Darkdude Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 Im going to tell a little about my relationship. Im 20 years old and i been dating this girl that is 17 years old for about 1yr 7months. When we first started everything was fine the first 7 months. We saw each all the time and just started to have little fights and then she would want to go chill with her friends or want her space. Then after she dumped me saying i was not the one we moved on. Then she calls me 2 months later wanting to hang out so we did but that night of hanging out was just to hard for me and then she is like WE are NOthing MOre then Friends. So i just had to go cuz it was that hard for me and i said, "i couldnt be just friends with u". Then she calls me about 1 month later saying i want to give it another chance cuz your the only guy that understands me and all that Crap. SO we get back together and everything IS GOING Great for about 9 months. SHe is saying She loves me and im the only guy she can see herself with and then the fights come again cuz she wants to chill and just do what ever she wants. I was HER first Everything By the way if that matters? We first did it about 2 months before we broke up the 2 end time. She calls me saying she dosent know what she wants so she breaks up with me. BUt about 1 month Everything was fine. I dont understand Why she keeps doing this to me. How should i handle this and why dose are relationship so off and on? I dont understand why she dose this to me.
Asmera Posted October 16, 2005 Posted October 16, 2005 I understand your situation. It's very similar to mine. I think our exes do it because we are better than nothing, kind of like they hang on to us just in case nothing better comes along. My ex was spending every weekend at my place, telling me wonderful things, then a few days later saying we are just friends. I am trying to break all ties with him because it's too painful and it really sucks. Now he calls all the time about stupid stuff.......just to see if he can get the "feel goods" out of me......me saying that I want to be with him. After awhile I realized I was the only one ever hurting. I haven't been contacting him, and I feel much better. I have my bad spots where I just white knuckle it through. Then I feel resolved to just let him go. Hang in there........you can't control what she does, but you CAN control yourself!!!
Aureus Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Im going to tell a little about my relationship. Im 20 years old and i been dating this girl that is 17 years old for about 1yr 7months. When we first started everything was fine the first 7 months. We saw each all the time and just started to have little fights and then she would want to go chill with her friends or want her space. Then after she dumped me saying i was not the one we moved on. Then she calls me 2 months later wanting to hang out so we did but that night of hanging out was just to hard for me and then she is like WE are NOthing MOre then Friends. So i just had to go cuz it was that hard for me and i said, "i couldnt be just friends with u". Then she calls me about 1 month later saying i want to give it another chance cuz your the only guy that understands me and all that Crap. SO we get back together and everything IS GOING Great for about 9 months. SHe is saying She loves me and im the only guy she can see herself with and then the fights come again cuz she wants to chill and just do what ever she wants. I was HER first Everything By the way if that matters? We first did it about 2 months before we broke up the 2 end time. She calls me saying she dosent know what she wants so she breaks up with me. BUt about 1 month Everything was fine. I dont understand Why she keeps doing this to me. How should i handle this and why dose are relationship so off and on? I dont understand why she dose this to me. My situation is the same. We have broken up 2 times. The 2nd breakup is what I am going through now. And the same hot and cold emotions too. Argh. It's funny how we still love them after all of this.
J dub Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 It's funny how we still love them after all of this. By 'funny' I think you mean 'ironic' or 'bad'. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
jc Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I'm going through the 3rd big breakup with my on-again, off-again guy. I don't know why we still love them, it's like an addiction. But I hate how people just expect you to get over them right away. It's been 2 months since the last breakup but I am not over him, not even close.
J dub Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I'm going through the 3rd big breakup with my on-again, off-again guy. I don't know why we still love them, it's like an addiction. But I hate how people just expect you to get over them right away. It's been 2 months since the last breakup but I am not over him, not even close. No one here expects another to "just get over" their love, because all of us on here are distraught for some reason or another and dropping it like a mediocre issue is impossible. All I am suggesting in my previous quote is, if you keep falling in to the same trap, youre going to drive yourself insane and eventually drain out your support system. Ever met someone who is in a horrible relationship and all they do is complain to you, yet they refuse to cut themselves loose and work on recovery? It gets old. Walking away from the one you love is in no way easy, but in retrospect its going to be so much BETTER than remaining in this vicious cycle of breaking up and getting back together.
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