailable then u call another time. There is no scheduled phone talks with platonic friends lol
Author IntBrowser Posted March 12, 2021 Author Posted March 12, 2021 8 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: I wouldn't pay for a female friend. It'd be fine to take turns, but I'd make sure it stays roughly 50/50. If she's not stepping up to pay her half, I wouldn't do anything that costs money with her - or I'd ask the waiter for separate checks, just buy my own ticket, etc. Save that money for actual dates that show clear relationship potential. 1st time......was the first meet so I paid 2nd time......she paid 3rd time......it was a brick oven pizza place I wanted to try and since she agreed to bring me home I treated 4th time.....she picked me up from the hotel where I spent the weekend because I offered to treat her to brunch for her birthday and she said she would take me to Best Buy and home.
Author IntBrowser Posted March 12, 2021 Author Posted March 12, 2021 26 minutes ago, ShyViolet said: If she already rejected you and said that she just wants to be friends, then believe her. I'm not sure why you are still reading into this. If you are looking for signs that she may in fact be interested, even though she told you she's not, you are wasting your time. Just believe what she said. The things she's texting you sound completely neutral and friend-zone. Maybe she actually does think that you and her can be "friends". I noticed she never talks about other guys so thats why it doesnt feel platonic.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 So you don't have a car and she's giving you rides? Then I'd consider the cost of gas and mileage, but those expenses are fairly minor, 58 cents a mile by IRS standards. I wouldn't continue spending money on a female friend, nothing beyond 50/50. That's money that should be going toward your future, dates with clear potential. 1
Miss Spider Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 (edited) I remember your story with this girl. You met online, went on a date, and then she said let’s just be friends. Stop trying to see something different. Friends can schedule a time to talk on the phone. There’s nothing romantic or sexual about it. Instead, focus on the overwhelming evidence that she is not interested in you in that way. She had an opportunity to date you and she asked you to be friends. Stop wasting your time, money, energy trying to make this something it isn’t and focus on finding women who are interested. Edited March 12, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes 6
ShyViolet Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 20 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: why would I ask a platonic friend is she is available? you just call and if they are unavailable then u call another time. There is no scheduled phone talks with platonic friends lol If she was interested in you, she wouldn't have said "let's just be friends" in the first place. But if you want to spend time analyzing every little text she sends you and reading into this, then be my guest. There's a good chance you are wasting a whole lot of time on this. 2
cleverusername Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 Not sure what the confusion is. Your choice is either; A) Be her friend B) Don't 2
smackie9 Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 You are her BF without benefits, a filler of sorts. The benefit of hanging out without romantic obligation. Don't be some shelp that thinks there is potential. Continue to hang out if you like, but please do pursue other women.
Brooke02 Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 If you’re friends, how is asking about your week weird? I don’t get it. she’s just making conversation, maybe she likes to text. 1
Sun Seeker Posted March 12, 2021 Posted March 12, 2021 If she told you she wants to be friends, why are you even still talking to her? Do you not have any male buddies to do friends stuff with? If you are not going to date her, its a waste of time talking to her. Use that time to meet other women that are actually romantically interested. 2
Cersei Posted March 13, 2021 Posted March 13, 2021 I gotta weigh in here. I met a guy on Tinder a while back. When we met in person I realized right away I was not interested romantically. But a friend? Hell yeah! We have lots in common. I made it clear I was interested in a friendship. Sometimes he texts and we just chit chat and catch up. But I am a lot more busy and active. I have to make a special point to text him and ask him how he is doing. I feel guilty if he is the one always reaching out. If she is anything like me, she's asking you that because that is what friends do.
dramafreezone Posted March 13, 2021 Posted March 13, 2021 (edited) 10 hours ago, IntBrowser said: Normally when I am rejected the woman ignores my calls and never makes herself available to see me. But this particular woman has seen me 3 more times after the 1st meet and sends texts like "how is your week going? I am sorry for not getting back to you. I have shared this with my platonic female friend of 20 years and even she says that sounds weird to ask a guy who only want to see as friends......"How is your week going? Sound strange to anyone else? She likes the attention she gets from you. If you don't creep her out and she doesn't have romantic feelings for you, she will gladly keep you around for the attention. Those are the prerequisites for membership to the friendzone, don't creep her out, and she doesn't have romantic feelings for you. If you want a romantic relationship with her, you need to tell her that you don't want to just be her friend and walk away. Edited March 13, 2021 by dramafreezone
Author IntBrowser Posted March 13, 2021 Author Posted March 13, 2021 1 minute ago, dramafreezone said: She likes the attention she gets from you. If you don't creep her out and she doesn't have romantic feelings for you, she will gladly keep you around for the attention. Well Im sitting here relaxing and just got a text from her saying..........:how was your day? That doesnt sound like platonic questions lol
dramafreezone Posted March 13, 2021 Posted March 13, 2021 (edited) 9 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: Well Im sitting here relaxing and just got a text from her saying..........:how was your day? That doesnt sound like platonic questions lol It doesn't? I've had women that had me in the friendzone text me good morning, ask about my day. She has to feed you something to keep getting your attention. But believe what you want. Have you had any type of physical escalation, are you making out or more? The longer you allow yourself to stay in the friendzone, the lower your chances of ever getting out of it. Ideally you would've rejected "being friends" immediately. You don't go along with something like that when it's not what you want. Edited March 13, 2021 by dramafreezone
Cersei Posted March 13, 2021 Posted March 13, 2021 1 hour ago, IntBrowser said: Well Im sitting here relaxing and just got a text from her saying..........:how was your day? That doesnt sound like platonic questions lol It 100 percent does sound like platonic questions. I think you are kidding yourself. 2
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