Honey

[poppyfields]

1 hour ago, Britney25 said:

...he said I'm a man and alpha dog. 

LOL, I guess it's just me but I thought this was kinda funny!  Did he put an lol or wink after it or something indicating he was joking with ya?

I dunno, I love a bit of cockiness and teasing, but this is probably why I need to stay away from men for awhile....   since everyone else interprets this as him being a sexist pig.

Carry on Brit! 

 

Edited February 24, 2021 by poppyfields

[Britney25]

33 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

LOL, I guess it's just me but I thought this was kinda funny!  Did he put an lol or wink after it or something indicating he was joking with ya?

I dunno, I love a bit of cockiness and teasing, but this is probably why I need to stay away from men for awhile....   since everyone else interprets this as him being a sexist pig.

Carry on Brit! 

 

Nope no wink or lol after that. I think he has a big ego and notice he didn't tell me what hes looking for. I mean I dont understand why he had to mention this lol

[poppyfields]

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Nope no wink or lol after that. I think he has a big ego and notice he didn't tell me what hes looking for. I mean I dont understand why he had to mention this lol

Well, I think he was probably just messin with ya, that's all.  If that's not your style, then don't meet him.

Depending on my mood, I may have had some fun with his "alpha dog" comment lol, but my style is different from yours, I DO think dating should be fun.

But you have your own style and if you didn't like it, or think it means he's a sexist pig as d0nnivain and others suggested, that's your right.

Just keep going, the right guy for you will come along. 

 

 

[Britney25]

6 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Well, I think he was probably just messin with ya, that's all.  If that's not your style, then don't meet him.

Depending on my mood, I may have had some fun with his "alpha dog" comment lol, but my style is different from yours, I DO think dating should be fun.

But you have your own style and if you didn't like it, or think it means he's a sexist pig as d0nnivain and others suggested, that's your right.

Just keep going, the right guy for you will come along. 

 

 

I think yes dating should be fun but from him I got bad vibes, that he just wants to sleep with me. I don't think that comment was sexist but everyone else does. Should I just have s coffee with him?

[peach302]

18 hours ago, Britney25 said:

He is 50 and from NYC 

50? How old are you. Sorry i assumed you were in your 20s

[Gaeta]

2 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Should I just have s coffee with him?

Are you THAT desperate that you have to entertain all the weirdos showing you attention? The man is cocky, rude, condescending toward you. Why in the world would you want to give him your time?

[peach302]

2 hours ago, Britney25 said:

He said I'm being to tough.  Date should be fun not a job interview.  I think we should meet in afternoon just to say hi and see if we have chemistry. Honey is not a bad word  its swee and you're a Man an alpha dog.

he called himself an alpha dog?

Erm i would have swiftly moved on after that. No questions asked

[d0nnivain]

4 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I think yes dating should be fun but from him I got bad vibes, that he just wants to sleep with me. I don't think that comment was sexist but everyone else does. Should I just have s coffee with him?

If you got a bad vibe why on earth would you want to have coffee with him?  Makes no sense.    

I would date a man like that because he'd be fun to push around but honestly I don't think you have what it takes to play at his level so you should stay away.   He is a PLAYER in the world's largest playground.  He will eat you for lunch emotionally & maybe physically if you let him.  

The fact that you are 30 makes this a lot less creepy but still he does NOT want a serious relationship.  Why waste your time?  

[peach302]

7 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I think yes dating should be fun but from him I got bad vibes, that he just wants to sleep with me. I don't think that comment was sexist but everyone else does. Should I just have s coffee with him?

So he changed it from a dinner to coffee? Because you said some things he didn't like?

Forget this dude 

 

[peach302]

1 minute ago, d0nnivain said:

If you got a bad vibe why on earth would you want to have coffee with him?  Makes no sense.    

I would date a man like that because he'd be fun to push around but honestly I don't think you have what it takes to play at his level so you should stay away.   He is a PLAYER in the world's largest playground.  He will eat you for lunch emotionally & maybe physically if you let him.  

The fact that you are 30 makes this a lot less creepy but still he does NOT want a serious relationship.  Why waste your time?  

Its still creepy. Im in that age bracket and would not date a 50 year old.

[Britney25]

13 minutes ago, peach302 said:

50? How old are you. Sorry i assumed you were in your 20s

30

[Gaeta]

12 minutes ago, peach302 said:

he called himself an alpha dog?

Yep, but he's only a wannabe alpha male. 

See, real Alpha Male don't need to brag to women about being alpha, they just are. 

The dog that barks the loudest (like this guy) are just imaginary alpha males.

