Scorpio distant hot and cold

[Gina2203]

Matched with this scorpio man on dating website. It was instant connection that we exchanged numbers the same day. After few days talking to each other, we knew we had to meet each other. When we met it was amazing, deep connection. He made me feel so special, held my hands the entire night and we even kissed. Unforgettable night. He said he wanted to see me again. 4 days later he started to withdraw and I felt so worried. I started to come out a little strong and told him I liked him. ( I know he likes me too). 
 

he started being distant, pulling away, withdrawing. Then I messaged him and asked him if everything was okay, conversations don’t feel the same anymore. 
 

he replied and said that he is busy with work (he runs a business) and “it’s the worst time in the world to meet”. He wants to give me his undivided attention that I deserve. He said he will have more time down couple months. 
 

I was pretty understanding and respectful of his decision. I’m so hurt just disappeared like that.... he’s always online but never messages me. I never felt this way about anyone. I really believe he is the (one). 
 

what do I do :( 

[mark clemson]

While I'm not overmuch a believer in astrology, I think there are some folks who label themselves "scorpio's" (or perhaps get labelled that by others) because they have a tendency to be "on/off" in relationships (and possibly other areas of life).

Generally you can't make someone like you back as much as you like them or behave a certain way in a relationship. You can make an attempt or overture or two to see if you can get him back/interested again. If that works, perhaps give it another go. More likely IMO it doesn't, in which case the best thing to do is recognize the situation for what it is and move on. This is very early, so if he's not going to be interested it's probably better that you're finding that out now.

[Gina2203]

Matched with Scorpio man on dating website. It was instant connection that we exchanged numbers the same day. 
 

After talking back and forth we decided to see each other that same week. It just felt right! When we met it was amazing! He made me feel so special, we held hands, kissed and hugged each other. I never felt so naked with anyone the way I did with him. The connection was deep, we wanted the same things in life! I knew in my heart my search was over.  He said he wanted to see me again. 
 

After few days, he started to become distant and withdraw. He said the connection was too intense for him. So I started to text him more.... led to more delayed response. I felt like he didn’t like me anymore? Not sure what happened ? He asked me if I was free weekday but I told him I wasnt and I’m free on the weekend.  (No response after that) 

couple hours later... I texted him asking if everything was okay, conversations doesn’t feel the same. (Maybe I came on too strong and too fast). 
 

he apologized and said he is busy with work (true, he runs his business) and he feels bad he can’t give me attention I deserve. He said when things slow down at work he will have time. He wants to get to know me.... I told him I understood and respected his decision. (Deep down my heart was broken). How could he not feel our connection was special ? Why doesn’t he wanna make time for me? 
He is online , never texts... im worried he lost interest... I want him back ! 
Is he just being a Scorpio or has he lost interest ? 
I don’t feel the same person anymore. I really feel like he is the one for me. 

 

 

 

[basil67]

Your believed that he was the love of your life after just one week of talking and one date?   Star sign has nothing to do with this:   You were too fast, too intense and when he told you as much, you started to text him more.   Sorry to say, he ran for the hills.  

[Miss Spider]

I don’t know if the month he was born is really relevant here. It sounds like he lost interest. Maybe he felt you came on too strong. 

8 minutes ago, Gina2203 said:

He said the connection was too intense for him. 

 

 

[poppyfields]

My ex (the man I just broke up with) is a Scorpio, deep and intense.  Pulled away early in, I reached out, and we reconnected.  He was (is) very moody, emotional and complicated.  

Also, he needed a TON of "space," as did I so that wasn't such a problem.  It might be for you though.

I don't know how to advise you, except leave him alone and good luck if he returns and you decide to move forward with him.

 

Edited March 6, 2021 by poppyfields

[poppyfields]

15 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Your believed that he was the love of your life after just one week of talking and one date?   Star sign has nothing to do with this:   You were too fast, too intense and when he told you as much, you started to text him more.   Sorry to say, he ran for the hills.  

No basil, my ex is a Scorpio and he was the same, they love deep and intense!  And they themselves will push for it early in, but then retreat.  

You need to be OKAY with this and let him have his space otherwise it won't work.

 

Edited March 6, 2021 by poppyfields

[Gina2203]

I know deep down inside he likes me! Maybe he is right, it wasn’t the right time. How long should I give before I contact him ? 1 month? 

