Honey

[Gaeta]

1 hour ago, Britney25 said:

@Gaeta so he texted me this morning " I dont know what a serious date is, I thought we would have fun at dinner. I thought you date older men? What's up? "

How do I respond?

Britney: He's taking you for a fool. 

You think at 50 years old man doesn't know what a serious dinner date is? 

Edited February 24, 2021 by Gaeta

[Gaeta]

4 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

Go on the date, but keep sex off the table and see what happens. He can't make you have sex or anything else...you are of free will and can think for yourself. Don't make things so difficult, it's not worth your energy. You are an adult woman, take control and go. if it doesn't work out to your expectations, at least you had a nice evening out and a free meal. Not bad I say.

I'm afraid she is too naive and not assertive enough to stand her ground and she'll end up with all her naivety in a hotel room  believing the guy doesn't want sex.

[Britney25]

36 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Britney: He's taking you for a fool. 

You think at 50 years old man doesn't know what a serious dinner date is? 

Of course he does. 

[Britney25]

32 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I'm afraid she is too naive and not assertive enough to stand her ground and she'll end up with all her naivety in a hotel room  believing the guy doesn't want sex.

Well I wouldn't feel comfortable going on this dinner date as I would feel like a one night girl. That's not who I am. I wouldnt be able to enjoy myself if that's what his motives are anyway. What's the point ? I dont care for a free meal.

[d0nnivain]

Just now, Britney25 said:

Well I wouldn't feel comfortable going on this dinner date as I would feel like a one night girl. That's not who I am. I wouldnt be able to enjoy myself if that's what his motives are anyway. What's the point ? I dont care for a free meal.

At this point you are only speculating at his motives.  There is evidence that he may be interested in sex with a younger woman.  I think he'd be open to a NSA sugar baby on going thing but if that is not what you want, he's not your guy.  I find it hard to believe that he's looking for a relationship with a woman half his age.   For a relationship his floor would probably be 35ish or maybe younger if she matched him in education.  But this does read a lot more like him looking for a good time.  

So either clarify his motives or move on. 

[Gaeta]

2 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

So either clarify his motives or move on. 

You still think his motives aren't clear? He dumped her last night when she said she's looking for a serious dinner date.

[d0nnivain]

1 minute ago, Gaeta said:

You still think his motives aren't clear? He dumped her last night when she said she's looking for a serious dinner date.

I missed the "dumping" because they are apparently still communicating. 

I agree that it's 95% sure he wants NSA with a young hottie or a sugar baby but I like my rose colored glasses so I will always hold out skeptical hope that he may be open to dating her respectfully. 

I was a once a hot 25 year old in NYC & rich older men would often take me to dinner.  I never felt pressured  but then again I am a strong savvy woman so even at that young age I was tough to bully or manipulate.   Some men are OK with just having a hot young thing on their arm.  Then again times have changed.  

[Gaeta]

9 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Of course he does. 

So, if you fully understand that this 50 year old man knows what a serious date is, then why do you need help understanding what he means? 

He dropped you last night for clarifying with him you are looking for a serious date. He didn't ask what you meant, he didn't act surprised like it could be a misunderstanding, NO he dumped you! What ever he may say today means nothing. 

[Gaeta]

5 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

I missed the "dumping" because they are apparently still communicating. 

She text him to clarify she was looking for a serious dinner date because he was calling her honey and wanting extra picture. He replied back to her ok honey have fun since we wont

 

[Britney25]

1 hour ago, Gaeta said:

Britney: He's taking you for a fool. 

You think at 50 years old man doesn't know what a serious dinner date is? 

Ok he replied he thinks I'm too thought that it shouldnt be a job interview.  Maybe it's best we dont meet for dinner but in the afternoon to say hi and see if theres chemistry. I do want to meet you but honey is not a bad word. You're a woman I'm an alpha dog.

[Britney25]

26 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

At this point you are only speculating at his motives.  There is evidence that he may be interested in sex with a younger woman.  I think he'd be open to a NSA sugar baby on going thing but if that is not what you want, he's not your guy.  I find it hard to believe that he's looking for a relationship with a woman half his age.   For a relationship his floor would probably be 35ish or maybe younger if she matched him in education.  But this does read a lot more like him looking for a good time.  

