Savannah1990 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 (edited) Hi everyone, so I'm dating this guy for a while, but we havent seen each other for a while bc of corona (see my other topic). Its clear though that we really like each other and we also told each other that its more than just sex and there a genuine feelings involved. But, since we only saw each other a few times and since its not clear when well see each other again, its also kind of vague. With Valentines day I was doubting what was best to do, since we're not officially together but do fancy eachother. I did not want to come off to strong, so by the end of the morning I sent him a heartemoji ❤.He sent one back, together with a blushing happy face. But after that, my doorbell rang and there was this package delivered with in it, 2 sweet presents. From him. I called him to say thanks, and he jokingly said 'yeah I guess your emoji feels kind of loweffort now right haha'. I know it was a joke, but since then, he seems a bit distant. Was he right? was me just sending an emoji low-effort? Edited February 15, 2021 by Savannah1990
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 (edited) Send him a seductive photo in lingerie....maybe neck down so it can't be used against you for anything. Edited February 15, 2021 by smackie9 1
Fletch Lives Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 23 minutes ago, Savannah1990 said: he jokingly said 'yeah I guess your emoji feels kind of loweffort now right haha'. I don't think that was very smooth of him. I think it was mean. 4
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 28 minutes ago, Savannah1990 said: was me just sending an emoji low-effort? Yes. But it's ok. You're getting to know each other and you had no clue he was serious about V day. Now you know so next time when it's his birthday, V day, Xmas you make a real effort. You could tell him you've not taken V day seriously in the past but you are very touched by his efforts and you will make it up to him soon. 4
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 (edited) 10 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: I don't think that was very smooth of him. I think it was mean. Yep, but he at least expressed his disappointment instead of letting it brew inside. I find we're less judgemental when it's a woman telling her bf he's making low effort. We don't see anything wrong with that. Edited February 15, 2021 by Gaeta 3
Fletch Lives Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Yep, but he at least expressed his disappointment instead of letting it brew inside. He could have tried a softer approach.Two wrongs don't make a right. 1
Alpacalia Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 That is a very thoughtful of him. Did you feel like slinking in your chair after his comment and placing a towel over your head? Maybe if you're still dating next holiday or special occasion, you can be a little more expressive in the "gift giving" department (maybe drop a few hints for the time being of things to come).
winny Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 1 hour ago, Fletch Lives said: I don't think that was very smooth of him. I think it was mean. Agree, this wasn't a nice thing to say on V day.. completely cancels out his effort in sending the gifts.
winny Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 1 hour ago, Fletch Lives said: He could have tried a softer approach.Two wrongs don't make a right. Gifts are not really gifts when they are given with an expectation of getting something back. They are transactions. 2 1
Wiseman2 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 4 hours ago, Savannah1990 said: he jokingly said 'yeah I guess your emoji feels kind of loweffort now right haha'. I know it was a joke, but since then, he seems a bit distant. Was he right? was me just sending an emoji low-effort? At least he was honest about it. 2
divegrl Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 You are not officially together... so I wouldn’t worry about it! This act kindness... seems like a big sign that he wants more. I think it was really sweet of him. 2
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 Do you cook/bake? Why not make him something? 1
ShyViolet Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 9 hours ago, Savannah1990 said: Was he right? was me just sending an emoji low-effort? No, when you consider the fact that you aren't actually together. What he said was actually very rude. It takes away all positive sentiment of a gift if he presents it while making a backhanded comment about you not getting him anything in return. 1
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