Should I contact him one last time?

[Filler]

Met this guy on a dating app. I texted him first he responded. We are both musicians. He asked me to come over to his place to hang out without going on a date, I refused as I'm not into hook ups, plus I don't know him at all. While chatting we also connected telepathically. I'm able to sense his vibes due to telepathy practices and anytime he thinks of me sexually I feel orgasmic vibes and he is so horny that he can send super strong orgasmic vibes. I told him about it and he said he can feel it from me too and he has never experienced telepathic connection with anyone like this before.

He told me he wanted to meet up and see how we can connect telepathically in person. He has set up a date and asked me to choose what I'd like to do on a date, walk, have lunch or dinner. I chose lunch. But telepathically I sensed he didn't like my answer. After that the closer the date day was the more off vibes he kept sending. I didn't tell him that I knew he didn't react well to my answer however a week later during the lunch time when we were supposed to meet up he didn't contact.

I asked if the date was cancelled he said no, he over slept and still could meet. While setting up the place and time he realized we lived 30 mins away from each other and asked me if I could come to where he lives. I refused since it felt unfair. I'm not someone who likes driving and prefer when a man is more initiative.

My previous boyfriends had no problem with driving however long it was to get to me so I was like this is ridiculous. He said he was too far away and couldn't make it that week.

A week later he asked me out and this time instead of lunch he asked me if I could come to the beach located in his city so we could walk. I said you come to me to the beach in my city instead. I was put off by the change of the plans and him not being enthusiastic about coming to where I lived. He said he chose a fair location and each of us would drive 30 mins equally, but I didn't believe him since the beach is located in his city.

I said if you wanna meet then you have to come to where I live, he didn't reply to my message and thus we didn't meet. Next weekend he kept checking snapchat constantly but didn't send any messages. We can also connected telepathically and he is able to send me telepathic orgasmic vibes which is the only reason I keep considering him as a potential partner since his telepathic connection to me is super strong.

So during the weekend instead of sending a message he kept sending me his telepathic orgasmic vibes which were double the strength but didn't contact me through snapchat. I also didn't reach out since I thought he should have sent a message if he wanted to meet up. Starting on Monday the telepathic connection weakened and he hasn't sent any telepathic vibes but he is still opening the snapchat.

Should I send him any message and if so what should I say? Or do I pass on this dude despite the strength of the telepathic connection we have? I like how strong the orgasms he can send through his thoughts to me but his personality is really putting me off.

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[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, Filler said:

 instead of sending a message he kept sending me his telepathic orgasmic vibes which were double the strength 

Unfortunately it seems there were too many logistical issues meeting up as well as differences in preferences.

Just delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps.

Move forward to someone who is easier to meet in person.

[Ruby Slippers]

Whatever connection you may feel with this guy, he clearly wants to hook up immediately and is being extremely lazy about it. If I were you, I'd block this creep including all his "vibes" from my life.

[Filler]

19 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said:

Whatever connection you may feel with this guy, he clearly wants to hook up immediately and is being extremely lazy about it. If I were you, I'd block this creep including all his "vibes" from my life.

Ok ^_^ that's a good advice thank you for both for knocking some sense into me I had to hear it.

[d0nnivain]

Your telepathy is waaaaayyyyy off.  This guy wants effortless sex, meaning you come to him, he shags you, you leave & he does nothing except enjoy your body.  

Talking to him about these "orgasmic vibes" fed his narrative that you were DFT. 

Next time you have so much telepathy with somebody don't verbalize it.  Wait for them to tell you telepathically.  If they can't or don't, there is no meaningful connection on that plane.  

[Alpacalia]

10 hours ago, Filler said:

He asked me to come over to his place to hang out without going on a date

That should have been your first telepathic clue to move along.

[Filler]

17 minutes ago, Alpaca said:

That should have been your first telepathic clue to move along.

I usually feel this type of a vibe only from creeps who just want sex and nothing more. I just hoped and thought this guy could be different. I guess not.

[Filler]

23 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Your telepathy is waaaaayyyyy off.  This guy wants effortless sex, meaning you come to him, he shags you, you leave & he does nothing except enjoy your body.  

Talking to him about these "orgasmic vibes" fed his narrative that you were DFT. 

Next time you have so much telepathy with somebody don't verbalize it.  Wait for them to tell you telepathically.  If they can't or don't, there is no meaningful connection on that plane.  

I said the same thing to myself that next time I will keep it to myself also because I know more about it now that I asked questions. It was also partly because I wanted to know how the other person feels when sending out this type of a vibe for the research purposes. This is the 3rd time I'm coming across this type of a vibe which is super strong. But I have my answers already now.