So either clarify his motives or move on. 

He said I'm being to tough.  Date should be fun not a job interview.  I think we should meet in afternoon just to say hi and see if we have chemistry. Honey is not a bad word  its swee and you're a Man an alpha dog.

Edited February 24, 2021 by Britney25

[d0nnivain]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

He said I'm being to tough.  Date should be fun not a job interview.  I think we should meet in afternoon just to say hi and see if we have chemistry. Honey is not a bad word and you're a woman I'm an alpha dog.

He's a condescending sexist pig.  Do not meet him.  

[introverted1]

1 hour ago, HiCrunchy said:

She is 25

She must have the secret to anti-aging. She said she was 25 back in December, 2015. 

 

[Britney25]

Just now, d0nnivain said:

He's a condescending sexist pig.  Do not meet him.  

Sorry he said I'm a man and alpha dog. Omg 

[NuevoYorko]

Doesn't sound very promising.

[d0nnivain]

5 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Sorry he said I'm a man and alpha dog. Omg 

He's still being condescending & is showing he doesn't respect you.  

@Britney25-- I'm sorry but this man will use all of his lawyerly skills to persuade you to fall into bed with him.  I fear that if you go on this "date" you will cave in.  He's way more sophisticated then you are & will use that to take advantage of you.  The fact that you are still playing with this fire tells me you are going to get burned.  

Block & be done already.  Nothing good can come from this now.  Why are you still engaging with him? 

[Versacehottie]

5 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

She must have the secret to anti-aging. She said she was 25 back in December, 2015. 

 

At least be honest with us about who you are, OP...  Or all we all just wasting time responding to you?

Needless to say, assuming that your dilemma is real and you are real in the details you've provided, why indulge this anymore?  Why keep communicating with him?  He's crass at best.  He's poking at you.  I think he thinks he will "win" which is not the right spirit.  You are splitting hairs and naive to think changing the venue and time will change his motivations.  You said you wanted a dinner date and he MOCKED you.  Immediate block.

If you live in NYC, you are going to need to get much more savvy, quickly.

[Gaeta]

16 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

You're a woman I'm an alpha dog.

Block!!!!! *rolling eyes**

[Versacehottie]

15 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Sorry he said I'm a man and alpha dog. Omg 

lol is this thread for entertainment purposes?

No way in the world would I consider any guy who talked to me in that way.  Surely your self-esteem is higher than this?  Show him (and teach yourself) that people can't talk to you that way.  Surely you are not so desperate that you would even consider going out with him or wasting another minute of breath or typing a message?

Edited February 24, 2021 by Versacehottie

[Britney25]

2 minutes ago, Versacehottie said:

lol is this thread for entertainment purposes?

No way in the world would I consider any guy who talked to me in that way.  Surely your self-esteem is higher than this?  Show him (and teach yourself) that people can't talk to you that way.  Surely you are not so desperate that you would even consider going out with him or wasting another minute of breath or typing a message?

I kid you not he texted that. No I'm not that desperate and yes I just want to let everyone know that's helping me what he said that's all.

[Minneloa]

Can you clarify your age? 

[d0nnivain]

So help yourself & give us closure by confirming that you have blocked him.  

[Britney25]

9 minutes ago, Minneloa said:

Can you clarify your age? 

I'm not 25 I never said I'm 25 right now. If I have must've been a typo. I am 30

[HiCrunchy]

Okay even at 30 I'd stay away from 50 year old men. I'd do 35 - 40ish if u wanna date older

Edited February 24, 2021 by HiCrunchy

[introverted1]

6 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

 I am 30

You have been in NYC for 5+ years and are a grown woman.  With respect, I simply do not understand how you have not figured out what you want out of dating by now - not just your wishes but your boundaries and definition of acceptable behavior.  You should not need 20+ pages of discussion about a potential second date (your last thread) or what's currently 5 pages on a man you haven't even met.

If you clarify for yourself what you want -- the specific qualities you are looking for, not just vague stuff like "a nice man" or "a mature man" --  along with the behaviors you won't tolerate, you will have a much easier time filtering potential dates.  Posting on LS (or any forum) can be helpful when things are murky, but having clarity in your own mind first and foremost is what will best serve you as move forward.