[poppyfields]

22 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I think yes dating should be fun but from him I got bad vibes, that he just wants to sleep with me. I don't think that comment was sexist but everyone else does. Should I just have s coffee with him?

That is certainly your prerogative Britney.  I may have thought that also, but I can handle myself in such situations, a man wanting to sleep with me doesn't scare me.  I mean pretty much all men I meet want to sleep with me lol, it's my choice whether that happens or not.

But you do YOU and no given how you feel, I do not think you should have coffee with him or anything else.

 

 

Edited February 24, 2021 by poppyfields

[Versacehottie]

24 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I think yes dating should be fun but from him I got bad vibes, that he just wants to sleep with me. I don't think that comment was sexist but everyone else does. Should I just have s coffee with him?

Idk, we can split hairs over if it's sexist or not or your willingness to be playful with the comment (which if in context of general overall playfulness between you both could be fine) BUT bottom line, it doesn't sound like you find anything appealing about him...so why would you waste your time?

Is a guy showing some level of interest the ONLY criteria?

I don't see either in the way you've described him or your feelings about him or in his own actions, anything appealing.  The big question is do you?

[Gaeta]

30 minutes ago, Versacehottie said:

your willingness to be playful with the comment

If you're a confident woman with dating experience you could play his game and keep him at arm's length till he realizes  he's dealing with a woman that won't be taken for a fool. But, Britney is far far far from being that woman. I mean no disrespect toward you Britney. She does not have the dating/men experience to tackle that one. She would be eaten alive, spit out, and left wondering what happened. 

Edited February 24, 2021 by Gaeta

[Crazelnut]

5 hours ago, Britney25 said:

I want serious not fun.

Then why are you even asking this question? Did you not read everything we wrote here? About the red flags, that we listed out? Do you think this guy wants a serious relationship? 

[winny]

1 hour ago, Britney25 said:

I think yes dating should be fun but from him I got bad vibes, that he just wants to sleep with me. I don't think that comment was sexist but everyone else does. Should I just have s coffee with him?

Just cause someone wants to sleep with you doesn't make them a bad person. Its just that you both have separate expectations. 

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Britney25 said:

I think yes dating should be fun but from him I got bad vibes, that he just wants to sleep with me. 

Why not date local guys you could get on the same wavelength with? Just cancel if he seems too creepy. Is he married? 

[winny]

3 hours ago, Britney25 said:

You're a woman I'm an alpha dog.

Block him! Not worth your time.

[Gaeta]

3 hours ago, Britney25 said:

You're a woman I'm an alpha dog.

When a man tells you he's a dog.....believe him!

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, Britney25 said:

You're a woman I'm an alpha dog.

More like horndog. 

Edited February 24, 2021 by Wiseman2

[poppyfields]

I think he may have been teasing.  I mean no man who was actually a true "dog" (meaning something malicious) would announce it so blatantly the way he did. 

Or would he?  Hard to say, but the way I read it, it sounds like he was trying to have some fun with you.  Fun in a good way.

Just my take.  I could be wrong! 

If this were me, and I found him attractive (or his pics attractive), I would meet him and get a feel for him on the date.  I would NOT agree to dinner though, something more casual for a first meet, maybe drinks and apps at the bar or something.

He doesn't sound like your cup of tea though Britney, so just next him and be done.

 

[Versacehottie]

34 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

If you're a confident woman with dating experience you could play his game and keep him at arm's length till he realizes  he's dealing with a woman that won't be taken for a fool. But, Britney is far far far from being that woman. I mean no disrespect toward you Britney. She does not have the dating/men experience to tackle that one. She would be eaten alive, spit out, and left wondering what happened. 

lol, if she wants to do it for sport or for toying with him, it might be funny and educational....but I agree, seems like she would not be up to the task.  

I'd be the most concerned that she doesn't "hold her own" and it'd turn from playing a game with him (argument that it's not HIS game if you can play it as well) into her getting chewed up and spit out---as evidence by the fact that she is still allowing contact in a helpless, entertaining way.  She has more power than she thinks but only if she actually believes that and uses it.

[winny]

5 hours ago, Britney25 said:

I want serious not fun.

Dating has to be fun even if you are looking for a serious relationship eventually. No one wants to go on a date and be serious. 

I don't find him saying "lets have fun" as a red flag. But I do find the words "honey" and "alpha dog" offensive.

[MsJayne]

17 hours ago, Trail Blazer said:

Or perhaps he just wants to have sex with women in their 20s because he's attracted to their youthful looks and innocence owing to a lack of life experience?  

 

Yes, true. Either way there's misogyny driving the behaviour.