Walk Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 When you've been with a women for a period of time, do you tell her you're getting bored with her? If so, how? Would you tell your woman that she doesn't have anything that you haven't had already? Even as a joke? Or that you could have sex with any women you wanted? If, for the sake of argument, you did bring up the fact that the sex life wasn't as exciting as in the beginning, would you expect her to get defensive? How would you handle that? Get angry that she's not helping solve the problem? If you're paying all the bills, while your SO went to college, what would your expectations of her behavior be? How much extra would she have to give in order to equal out the relationship? And what would that entail? And lastly, would you expect your SO to know you love her and want to be with her based simply on the fact that you pay the bills and come home? Is that how a man say's I love you and wants to be with you? (Assume you work an inordinately large amount of hours. Far more then 70/wk.) I don't understand men. At all.
augur Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 Well - and this brings me back many years - I experienced almost exactly what you are talking about when I was in my 20s with a woman. That said, and for your own peace of mind - I would recommend not doing what I did in overly generalizing women (in your case men - but I also understand that is really hard not to do - as I did so for several years. That said, I am not in a personal position to answer your question, since, with all of my faults, I would not do what your SO seems to be doing to you. I don't get this type of personality type either. I am very sorry that you are in this situation. I am interested if there are any men or women out there that are this way and have the courage to comment on this to speak their minds about this. Or individuals that where that way at one point in time and rose above this type of crud and how they did so.
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