Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 40 minutes ago, amygirl908 said: OP wants to nit pick and complain literally every step of the way. If you want to go out with him go out with him. Obviously this guy doesn't suit your needs you want someone who is more assertive and most likely can also read your mind. So let this guy off the hook and stop blasting him on the internet for petty stuff because you can't communicate. How do you make plans with your friends? This guy isn't your boyfriend and doesn't owe you anything. Go out with him or don't go out with him but this is becoming difficult because you have made it difficult. I'm not complaining about him but doesnt a Man usually take lead in planning a date? What the hell is happening in this world?
peach302 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 2 minutes ago, Britney25 said: He's the one who ended the convo with a kiss. Plus this conversation was 7 days ago. That's too far out to even set a place and time. I dont want it to look like it's a medical appointment. All I want from him is to let me know now before Thursday to confirm. If I do that I come off as too eager, obviously men have a brain as well. It's not that difficult. But you're the one who refused him before. Yet u still expect him to chase you. 2
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 8 hours ago, winny said: All these threads are so funny! Communicate like normal people please! How hard it is..??? Masculine and feminine energy is just BS that dating coaches use. Fixing a date is like fixing any appointment just ask date and time. Whether a woman asks or man.. who cares??!!! Just do it! Its a much quicker way to gauge interest than waiting for the other person to do something. Say - “I am free on Friday and Saturday evening.. at 8 pm. Do you want to meet for dinner/drinks/whatever date idea ? “ If they respond and accept then go for it.. if they don’t then you don’t ask again.. and wait to see if they initiate in future. If they do and you are free then accept and meet them. Simple! That's not true. Masculine and feminine energy is not BS. The more a woman chases the Men the more he runs away during courtship. Why do you think its always the Men I dont care for that come to me? Because I'm vague with them, I never text first I dont chase and they still come after me.
peach302 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: I'm not complaining about him but doesnt a Man usually take lead in planning a date? What the hell is happening in this world? You're right they should but you need to show you're interested too. No one wants to be rejected
Gaeta Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: I'm not complaining about him but doesnt a Man usually take lead in planning a date? What the hell is happening in this world? It's more like what the hell is happening to you. We are in 2021. We wanted equality with men and we got it (almost) that also means dropping our entitlement and **participating equally** to planning dates. Where do you get your dating rules? 4
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 1 minute ago, peach302 said: But you're the one who refused him before. Yet u still expect him to chase you. He doesnt know I refused him! Where did you get this info ? I said I wasnt in to him but never showed that during the first date or with communication with him.
peach302 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: That's not true. Masculine and feminine energy is not BS. The more a woman chases the Men the more he runs away during courtship. Why do you think its always the Men I dont care for that come to me? Because I'm vague with them, I never text first I dont chase and they still come after me. That only lasts for so long though. No one will endlessly chase you
Gaeta Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Because I'm vague with them, I never text first I dont chase and they still come after me. They all chase you but where is the relationship? 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: It's more like what the hell is happening to you. We are in 2021. We wanted equality with men and we got it (almost) that also means dropping our entitlement and **participating equally** to planning dates. Where do you get your dating rules? I'm not a feminist! I'm very old traditional. Dont tell me about feminism. Ugh 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: They all chase you but where is the relationship? They aren't interesting enough for me. It's my casting not theirs.
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 1 minute ago, peach302 said: That only lasts for so long though. No one will endlessly chase you The point is Men chase.
sushiandtacos Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 6 minutes ago, Britney25 said: He's the one who ended the convo with a kiss. Plus this conversation was 7 days ago. That's too far out to even set a place and time. I dont want it to look like it's a medical appointment. All I want from him is to let me know now before Thursday to confirm. If I do that I come off as too eager, obviously men have a brain as well. It's not that difficult. OP I thought you sent the last text but he sent the emoji? I would send a text asking where he was thinking of going and you make some suggestions.
Gaeta Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: I'm not a feminist! I'm very old traditional. Dont tell me about feminism. Ugh Do you know what feminism is? It's equality between men and women. Equal salary for equal work, equal professional opportunities, equal rights....You're against that? You're happy being paid less than the guy next door doing the same work with less experience? 2
peach302 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: The point is Men chase. Ok but showing someone you're interested does not equate to you chasing them. I've been in the exact same position as you. Not quite entitled but not putting much effort in. And i can tell you it wont go on forever.