[Ruby Slippers]

What's your ultimate goal here? Strong sex vibes can be exchanged with any number of men on dating websites. If that's all a woman wanted, she'd have enough men to keep her occupied for eternity. 

But if it's a meaningful, loving, lasting connection you want, strong sex vibes should not be at the top of the list of priorities. 

[Alpacalia]

8 minutes ago, Filler said:

I usually feel this type of a vibe only from creeps who just want sex and nothing more. I just hoped and thought this guy could be different. I guess not.

Try not to get too down about it. ((Hugs))

Edited March 10, 2021 by Alpaca

[Filler]

18 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said:

What's your ultimate goal here? Strong sex vibes can be exchanged with any number of men on dating websites. If that's all a woman wanted, she'd have enough men to keep her occupied for eternity. 

But if it's a meaningful, loving, lasting connection you want, strong sex vibes should not be at the top of the list of priorities. 

I want both, the meaningful and loving relationship that also contains this type of vibe, because when I communicate or when I'm in a relationship with a guy who doesn't emit this type of vibe I don't get the in love type of feeling. I even thought that I wasn't able to love anyone but have noticed that anytime I had an in love sensation was when I had sensed at least a tiny bit of this type of a vibe coming from a man. Also if I had this vibe an nothing else I'd be fine with it too. I did notice that after I get this vibe I feel satisfied and don't feel like I miss anything. It's 100 times better than the physical, but I don't wanna keep talking to new people to get it. Always looking for a new guy to talk who can emmit this vibe is a lot of work. If you get this while in a relationship then that'd be great for me. Plus the guys who emit this vibe want the physical and stop sending it if I don't get physical and so far only horny guys who are not interested in a relationship have been emitting it. Another thing is, every vibe is different. This guy's vibe is the strongest among all so far and very unique which is why I'm a bit sad that it didn't work out.

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[Filler]

18 minutes ago, Alpaca said:

Try not to get too down about it. ((Hugs))

Thank you for the hug ^_^.

[Ruby Slippers]

9 minutes ago, Filler said:

I want both, the meaningful and loving relationship that also contains this type of vibe, because when I communicate or when I'm in a relationship with a guy who doesn't emit this type of vibe I don't get the in love type of feeling.

I suggest you do some reading and research about the brain chemistry of infatuation versus long-term pair bonded love. Infatuation is a mating response, not meant to last all that long, meant to drive reproduction/sex. But it takes a lot more than that to create and sustain a good relationship. Many relationships end when infatuation runs out and people miss the "butterflies." 

[Filler]

25 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said:

I suggest you do some reading and research about the brain chemistry of infatuation versus long-term pair bonded love. Infatuation is a mating response, not meant to last all that long, meant to drive reproduction/sex. But it takes a lot more than that to create and sustain a good relationship. Many relationships end when infatuation runs out and people miss the "butterflies." 

I know that it's called limerance and when it runs out the in love sensation goes away but I'm responding to a sexual fantasy that men have. I would like a decent guy who is also very imaginative and creative that can send me good vibes that way if he gets tired and stops sending vibes I can still go on because of his good personality until next time qhen he has more stamina and starts sending the vibes again.

[JTSW]

This guy is totally not worth your time or energy.

He wanted you to put in all the work.

He is just looking for hookups, nothing more.

He's also likely sending these orgasmic vibes to lots of other women.

You are too good for somone like that.

[Filler]

1 hour ago, JTSW said:

This guy is totally not worth your time or energy.

He wanted you to put in all the work.

He is just looking for hookups, nothing more.

He's also likely sending these orgasmic vibes to lots of other women.

You are too good for somone like that.

Thank you for your response, I appreciate it. Reading this type of responses are making it easier for me to move on.

[Allupinnit]

This guy is treating online dating like sex-on-demand.  It's why he wanted you to deliver yourself up like a hot pizza to his home the first night, and assumed you were DTF as well when you started talking about sexual vibes.  

He was bummed about a lunch date because sex most often happens after dinner, so it wasn't worth his time or effort to get out of bed for.

He also doesn't feel like driving to your city, probably ever, so what's the point long-term anyway?

[Miss Spider]

23 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said:

I suggest you do some reading and research about the brain chemistry of infatuation versus long-term pair bonded love. Infatuation is a mating response, not meant to last all that long, meant to drive reproduction/sex. But it takes a lot more than that to create and sustain a good relationship. Many relationships end when infatuation runs out and people miss the "butterflies." 

