deaana1 Posted February 14, 2021 Posted February 14, 2021 Hi! My boyfriend saw suddenly a guy on my messages (an old friend) and read our messages, because he thought I was hiding something just because I was a long time online (i was talking to a female friend). Btw the guy has texted me about the location of a photo I had posted ( I wasn't on the photo). On the messages I have told him that I like cars, and I mentioned some expensive cars. My boyfriend told me I was a gold digger. That I would have sex (on vulgar way) if a guy who posseses a good car would hit on me. I do like cars, a lot, but I would never want someone to buy me a car or even give me anything. I want to be a strong woman, not dependent on anyone, and I always want to achieve myself things in life. It hurt me more because his best friend is really a gold digger, and he has protected her in front of me, while he as called me so. And what makes me more upset, is that my boyfriend is not rich, he is jobless for a long time. He borrowed me some money even though I am a student. If I were a gold dogger I wouldn't be with him. I am probably going ti break up with him, I just don't know what breakup line should I say, because I really want to make him feel ashamed for what he said Btw, I am the cousin of the girl who posted first threads.
Author deaana1 Posted February 14, 2021 Author Posted February 14, 2021 Ps: he said that the guy wasn't handsome or attractive, so he was feeling like he has fallen so low, knowing what kind of guys hit on me
basil67 Posted February 14, 2021 Posted February 14, 2021 (edited) Ah, it can really hurt when we find out what someone we care about is truly like on the inside. I'm so glad you've decided to ditch him, but there's nothing you can say to make a guy like this feel ashamed by his words. Is ghosting him an option? He doesn't deserve a goodbye. Edited February 14, 2021 by basil67
elaine567 Posted February 14, 2021 Posted February 14, 2021 For God's sake how many times does this guy need to act like a jerk for it to get through to you... why is he still there? Forget about wanting to shame him, he won't give a damn, just get yourself away from him asap.... 2
HadMeOverABarrel Posted February 14, 2021 Posted February 14, 2021 Are you a gold digger? No. Is your boyfriend an A-hole? Yes. Proceed with your plans to dump him. You can do better.
Wiseman2 Posted February 14, 2021 Posted February 14, 2021 You already know how abusive he is, so escalating the derogatory language is nothing new. Is this a BDSM situation? You stay and stay and stay even though you're well aware of the abuse. So much so your own family forbids you to date him.
mortensorchid Posted February 14, 2021 Posted February 14, 2021 I don't know enough about you to say whether you are a gold digger or not, but that guy sounds like a real a****** if he is going to be so petty. They call certain cars p**** magnets for a reason - they can attract women. That might make a woman approach and say this is a nice car, but nothing beyond that in some cases.
smackie9 Posted February 14, 2021 Posted February 14, 2021 Your Bf is projecting his insecurities, and he felt over shadowed by your conversation about the cars with said friend. He's not in a good place in his life, and it's not your issue but he has np making it yours, and maybe in some way the cause of some of it. He needs to be booted to the curb. If you are looking for a breakup line, try this: "You have said too many hurtful things to me, and I didn't deserve any of those comments. Whatever is going on with you, I can no longer be a part of it. I am done. Take care of yourself. bye"
d0nnivain Posted February 14, 2021 Posted February 14, 2021 If your BF genuinely believes you are so shallow that you would trade sex for a car, get a new BF. As my husband explained to me, a gold digger is somebody who expects another person to provide expensive things that they can't afford themselves. He reminds me that I am not a gold digger because when I wanted a high end sports car I went out & bought myself one. I tell people he gave it to me because he did give me the courage & freedom to recognize that I deserve to treat myself. So at this point it's time for a trade in on BFs
dramafreezone Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 On 2/13/2021 at 8:59 PM, deaana1 said: Hi! My boyfriend saw suddenly a guy on my messages (an old friend) and read our messages, because he thought I was hiding something just because I was a long time online (i was talking to a female friend). Btw the guy has texted me about the location of a photo I had posted ( I wasn't on the photo). On the messages I have told him that I like cars, and I mentioned some expensive cars. My boyfriend told me I was a gold digger. That I would have sex (on vulgar way) if a guy who posseses a good car would hit on me. I do like cars, a lot, but I would never want someone to buy me a car or even give me anything. I want to be a strong woman, not dependent on anyone, and I always want to achieve myself things in life. It hurt me more because his best friend is really a gold digger, and he has protected her in front of me, while he as called me so. And what makes me more upset, is that my boyfriend is not rich, he is jobless for a long time. He borrowed me some money even though I am a student. If I were a gold dogger I wouldn't be with him. I am probably going ti break up with him, I just don't know what breakup line should I say, because I really want to make him feel ashamed for what he said Btw, I am the cousin of the girl who posted first threads. Yeah, if you're dating someone who's broke, then you can't be a gold digger, or you'd be a really bad one. Gold diggers WILL NOT date someone who doesn't have money, and they will insist that the guy spend money on them. They are not subtle about their expectations. Sounds like an insecure guy. 1
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