[Miss Spider]

Hmmm my current bf is Scorpio and he wants to talk/ see me more often than I want to see him lol ( I am making a rule that I take the time so I do not get burnt out in any more relationships  ) I am an Aquarius. Are there ones that are the opposite?  Kind of like there are Aquarius that are shy and there are ones that are outgoinG ( like me) 

20 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

My ex (the man I just broke up with) is a Scorpio, deep and intense.  Pulled away early in, I reached out, and we reconnected.  He was (is) very moody, emotional and complicated.  

Also, he needed a TON of "space," as did I so that wasn't such a problem.  It might be for you though.

I don't know how to advise you, except leave him alone and good luck if he returns and you decide to move forward with him.

 

My boyfriend and I are not compatible if you are solely talking astrology lol 

 

Except we ARE compatible and I’m also compatible with my dog who is also a Scorpio😆

Edited March 6, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[poppyfields]

1 minute ago, Gina2203 said:

I know deep down inside he likes me! Maybe he is right, it wasn’t the right time. How long should I give before I contact him ? 1 month? 

Knowing what I know now, I would strongly advise you to move on Gina2203, but your call.  Best of luck.

 

[Miss Spider]

I didn’t have that xp , but maybe it has to do with his moon and stars or whatever.... 

[poppyfields]

2 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

Hmmm my current bf is Scorpio and he wants to talk/ see me more often than I want to see him lol ( I am making a rule that I take the time so I do not get burnt out in any more relationships  ) I am an Aquarius. Are there are ones that are the opposite?  Kind of like there are Aquarius that are shy and there are ones that are outgoinG ( like me) 

My boyfriend and I are not compatible if you are solely talking astrology lol 

 

Except we ARE compatible and I’m also compatible with my dog who is a Scorpio 😂

There is a lot more involved in astrology than one's sun sign.  Your boyfriend may have a lot of "air" in his chart (Aquarius is an air sign) so if he does, then he won't be as intense and explains why you're compatible.

My ex is Scorpio sun, moon, and his rising is also Scorpio.  His Venus is in my sun sign, Cancer, which made us compatible, there's A LOT more to it than their sun sign.

There are also other factors over and above astrological sun signs, but in any event @ Gina, this guy has pulled away, my advice is LEAVE HIM ALONE, and like I said if he returns, proceed with caution.

 

 

[Miss Spider]

8 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

There is a lot more involved in astrology than one's sun sign.  Your boyfriend may have a lot of "air" in his chart (Aquarius is an air sign) so if he does, then he won't be as intense and explains why you're compatible.

My ex is Scorpio sun, moon, and his rising is also Scorpio.  His Venus is in my sun sign, Cancer, which made us compatible, there's A LOT more to it than their sun sign.

There are also other factors over and above astrological sun signs, but in any event @ Gina, this guy has pulled away, my advice is LEAVE HIM ALONE, and like I said if he returns, proceed with caution.

 

 

Well, we are relatively early on in the relationship. So yea, he may run😂Never say never 

 

He actually is pretty intense though. compared to me. And many other guys I’ve dated

 

astrology is so interesting to me even though I don’t believe it completely. Taureans are my absolute favorite based on description

Edited March 6, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[poppyfields]

10 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

He actually is pretty intense though. compared to me and other guys I’ve dated, at least 

astrology is so interesting to me even though I don’t believe it completely. Taureans are my absolute favorite based on description

You like that though, don't you?  Deep, dark, intense?  I recall reading that on one of your threads and I agreed!  

As a Cancer, the best sun sign for me is Taurus but for some reason I have never clicked with any that I've met!

I am changing though, so maybe the next Taurus I meet, I will feel differently, who knows.

I find astrology somewhat intriguing too but there is so much more involved in connecting with someone, that I don't put a whole lot of value on it.

@Gina, maybe forget his sun sign and focus on his actions.  He's came on super strong, then pulled away, I say do nothing and live your life.

If he returns, figure out how you feel then.  As strong as HE came on, you matching his intensity may not have been a good thing.

He may like/need a bit of a challenge to sustain his interest.

Edited March 6, 2021 by poppyfields

[Miss Spider]

8 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

 

I find astrology somewhat intriguing too but there is so much more involved in connecting with someone, that I don't put a whole lot of value on it.

@Gina, maybe forget his sun sign and focus on his actions.  He's came on super strong, then pulled away, I say do nothing and live your life.

