Miss Spider Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 (edited) 12 minutes ago, StrongHands said: LOL^^....what is a casual date. Meeting for coffee or dessert? Is going out to a nice dinner considered to be casual? I think anything can be casual depending on the way you look at it ? Stronghands, have I told you lately I’m so glad you’re here and part of our community. You add some extra much needed positivity Edited February 9, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes 1
StrongHands Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 1 minute ago, d0nnivain said: Casual = jeans are fine. A traditional cocktail lounge evokes something more upscale IMO. As a woman I would wear a skirt or nice dress & heels to such a place even if it meant I carried the shoes in my purse & changed out of my snow boots in the entry way. Where as I would wear something more everyday & flat or wedge shoes (depending on the weather) to a casual place. That makes sense Donnivain and thank you for the explanation. I am 6'2 and I have noticed that "shorter" women really like wearing heels and high boots with heels (great look by the way). So the attire is as much about the "style" of the date as the venue is. 2
StrongHands Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: I think anything can be casual depending on the way you look at it ? Stronghands, have I told you lately I’m so glad you’re here and part of our community. You add some extra much needed positivity That is very kind of you to say and I appreciate it. The site really is very informative and so diverse in the subjects that are covered. 1
amygirl908 Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 30 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: A cocktail lounge is too casual??? What kind of date do you want, an opera. He could have invited her to the opera and she would have wanted to go to a lounge. On Friday there will be a post notating all of the things that he did wrong on the date. 3 2
Gaeta Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 34 minutes ago, StrongHands said: LOL^^....what is a casual date. Meeting for coffee or dessert? Is going out to a nice dinner considered to be casual? Casual is established by the dress up code of the place. You can have an expensive steak in a steak house but you don't need to wear a little black dress to get in. Or you can take her to Ritz Carlton for a 7 services meal, you'll need a jacket and tie and she'll need her best dress. So depends where you go. 1 1
Miss Spider Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 (edited) Wait is that the kind of casual she was talking about? Attire? Or does she mean actual activity lounge/drinks vs dinner ? Edited February 9, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes 1
StrongHands Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 I think maybe it was more about the location (venue) as opposed to the attire. 21 minutes ago, amygirl908 said: He could have invited her to the opera and she would have wanted to go to a lounge. On Friday there will be a post notating all of the things that he did wrong on the date. Or there will be a post about what a great time she had..........let's hope so 1
Gaeta Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 11 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Wait is that the kind of casual she was talking about? Attire? Or does she mean actual activity lounge/drinks vs dinner ? I have no clue. But she said cocktail lounge was casual and she checked the place online and it's pretty fancy. Kind of contradictory no? 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 9, 2021 Author Posted February 9, 2021 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: Casual = jeans are fine. A traditional cocktail lounge evokes something more upscale IMO. As a woman I would wear a skirt or nice dress & heels to such a place even if it meant I carried the shoes in my purse & changed out of my snow boots in the entry way. Where as I would wear something more everyday & flat or wedge shoes (depending on the weather) to a casual place. Have fun @Britney25 Let us know what you decide to wear & how it goes. Definitely wearing a dress and will update on how it goes! 2 1
StrongHands Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: I have no clue. But she said cocktail lounge was casual and she checked the place online and it's pretty fancy. Kind of contradictory no? Gaeta, I think sometimes Names can be misleading and it's best to go online and see if there is a dress code. I will say that the Ritz is a GREAT place to have dinner (any location that is). I think that FANCY is a relative term as well. 1
Gaeta Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 @StrongHands: You're right fancy can have a different meaning for different people. I don't like lounge, it's noisy and you always have to wait to be seated, they don't always have tables so you end up at the bar and at 5'3'' there is no graceful way to get your bum on that stool. I had a really bad experience at Ritz so that's why I mentioned it Britney25 mention she's comfortable with the place, that's what's important. I've noticed that as I get older less I like fussy and fancy. 1
sushiandtacos Posted February 11, 2021 Posted February 11, 2021 Keep us updated OP and good luck on your date today!! 4
divegrl Posted February 11, 2021 Posted February 11, 2021 Oh yes! Keep us updated! I hope your date goes really well!!! 2
Author Britney25 Posted February 12, 2021 Author Posted February 12, 2021 11 hours ago, sushiandtacos said: Keep us updated OP and good luck on your date today!! Just got back from the date! It was really nice. We had a nice conversation, he kept staring at me so deep it kinda made me shy. He told me that he wanted to meet sooner and was glad we actually finally got to see each other tonight. He went in for the kiss while we were sitting at the booth a couple of times. Told me I'm a great kisser which made me blush I must say. Hes a cool guy, a gentleman. I ended the date after 2 hrs and when I got home he texted me a kiss goodnight. Overall I dont mind seeing him again. Thanks ladies! 6
peach302 Posted February 12, 2021 Posted February 12, 2021 7 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Just got back from the date! It was really nice. We had a nice conversation, he kept staring at me so deep it kinda made me shy. He told me that he wanted to meet sooner and was glad we actually finally got to see each other tonight. He went in for the kiss while we were sitting at the booth a couple of times. Told me I'm a great kisser which made me blush I must say. Hes a cool guy, a gentleman. I ended the date after 2 hrs and when I got home he texted me a kiss goodnight. Overall I dont mind seeing him again. Thanks ladies! Seeeeee. And you were stressing over nothing . Whens the next date lol 2
Author Britney25 Posted February 12, 2021 Author Posted February 12, 2021 2 minutes ago, peach302 said: Seeeeee. And you were stressing over nothing . Whens the next date lol He mentioned he wants to see me again but we didn't set it up just yet. We will. 2
Gaeta Posted February 12, 2021 Posted February 12, 2021 Sometimes allowing ourselves a bit of flexibility brings us nice surprises So happy you had a good time!! 1
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 12, 2021 Posted February 12, 2021 This was sure nice to read! Way to go, Britney! 1
divegrl Posted February 12, 2021 Posted February 12, 2021 Oh yay!!! I am so happy for you. I hope things continue to go well! Sending love! 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 13, 2021 Author Posted February 13, 2021 I'm always confused what to do at the beginning of courtship, you know 2 dates in only. Should the Man always initiate first? And I just respond warmly? Tell me please. I always scree this part up.
Gaeta Posted February 13, 2021 Posted February 13, 2021 (edited) No you don't let him initiate all the time, you need to show you have enough interest to at least initiate texts 1 time out of 2. Do you have a 3rd date planned? Did you text him after your last date to thank him? Edited February 13, 2021 by Gaeta
Author Britney25 Posted February 13, 2021 Author Posted February 13, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: No you don't let him initiate all the time, you need to show you have enough interest to at least initiate texts 1 time out of 2. Do you have a 3rd date planned? Did you text him after your last date to thank him? He texted me after the date and Friday but didnt mention nothing about 3rd date yet. Today so far silence.
Gaeta Posted February 13, 2021 Posted February 13, 2021 So, there is a popular way out there to handle those first dates. The man initiates the 2 first date and the woman does the invite and pay for the 3rd one. You already know this guy likes you enough to come back and risk rejection. I personally think you should take care of the 3rd date. It doesn't need to be elaborate but you're in charge. As for the texting I prefer keeping a bit if mystery at the beginning and not text too often. You had a date Friday so you don't text this weekend. You can communicate with him Monday or Tuesday and offer him a mid-week date. That would leave him with coming up with a weekend date next. 1
Gaeta Posted February 13, 2021 Posted February 13, 2021 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: You had a date Friday so you don't text this weekend. Sorry, you had a date Thursday and he text you Friday. You initiate a text today or tomorrow. Offer a date Monday or Tuesday
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