I daydream about my girlfriend. but when we get together it's not how I expect it.

[Trevor irregal]

When I’m not around my girlfriend I day dream about us having a great time no stop smiling when I come over and having a really good time the thoughts make me smile. But when I’m around her I’m just content sometimes happy. Is this normal? We have been together three months.

[BaileyB]

When I’m not around my boyfriend, I day dream that he is doing the dishes and cleaning the house. The thoughts make me smile too. But when I’m around him, he doesn’t do any of those things.

Daydreams are fantasies. Real life seldom compares to the fantasies we all create. That doesn’t mean it’s bad, it may actually be even better. 

One important thing to know - happiness doesn’t come from your relationship. Not from your girlfriend. It comes from within. 

Is this your first girlfriend? Do you enjoy spending time with her? Is she kind to you, do you have some things you like to do together, do you have fun when you are with her? If the answer is yes, then I wouldn’t worry. Try to focus more on enjoying the moment, and less on what you think you should be feeling. 

Edited February 18, 2021 by BaileyB

[Trail Blazer]

You're fantasizing about something playing out a certain way and then expecting it to just happen. 

My man, you need to grab the situation by the scruff of the neck and make it everything you want it to be!

 

[Gaeta]

Didn't you breakup with her last Tuesday?

[Ami1uwant]

10 hours ago, Trail Blazer said:

You're fantasizing about something playing out a certain way and then expecting it to just happen. 

My man, you need to grab the situation by the scruff of the neck and make it everything you want it to be!

 

Is scruff of the neck= choking the chicken ?

[Miss Spider]

OK first of all, please do not take this the wrong way, but you’re 15 and this is pretty normal. 
 

Fantasies are 9/10 better than the reality. 

[Trail Blazer]

5 hours ago, Ami1uwant said:

Is scruff of the neck= choking the chicken ?

The idiom was not meant to be intended as a euphemism for self-gratification.

[Fletch Lives]

On 2/17/2021 at 10:36 PM, BaileyB said:

When I’m not around my boyfriend, I day dream that he is doing the dishes and cleaning the house. The thoughts make me smile too. But when I’m around him, he doesn’t do any of those things.

 - said all women.

[mortensorchid]

You're 15?  Wow, you make me feel like an old lady.  Ha ha ha ...

But seriously, if this is your first "real relationship" then remember this : This is not a TV show or a movie, this is real life.  We have a certain expectation that since we are to marry for love we are going to be in love with that person all our lives.  It's been overdone in Hollywood that we expect the relationship to be exciting, hot, passionate, etc.  When you're apart, you're daydreaming and fantasizing, when you're together it's another matter.  Don't let that expectation make you run from this woman if she's a good person.