elaine567 Posted March 9, 2021 Posted March 9, 2021 On 3/8/2021 at 1:41 PM, Gaeta said: Not quite She said: I think we texted the next day, I said I was turning in and heading for bed and then I never heard from him again. Sounds like he followed up but was not welcomed for a conversation. IIRC, MO has done this to another guy too. She stops the conversation dead to go to bed... then blames the poor chap for not being interested. 3
HiCrunchy Posted March 9, 2021 Posted March 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, elaine567 said: IIRC, MO has done this to another guy too. She stops the conversation dead to go to bed... then blames the poor chap for not being interested. Sometimes when i wanna sleep I say something like " I'm so sleepy, going to bed, but talk tmw okay?". It tends to leave things open 1
Author mortensorchid Posted March 10, 2021 Author Posted March 10, 2021 I think it's ridiculous to contact someone you had one internet date with a few years ago. I mean, how much can you know about someone after one brief encounter like an internet date meet up? Nerves can and do play a role but when you have this endless, faceless train of the same guys over and over it's annoying. I went on another a while ago and practiced all of these things suggested in this and past threads (smile more, dress up a bit better, etc.) And never heard a word from him again. So life goes on.
Gaeta Posted March 10, 2021 Posted March 10, 2021 8 hours ago, mortensorchid said: I think it's ridiculous to contact someone you had one internet date with a few years ago. I mean, how much can you know about someone after one brief encounter like an internet date meet up? I really don't follow you. No it's not ridiculous. People's situation and availability change in 2 years. You know nothing after 1 meeting, that's why you go to 2nd meetings, 3rd meeting and so on. I see you are stuck in your ways and mentality, how has that been working for you so far? I'm starting to think you don't really want to meet someone. 3
introverted1 Posted March 10, 2021 Posted March 10, 2021 9 hours ago, mortensorchid said: I think it's ridiculous to contact someone you had one internet date with a few years ago. I mean, how much can you know about someone after one brief encounter like an internet date meet up? You won't know much, which is why taking the next step -- in this case, a hike -- makes sense. Quote Nerves can and do play a role but when you have this endless, faceless train of the same guys over and over it's annoying. I went on another a while ago and practiced all of these things suggested in this and past threads (smile more, dress up a bit better, etc.) And never heard a word from him again. So life goes on. Just because it didn't work the one time you tried it doesn't mean it's flawed advice. For one, it's not that easy to change patterns of behavior, so it's impossible for anyone to know (including you, I'd argue) whether you really did do practice the advice you've been given or if what was a baby step just felt drastically different to you. And, again, even if you did pull off a 180, one unsuccessful date does not mean the approach is wrong; just that the match was. What I and others have been trying to tell you is to lighten up a bit. Have some friendly/flirty banter and then go on the date. Have fun. Quit trying to assess his intentions before you've even met. It's easier to do in person and, unless you are so busy you truly can't spare a few hours out of your week, what is the big deal with just going on the date and seeing how it goes? If he contacts you again, look for ways to get to "yes." This means not cutting off conversations because you have to go to bed or shutting down invitations without offering an alternative. In a nutshell: Be the person you'd want to date. 2
smackie9 Posted March 10, 2021 Posted March 10, 2021 1 hour ago, introverted1 said: In a nutshell: Be the person you'd want to date. I like this^^^
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