Is this a good reason for breaking up? Someone please tell me...

[kerris07]

I hope that all who read this story gives me an advice... I'm miserable now and I do not know what to...

 

Well, it's like this, my bf and I have been getting along well until lately we argued twice over some things unnecessary.. Anyway let's get it striaght to the point.. 2 days ago I was chattingwith him sending sms.. And he suddenly told me that we break already.. I didn't even know a thing and he did not tell me that we were breaking up or what.. He just said it.. And I demanded for the reason.. His reason was that he was going to find himself a job and that he had no time to take care of me so he wants a break up, but had also promised to patch with me 2 months later.. I asked him is there any other reason that we are breaking up for the time being, he replied that "if we break up now I could concentrate on my job and not worry about you".. Later on I didn't know how should I reply him so I just switched off my cell phone and started crying.. I kept having doubts from that moment onwards.. Thinking that whether he would still love me 2 months later? Was he only making empty promises and forgot all about it after that? Or maybe that he already don't even love me now so he used this as an excuse to break up with me? After 5minutes he called my house and I answered the phone, and when I heard his voice, I just hang up.. I didn't know what I did was right or wrong, I just thought that since I had nothing to say to him, might as well hang up.. And also because if I had talked to him he might hear that I was crying or what..

 

Later on, I felt sorry for what I did but still I decided not to return his call.. I wrapped myself in a blanket and curled up in the bed crying.. 15minutes later, he came into my bedroom (I forgot to say that he had my house keys also..) and asked me why I cried.. Is he pretending not to know or does he really not know? I did not answer him but just continue sleeping.. He pulled me out from bed and dragged me to the toilet and wash my face, then he said "It's only 2 months, don't need to cry okay? I promise to patch with you after that.." But what was making me worry was that by then he would already not love me and forgot about his promise and forgot about me too.. Well, he just assured me and asked me not to worry and all that.. But after he went home, when I called him, he treated me very cold and distant.. The tone that he speaked to me usually also changed.. I didn't know why.. Nor did I asked.. After we hung up that night, I did not call him till today.. Because since he already said that he would be busy with his work I did not dare to disturb him.. So I waited for him to call, but he did not.. And I think that he couldn't be working 24 hours a day so why didn't he call?

 

I really wanted to call him but I don't want him to feel that I need him so much and to make him feel that I'm disturbing him.. What should I do? Maybe this might seemed a common problem for alot of people and it probably just wasn't a difficult problem only that I myself made it complicated.. But sorry to say that I'm only 14 this year and to admit it I do not have much experience so I'm really confused.. I hoped you guys are willing to help me..... Thanks..

[slubberdegullion]

kerris07;

 

Get a hold of yourself. Control your emotions. They are supposed to serve you; they are not supposed to be in charge.

 

Talk to him. Avoid tears. The reason he seems cold and distant is probably because he simply doesn't want to have to deal with all the tears and crying and whatnot.

 

Maybe he does want to break up; I don't know. It is even possible that he's telling the truth, and he needs to get some of his life in order so he will be able to give you the attention you need. But get your facts first before you start making assumptions.

[kerris07]

Okay.. Thanks for the advice.. I will try talking to him and see what happens then keep you posted..