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 Just now, sushiandtacos said: OP I thought you sent the last text but he sent the emoji? I would send a text asking where he was thinking of going and you make some suggestions. Yes I initiated the last text suggesting the day. He chose and then ended the convo with a kiss. So now we have Monday and he didnt text me yet. I'm not sure if hes a day off kind of Man, but if I keep asking him where and what time then is he going to keep doing that at all the dates in the future??
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Do you know what feminism is? It's equality between men and women. Equal salary for equal work, equal professional opportunities, equal rights....You're against that? You're happy being paid less than the guy next door doing the same work with less experience? Why are you bringing up feminism??
Gaeta Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 3 minutes ago, Britney25 said: The point is Men chase. Yep men chase, but it's also 2021 for men so how long do you think a man (in 2021) will chase without a woman reciprocating?
Gaeta Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Why are you bringing up feminism?? Go back and read, you're the one that brought it up.
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 2 minutes ago, peach302 said: Ok but showing someone you're interested does not equate to you chasing them. I've been in the exact same position as you. Not quite entitled but not putting much effort in. And i can tell you it wont go on forever. So I have to keep texting him even thou we have day set to show the guy I'm so interested in meeting him, because he us still clueless? Omg
peach302 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Yes I initiated the last text suggesting the day. He chose and then ended the convo with a kiss. So now we have Monday and he didnt text me yet. I'm not sure if hes a day off kind of Man, but if I keep asking him where and what time then is he going to keep doing that at all the dates in the future?? Tell him to choose a time and place. You're then leaving it up to him.
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: Yep men chase, but it's also 2021 for men so how long do you think a man (in 2021) will chase without a woman reciprocating? Omg stop with the damn its 2021. Our brains dont think like that when it comes to recreating and courtship.
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: Go back and read, you're the one that brought it up. Ha!
peach302 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: So I have to keep texting him even thou we have day set to show the guy I'm so interested in meeting him, because he us still clueless? Omg Not keep texting him. Just stuff relevant to your date.
amygirl908 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 3 minutes ago, Britney25 said: I'm not complaining about him but doesnt a Man usually take lead in planning a date? What the hell is happening in this world? Yeah when you're DATING them, but you guys are not together. Just now, Britney25 said: He doesnt know I refused him! Where did you get this info ? I said I wasnt in to him but never showed that during the first date or with communication with him. Girl all we can go off of is what you tell us and I'm pretty sure that saying you're not into someone is refusing them. 3 minutes ago, Britney25 said: They aren't interesting enough for me. It's my casting not theirs. Alright princess how's that working for you? When you're ready to live in reality I'll give you advice. You're gonna turn around one day and realize ain't no one trying to chase you anymore and you're running around by yourself. Relationships are about compromise and working together. You can't even get past setting up a date because your nose is so far in the air. Check yourself this is a probably a reason why you're still single and on the internet looking for validation of your immature behavior. 3 1
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 6 minutes ago, Britney25 said: I'm not complaining about him but doesnt a Man usually take lead in planning a date? What the hell is happening in this world? 3 minutes ago, Britney25 said: That's not true. Masculine and feminine energy is not BS. The more a woman chases the Men the more he runs away during courtship. Why do you think its always the Men I dont care for that come to me? Because I'm vague with them, I never text first I dont chase and they still come after me. It's called equality. If you want to be equal in pay & responsibility, you can't rely on a 1950s style of dating by only letting men chase you. Your brain may not think in modern terms but everybody else does. So perhaps it's time for you to catch up. Modern men have been traumatized a bit. They are told that being too aggressive is practically assault so they hang back waiting for unmistakable signs out of fear that they will accused of being a predator otherwise. In your case, when he suggested catching, you responded enthusiastically IMO but apparently it wasn't enough for him. You needed to make that green light much brighter especially if you are not willing to be a modern woman & take the laboring oar. When he didn't come back to you with a date & time, you would have been better served giving him a nudge: "Hey. When you said let's catch up. Did you have a date, time & place in mind?" Technically that still makes him the asker / the pursuer / "the man" if you will but clearly you would be driving the bus. The fastest way to catch a man is to let him chase you but you have to give the poor guy irrefutable evidence that you are open to being caught. Sadly once you have the meet up / date set, you would be well served to have at least 1 interim conversation / confirmation of the date so you don't get stood up. Men get scared too. Be more reassuring & sensitive to how much he's risking by asking / chasing. 2 1
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