This is me.., how do you keep the butterflies? I’ve dated all kinds of guys and this always happens after the relationships been serious for awhile . I start wanting to date new people. Ugh sorry I guess that’s another thread 

 

But hey, yeah, OP. This guy is super lazy and not about what you’re about at all. The fact that he kind of blew you off when he “overslept” and then had no idea what was even going on would have been enough for me to lose interest.But I guess you’re attracted enough to give it keep trying with this person. 

Edited March 11, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[Filler]

3 hours ago, Allupinnit said:

He was bummed about a lunch date because sex most often happens after dinner, so it wasn't worth his time or effort to get out of bed for.

Oh, I see. Here I thought may be he didn't have money to buy the lunch which is why he was bummed about it. I was lile may be he is in a tight spot. But this does make sense.

[ExpatInItaly]

You are projecting a lot here, I fear. 

You are confusing your desire as the vibes he is sending you, and I think the wrong guys will absolutely take advantage of your belief in this. This sort of man will play along and pretend that he's telepathically connecting too and sending "vibes" just to get you into bed, OP. 

[Miss Spider]

Well if he’s that broke he could always suggest free stuff to do in the daytime hours 

 

& probably should get a little more stable before he goes looking for love, but who am I to judge 

Edited March 11, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[Filler]

46 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

You are projecting a lot here, I fear. 

You are confusing your desire as the vibes he is sending you, and I think the wrong guys will absolutely take advantage of your belief in this. This sort of man will play along and pretend that he's telepathically connecting too and sending "vibes" just to get you into bed, OP. 

I had no desire in this guy and anytime the vibe wore off the desire disappeared along with it. There was a time when he held off of sending any vibes to manipulate me going to see him. I imagined it must have been tough on him knowing how horny he is. He said he could send better vibes in person and I stopped sensing any for a bit until he gave up the idea lol. And at those times I absolutely stopped caring about him. So this is not my projection. It's hard for anyone else to understand it unless they can feel it for themselves. I can even sense if a person has heart palpitations while they keep me in their thoughts. 

Edited March 11, 2021 by Filler

[poppyfields]

3 hours ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

This is me.., how do you keep the butterflies? I’ve dated all kinds of guys and this always happens after the relationships been serious for awhile . I start wanting to date new people. Ugh sorry I guess that’s another thread 

I just read this @Shortskirtslonglashes -- uh oh.     

I hope this doesn't mean what I think it means.  If it does, we're here if you want to talk about it.

@Filler, while I can certainly relate to feeling a sort of mental energy with someone you've been interacting with on line, re this particular guy, it sounds to me like he's humoring you with your ideas about "telepathic vibes"  and possibly gaming you.

I hope I'm wrong!

 

 

Edited March 11, 2021 by poppyfields

[Ruby Slippers]

3 hours ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

This is me.., how do you keep the butterflies? I’ve dated all kinds of guys and this always happens after the relationships been serious for awhile . I start wanting to date new people. Ugh sorry I guess that’s another thread 

It definitely goes beyond this thread, but I'd be glad to discuss elsewhere

[poppyfields]

1 hour ago, Filler said:

I had no desire in this guy and anytime the vibe wore off the desire disappeared along with it. There was a time when he held off of sending any vibes to manipulate me going to see him. I imagined it must have been tough on him knowing how horny he is. He said he could send better vibes in person and I stopped sensing any for a bit until he gave up the idea lol. And at those times I absolutely stopped caring about him. So this is not my projection. It's hard for anyone else to understand it unless they can feel it for themselves. I can even sense if a person has heart palpitations while they keep me in their thoughts. 

The bolded, that's pretty amazing Filler, a sign of a true empath.

However, and jmo from being somewhat of an empath myself, what I think you're sensing (in him/from him) is his energy dropping because he realizes getting you into bed isn't as easy as he initially thought it would be.  Versus consciously sending you telepathic sexual vibes and then consciously stopping.

His vibe changes because again, he had an agenda -- you go to him and have sex with him - and since that's not happening he's disappointed, his energy drops, and that's what you're sensing, again it's not something he is consciously aware of. Again, jmo.

This is said not knowing exactly how empathic you are.  If you can actually feel the feelings of others, and are able to know his feelings, what he's experiencing (i.e. that he's extremely horny and telepathically sending you intense sexual vibes when he is) then that is something entirely different.

In any event, whatever you're searching for, I hope you find it.  Good luck.

 

Edited March 11, 2021 by poppyfields