slowlearner Posted October 16, 2005 Posted October 16, 2005 We live 1500 miles apart. One year on tour together everyday and we fell hard in love. He admitted later that there was a “freind” that he was with for economic reasons but their’s was an on/off type thing. We met inbetween tours and have kept in constant contact. He wants me to be there but I can’t uproot my young child for at least another 1 to 2 years. And he can’t uproot due to his teen child who lives in the same city. But the intense love that we have is beginning to hurt. He says 'hang in there please, we will work it all out' But he seperation and emotional expenditure is too much and the knowledge of this friend weighs on my heart. I feel like I just want emotional peace right now.. I want to preserve all the love we have and give him the time to get his life together to be able to receive us when and if that time comes. I want to get back m control of my emotions and not lose any control that might harm us. I need to let him go. How do I do that in a dignified and respectful manner so that it leaves the love and friendship in tack for possibly a later time. What do I say? And what do I do after?
kitten chick Posted October 16, 2005 Posted October 16, 2005 Wow slowlearner. That was quite a post, very heartfelt. You're in a very difficult situation. I'm hardly an expert in this arena but I hope that someone who is will respond. I may be wrong but I think if you're honest with him and express yourself as you have done here you have a good chance of keeping the relationship alive.
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