If he returns, figure out how you feel then.  As strong as HE came on, you matching his intensity may not have been a good thing.

He may like/need a bit of a challenge to sustain his interest.

I agree completely. I know I do. When you’ve got it in the bag too soon, it loses a lot of its appeal. @gina, you know what I mean! Some of us need that uncertainty to really wander about someone and get us to fall... so pull back and if the connection was as intense as you say, he’ll be back 

 

I have never met a Taurean guy I liked either but I will say that reading the description that they are steadfast, consistent, reliable, etc these are all traits I am desperately in need of more of personally. 

Edited March 6, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[Gina2203]

You’re right I did come out strong. But he started it! He came out so intense and I just felt comfortable to share. Il distance myself and if he returns great. If not it was a good experience. I just hope I meet another Scorpio ... love the intensity 

[poppyfields]

12 minutes ago, Gina2203 said:

You’re right I did come out strong. But he started it! He came out so intense and I just felt comfortable to share. Il distance myself and if he returns great. If not it was a good experience. I just hope I meet another Scorpio ... love the intensity 

Great attitude, that's exactly how you should view it. 

As far as him being intense and you felt comfortable sharing that same intensity, I have always found a bit of a polarity to be a good thing.  

Meaning, him intense, you more light, easy and carefree.  It's balances things out.

Just a thought for if he ever returns or for your next experience. 

Edited March 6, 2021 by poppyfields

[Miss Spider]

16 minutes ago, Gina2203 said:

You’re right I did come out strong. But he started it! He came out so intense and I just felt comfortable to share. Il distance myself and if he returns great. If not it was a good experience. I just hope I meet another Scorpio ... love the intensity 

Wonder* Sorry I am using voice to text. Are you also a Scorpio?

Edited March 6, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[Gina2203]

I’m an Aries-passionate.

[ExpatInItaly]

7 hours ago, Gina2203 said:

I know deep down inside he likes me! Maybe he is right, it wasn’t the right time. How long should I give before I contact him ? 1 month? 

I don't mean to be unkind, but if he's distant after just one date...he doesn't like you the way you hoped. That's not a shot at you; it's simply arriving at the logical conclusion that he didn't quite feel it the way he expected and has changed his mind. 

Too much, too soon. It's not about the day he was born. 

[Gina2203]

He actually told me he wanted to see me again and asked what my weekday was looking like. I told him I was busy... after that he just told me he’s busy with work and he wants to know me but it’s not the right time. He gave me mixed signals 

[primer]

16 hours ago, poppyfields said:

My ex (the man I just broke up with) is a Scorpio, deep and intense.  Pulled away early in, I reached out, and we reconnected.  He was (is) very moody, emotional and complicated.  

Also, he needed a TON of "space," as did I so that wasn't such a problem.  It might be for you though.

I don't know how to advise you, except leave him alone and good luck if he returns and you decide to move forward with him.

 

Do you think your ex was like that because he is a Scorpio?

Does he maybe have emotional issues?

[Brooke02]

17 hours ago, poppyfields said:

My ex (the man I just broke up with) is a Scorpio, deep and intense.  Pulled away early in, I reached out, and we reconnected.  He was (is) very moody, emotional and complicated.  

Also, he needed a TON of "space," as did I so that wasn't such a problem.  It might be for you though.

I don't know how to advise you, except leave him alone and good luck if he returns and you decide to move forward with him.

 

I agree with Poppyfields on this one. Scorpio (not saying all) but the ones I’ve known incl my ex were exactly that ^ moody, emotional etc. 
Whats your sign if you don’t mind me asking?

[Fletch Lives]

I'm a Scorpio n I'm not like that. Maybe 😛

[Miss Spider]

17 hours ago, poppyfields said:

You like that though, don't you?  Deep, dark, intense?

Haha I just saw this. I like deep and dark but not intense so much.. it’s the reason I hesitated initially. He was... much. Lol  But I gave it a shot and I’m glad I did. 

 

16 hours ago, Gina2203 said:

I’m an Aries-passionate.

 Aries people are supposed to be fun and that checks out for me. Most of my friends are Aries. Aries/Scorpios are supposedly more compatibile than Aquarius/Scorpio. 

*!Can we say we’re compatible signs if they’re our exes ... like before I’ve dated all my supposedly *compatible* signs (sag, libra) and I didn’t like them/feel compatible lol. 

 

 

Edited March 6, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes