Jimmy4 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 Hello guys!!! My name is Jim, I'm 36 years old. I am Greek but I live London the last 11 years. When I was in Greece I had many relationships but none of them lasted for long. From when I came to England I have never again accomplished to come close with a girl (I had some beautiful one night stands for a while but nothing more). I work in a private company as an economist and before a few days I met my boss's daughter. I had heard about her many times in the past but I didn't knew she is so sexy. She is 20 and she looks like an angel(she has that northern beauty). I really want this girl for girlfriend (especially for having fun and sex, I don't want family). I said my boss that I like his daughter and I have to say that I didn't expected he'd react like that. He just said that he can't help me but he won't have any problem if I started relationship with her. So I want to send her on insta for getting to know one another better. My boss said that she loves music and clubbing(that's a positive, just like me). But how can I came more close to her? She is 16 years younger and of different nationality.
Datergirl Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 Honestly it sounds creepy to me. When I was 20 I definitely would not have wanted one of my dads colleagues hitting on me 9
BaileyB Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 4 minutes ago, Datergirl said: When I was 20 I definitely would not have wanted one of my dads colleagues hitting on me. Agree completely. Which may be why the boss said it was not a problem, because he knows it’s not going to happen. It’s a BAD idea to chase the boss’ daughter if you value your employment. 1
Calmandfocused Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 Jim be very careful. You are trying to cross boundaries here that are taboo. Never place your employment or relationship with your boss at risk for the sake of dating one woman. Especially a woman who you just want “fun and sex” with. Also (and I’m not saying this to be unkind, I don’t mean it to be) why would a 20 year old woman want to date a man whose nearly twice her age and who works for her dad? Not an attractive prospect from her perspective. There are billions of women on the planet, choose one of them instead. Leave this one be is my advice. 2
Wiseman2 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 1 hour ago, Jimmy4 said: I met my boss's daughter. She is 20. I really want this girl for having fun and sex, I don't want family. Tell him you only want her for "fun and sex" and see how long you keep your job. 15 1
Author Jimmy4 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 36 minutes ago, Calmandfocused said: Jim be very careful. You are trying to cross boundaries here that are taboo. Never place your employment or relationship with your boss at risk for the sake of dating one woman. Especially a woman who you just want “fun and sex” with. Also (and I’m not saying this to be unkind, I don’t mean it to be) why would a 20 year old woman want to date a man whose nearly twice her age and who works for her dad? Not an attractive prospect from her perspective. There are billions of women on the planet, choose one of them instead. Leave this one be is my advice. Don't make me sad I want to have relationships with girls that are 20-25(30 maximum). This young beauty is what attracts me most, you can't find it in a woman who is around in my age. I remind you that I don't want to have family in the future, when I was younger I used to be a "play boy" (parties and sex with 2-3 college girls at the shame time, good old times). Also I was very beautiful back then, I worked as a fashion model for a while. So I think that the girl will find me very attractive too, the famous actor Jason Statham (I'm a big fan of him) has a wife 21 years younger, that is more difficult than just having a simple relationship for a while. I don't want boring and mature (and possibly not attractive) 35 years old women. I want sexy, funny and "immature" young girls that want to "party" with their lifes.
elaine567 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 13 minutes ago, Jimmy4 said: I don't want boring and mature (and possibly not attractive) 35 years old women I guess that is what this young woman will think about you... Will she really want to date and have sex with her Dad? Time marches on for everyone... 4
snowboy91 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 I hate to break it to you, but women in their early 20s, as a general rule, don't go for guys in their late 30s - age wise they look too much like their dads or other older male relatives. I'm also getting the sense from your posts that looks and sex appeal is all you care about. Most people don't particularly like being used solely as sex objects. Remember that she is a whole person with her own personality, preferences, values, goals etc - and if you want a relationship with her, your personalities have got to be compatible. Even if it's a FWB arrangement, it's still not going to work if one person can't stand the other. If she's got the kind of looks that a lot of people find attractive, as they say... get in line . Also - it's your boss's daughter. Incredibly risky - what if the relationship doesn't work? 1 hour ago, Jimmy4 said: I don't want boring and mature (and possibly not attractive) 35 years old women. Assumptions much? I've met plenty of 30 something year old women who love to party. And plenty of women in their early 20s that are homebodies. You're looking for a personality match. Nothing to do with age.
BaileyB Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 1 hour ago, Jimmy4 said: I don't want boring and mature (and possibly not attractive) 35 years old women. I want sexy, funny and "immature" young girls that want to "party" with their lifes. No worries mate! The mature 35 year olds will want nothing to do with an aging playboy who is chasing 20 year olds... Sadly for you, many of the 20 year olds won’t want anything to do with a man who is old enough to be their father either. That’s puts you in a conundrum... 7
dramafreezone Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 (edited) 3 hours ago, Jimmy4 said: Hello guys!!! My name is Jim, I'm 36 years old. I am Greek but I live London the last 11 years. When I was in Greece I had many relationships but none of them lasted for long. From when I came to England I have never again accomplished to come close with a girl (I had some beautiful one night stands for a while but nothing more). I work in a private company as an economist and before a few days I met my boss's daughter. I had heard about her many times in the past but I didn't knew she is so sexy. She is 20 and she looks like an angel(she has that northern beauty). I really want this girl for girlfriend (especially for having fun and sex, I don't want family). I said my boss that I like his daughter and I have to say that I didn't expected he'd react like that. He just said that he can't help me but he won't have any problem if I started relationship with her. So I want to send her on insta for getting to know one another better. My boss said that she loves music and clubbing(that's a positive, just like me). But how can I came more close to her? She is 16 years younger and of different nationality. Does she even like you? I'm think the boss thinks you don't have a shot in hell with her, which is why he's ok with it. You've already met her. Was she flirtatious? Did you ask you questions? Did she seem interested in you? Did she give the slightest indication that she wants to see you again? If not I would not pursue. Noticing signs of interest is not difficult, and if you didn't notice them, then she wasn't just playing it cool. She wasn't interested. If she's as beautiful as you say she is, she has more men after her than she could possibly handle. As a 36 year old, if you're not rich or at least very well off, you have no shot with someone this young and this attractive. If you're going to pursue anyway, do it in person. Just ask her out point blank. The instagram thing is weak, and it's like you're treating her like a celebrity. If she's attractive she gets DMs all the time. Edited February 15, 2021 by dramafreezone 2
MsJayne Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 Has your employers daughter done or said anything that indicates she likes being used for "fun and sex"? Most women don't. 4
dramafreezone Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 3 hours ago, Datergirl said: Honestly it sounds creepy to me. When I was 20 I definitely would not have wanted one of my dads colleagues hitting on me Ah, the "creepy" word. I find the use of this interesting. Creepy only applies to men you have no interest in. If this was a 36 year old Brad Pitt or Ryan Gosling I'm thinking you wouldn't see them asking you out as creepy, it would be hot. So this has nothing to do with the age, it's about his status. He doesn't have the status so really doesn't have a shot with an attractive 20 year old woman.
basil67 Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, dramafreezone said: Creepy only applies to men you have no interest in. If this was a 36 year old Brad Pitt or Ryan Gosling I'm thinking you wouldn't see them asking you out as creepy, it would be hot. So this has nothing to do with the age, it's about his status. He doesn't have the status so really doesn't have a shot with an attractive 20 year old woman. But someone with status isn't going to try it on with a random 20yo who's the bosses daughter. He's going to go for a woman who also has status. And if an older man with status did try it on a random 20yo, it would a huge power mismatch and cause for alarm. We mothers look out for our daughters. Edited February 16, 2021 by basil67
dramafreezone Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 6 minutes ago, basil67 said: Someone with status isn't going to try it on with a random 20yo who's the bosses daughter. He's going to go for a woman who also has status. Eh, well I would agree that a 36 year old man with status likely isn't pursuing an attractive 20 year old woman, but I don't think he's looking for status. He's looking for someone with more to offer than just good looks, he's looking for conversation and probably more sexual experience. You're not getting that with a lot of women that age, so probably looking for more in the 26-29 age range. Edited February 16, 2021 by dramafreezone
HiCrunchy Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 lol, i remember being 21 and thinking 26 year olds were too old for me 4
basil67 Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 11 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: Eh, well I would agree that a 36 year old man with status likely isn't pursuing an attractive 20 year old woman, but I don't think he's looking for status. He's looking for someone with more to offer than just good looks, he's looking for conversation and probably more sexual experience. You're not getting that with a lot of women that age, so probably looking for more in the 26-29 age range. Sorry, I was unclear. I was referring to your comparison of Brad Pitt etc. While I agree that hot or not depends on attraction level, the analogy of Brad Pitt etc going after a random 20yo is never going to happen...and if it did happen, it would be alarming, not hot. A better analogy would be a cute guy who 'gets' her and who's about 24 - definitely not creepy. Edited February 16, 2021 by basil67 2
Alpacalia Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 3 hours ago, Jimmy4 said: Don't make me sad I want to have relationships with girls that are 20-25(30 maximum). This young beauty is what attracts me most, you can't find it in a woman who is around in my age. I remind you that I don't want to have family in the future, when I was younger I used to be a "play boy" (parties and sex with 2-3 college girls at the shame time, good old times). Also I was very beautiful back then, I worked as a fashion model for a while. So I think that the girl will find me very attractive too, the famous actor Jason Statham (I'm a big fan of him) has a wife 21 years younger, that is more difficult than just having a simple relationship for a while. I don't want boring and mature (and possibly not attractive) 35 years old women. I want sexy, funny and "immature" young girls that want to "party" with their lifes. Yes, but it's Jason Statham...
dramafreezone Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 9 minutes ago, basil67 said: Sorry, I was unclear. I was referring to your comparison of Brad Pitt etc. While I agree that hot or not depends on attraction level, the analogy of Brad Pitt etc going after a random 20yo is never going to happen...and if it did happen, it would be alarming, not hot. A better analogy would be a cute guy who 'gets' her and who's about 24 - definitely not creepy. It would never happen because he wouldn't have to pursue her, she would pursue him. I'm just saying the age is not the mitigating factor, it's the attraction level to that person. Attraction level overrides everything. Brad Pitt is just one example. He's just a template for an attractive and famous older man. I call BS that a 20 year old woman would find it creepy that a 40 year old man that's extremely rich and famous AND THAT THEY FIND ATTRACTIVE came on to them. Not buying it for a second. Edited February 16, 2021 by dramafreezone
basil67 Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 25 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: I call BS that a 20 year old woman would find it creepy that a 40 year old man that's extremely rich and famous AND THAT THEY FIND ATTRACTIVE came on to them. Not buying it for a second. The 20yo in question hasn't said it was creepy. @Datergirl said it was creepy and I agree with her. Nobody put words in this young woman's mouth. Now my daughter is only a little older than the girl in question and if a handsome, rich, famous man started to make moves on her, I'd be entering mama bear mode. Even if he wasn't rich and famous, I'd still be mama bear because of the exact reason the OP said: he'd only want her for sexy fun and because of her immaturity. Edited February 16, 2021 by basil67 3
dramafreezone Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 2 minutes ago, basil67 said: The 20yo in question hasn't said it was creepy. @Datergirl said it was creepy and I agree with her. Nobody put words in this young woman's mouth. Now my daughter is only a little older than the girl in question and if a handsome, rich, famous man started to make moves on her, I'd be entering mama bear mode. Even if he wasn't rich and famous, I'd still be mama bear because of the exact reason the OP said: he'd only want her for sexy fun and because of her immaturity. Well, regular guys that are in that 20 year old age range are mostly looking for that same thing anyway.
basil67 Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 Just now, dramafreezone said: Well, regular guys that are in that 20 year old age range are mostly looking for that same thing anyway. Indeed they are. But the power balance/world experience is far more likely to be even. 1
winny Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) I dunno what you want to know from us exactly..! No one here is going to give you tips on seducing a young woman to use her for sex and fun. From where I stand, I see a man who is unwilling to grow up and date grown and mature women and instead wants to act like he is still 20. May need to think why? Edited February 16, 2021 by winny 1
Author Jimmy4 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 Hey guys, I've read all your messages. Maybe I have to tell you more about my lifestory. So, from when I remember myself i was a very active and outgoing. Both in Greece and England at the age of 18-25 mostly I used to go out with my friends in nightclubs, or parties in houses and I was always trying to attract other girls (some of them became relationships for a while, some others just one night stands or trios). And I used to say my best friends that the night with them is over now and "I have to take the girls home". But as I said before, I've studied economics in famous universities in Greece and in England. And then I found job in this private company. My salary is really high if you compare it with other salaries, I have big house, good car, I also play guitar (that is also a positive if she loves music so much), I can write a little song for her, I'm experienced it isn't very difficult. I also said that many magazines wanted me for model (I accepted it of course, I earned money from that). In other words, I'm considered as successful in my social life and career, and I really want to try myself in a case like that, to see if I've still my "old attractive power". I don't that the age is a so big problem. Of course it'd be more easy if she was 25-30, if I try and I won't accomplish to do something successful with her I'll have to try other ways to pick up young girl(s) (maybe a little older than 20 ). But now I think I have to do the first step, we have covid guys, it isn't so easy to meet many new people. Now it's the chance!!!
Author Jimmy4 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, winny said: I dunno what you want to know from us exactly..! No one here is going to give you tips on seducing a young woman to use her for sex and fun. From where I stand, I see a man who is unwilling to grow up and date grown and mature women and instead wants to act like he is still 20. May need to think why? Yes man, I want to feel like the good old "glory" days. Maybe you're a mature man. None all of us are like you (don't take it personally). There are some guys who want a more sexually active life. And believe me, the most young girls are looking for some "unforgetable adventures" with either a younger or an older man. And I repeat again that there aren't pretty girl/women after the middle 30s (for me). Edited February 16, 2021 by Jimmy4
elaine567 Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 13 hours ago, Jimmy4 said: I'm 36 years old...I live London the last 11 years. When I was in Greece I had many relationships but none of them lasted for long. From when I came to England I have never again accomplished to come close with a girl (I had some beautiful one night stands for a while but nothing more). Truth is you timed out at 25. Your appeal to women was gone and apart a few ONSs you got nowhere... Why was that? Now you are fantasising about this young woman. This will go nowhere too I guess. You need to analyse your actions and how you relate to women or maybe people in general. Who at 36 really asks their boss if they can seduce their 20 yr old daughter? It is inappropriate. Not sure why you can't see that? 5 2
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