StrongHands Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 2 minutes ago, Britney25 said: So I told him when I'm free and he picked this coming Thursday but didn't give me a place or time. Now it's so vague. So now the ball is in his court correct? If he doesnt text to confirm where and what time then it's really not happening. I don’t blame you OP. He needs to be more assertive and show more interest. Ladies simply deserve to be treated with more respect and dignity 1
sushiandtacos Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 But it's only Sunday, so I would just wait there's still a lot of time! 2
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 43 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: But it's only Sunday, so I would just wait there's still a lot of time! So what is the latest he can set up the plan? Wednesday?
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 46 minutes ago, StrongHands said: I don’t blame you OP. He needs to be more assertive and show more interest. Ladies simply deserve to be treated with more respect and dignity Exactly! I love when the Men is assertive. I hate casual planning when it comes to dates, it's not my style. 1
StrongHands Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 2 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Exactly! I love when the Men is assertive. I hate casual planning when it comes to dates, it's not my style. I think you need a different TYPE of man altogether. Despite what some may think, romance is not DEAD nor should it be 1
sushiandtacos Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 25 minutes ago, Britney25 said: So what is the latest he can set up the plan? Wednesday? Hmm I think at least a day before you guys should know where you guys are going and around what time so yes Wed 2
basil67 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 On 2/3/2021 at 6:53 AM, Britney25 said: I was the one who was interested. He told me he wanted to see me again after the first date but I was not sure about him. Why should he put in all the work to woo you when he would be quite aware that you weren't sure of him previously? If you want to make up for the previous glitch, the ball is now in your court And what is happening in your conversations where you're suddenly struck dumb in the middle of a conversation planning the evening? How about "Great, I'll put Thursday in my diary. What kind of time suits you? Any ideas on where you'd like to go?" is just basic communication. 2
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 6 minutes ago, basil67 said: Why should he put in all the work to woo you when he would be quite aware that you weren't sure of him previously? If you want to make up for the previous glitch, the ball is now in your court And what is happening in your conversations where you're suddenly struck dumb in the middle of a conversation planning the evening? How about "Great, I'll put Thursday in my diary. What kind of time suits you? Any ideas on where you'd like to go?" is just basic communication. You havent read my update. I texted him what days I'm free and he picked Thursday. So we have set the day. 1
basil67 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 (edited) I did read your update. That's why I asked what happened that you were unable to have a complete the conversation about what the plans are. It's why I gave examples of what you could have said. It's also why I said that the ball is in your court to show that you're now interested. At present, you're wanting him to read your mind and are cross because he's not delivering you want. Life's plans don't magically fall into our laps without us giving it some direction. Edited February 8, 2021 by basil67 2
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 16 minutes ago, basil67 said: I did read your update. That's why I asked what happened that you were unable to have a complete the conversation about what the plans are. It's why I gave examples of what you could have said. It's also why I said that the ball is in your court to show that you're now interested. At present, you're wanting him to read your mind and are cross because he's not delivering you want. Life's plans don't magically fall into our laps without us giving it some direction. I dont understand. I texted him and we picked Thursday. At first I didnt even have a day so what is it you want from me? He needs to make a plan now if he still wants to meet.
sushiandtacos Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 10 minutes ago, Britney25 said: I dont understand. I texted him and we picked Thursday. At first I didnt even have a day so what is it you want from me? He needs to make a plan now if he still wants to meet. Who texted last OP?
basil67 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 24 minutes ago, Britney25 said: I dont understand. I texted him and we picked Thursday. At first I didnt even have a day so what is it you want from me? He needs to make a plan now if he still wants to meet. I don't want anything from you. It's you who wants a date with this guy and it's you who's complaining about him not meeting your needs. Great that you texted him and great that you both picked Thursday. I just don't understand why, if you wanted a time and location soon, that you didn't continue the conversation. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 49 minutes ago, basil67 said: Great that you texted him and great that you both picked Thursday. I just don't understand why, if you wanted a time and location soon, that you didn't continue the conversation. Wondering the same thing. This is a lot of angst over something fairly simple. 2
winny Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 All these threads are so funny! Communicate like normal people please! How hard it is..??? Masculine and feminine energy is just BS that dating coaches use. Fixing a date is like fixing any appointment just ask date and time. Whether a woman asks or man.. who cares??!!! Just do it! Its a much quicker way to gauge interest than waiting for the other person to do something. Say - “I am free on Friday and Saturday evening.. at 8 pm. Do you want to meet for dinner/drinks/whatever date idea ? “ If they respond and accept then go for it.. if they don’t then you don’t ask again.. and wait to see if they initiate in future. If they do and you are free then accept and meet them. Simple! 3 1
Wiseman2 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 10 hours ago, Britney25 said: didn't give me a place or time. Why can't you suggest a place and time? That way it's clear rather than your refusal to participate in the planning and conversation. Why create drama? Communicate. Text him a place and time suggestion. 1
Fletch Lives Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 (edited) Some time passed.... that's really bad in dating. You should shoot for one date a week.....otherwise, you'll likely lose the spark. Try the next guy Edited February 8, 2021 by Fletch Lives
amygirl908 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 (edited) 7 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Wondering the same thing. This is a lot of angst over something fairly simple. OP wants to nit pick and complain literally every step of the way. If you want to go out with him go out with him. Obviously this guy doesn't suit your needs you want someone who is more assertive and most likely can also read your mind. So let this guy off the hook and stop blasting him on the internet for petty stuff because you can't communicate. How do you make plans with your friends? This guy isn't your boyfriend and doesn't owe you anything. Go out with him or don't go out with him but this is becoming difficult because you have made it difficult. Edited February 8, 2021 by amygirl908
peach302 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 Yeah to the op. Continue the conversation..otherwise it wont go anywhere. And you were the one who showed a lack of interest before. Therefore its on you to put in more effort now. 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 9 hours ago, sushiandtacos said: Who texted last OP? I did
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 8 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Wondering the same thing. This is a lot of angst over something fairly simple. He didnt continue. He just ended the convo with a kiss
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 8 hours ago, winny said: All these threads are so funny! Communicate like normal people please! How hard it is..??? Masculine and feminine energy is just BS that dating coaches use. Fixing a date is like fixing any appointment just ask date and time. Whether a woman asks or man.. who cares??!!! Just do it! Its a much quicker way to gauge interest than waiting for the other person to do something. Say - “I am free on Friday and Saturday evening.. at 8 pm. Do you want to meet for dinner/drinks/whatever date idea ? “ If they respond and accept then go for it.. if they don’t then you don’t ask again.. and wait to see if they initiate in future. If they do and you are free then accept and meet them. Simple! Ok but we planned this date 7 days in advance. So I think that was too early to even suggest a time and place.
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 1 hour ago, Fletch Lives said: Some time passed.... that's really bad in dating. You should shoot for one date a week.....otherwise, you'll likely lose the spark. Try the next guy Maybe it bad but he's the one who still thinking about me.
peach302 Posted February 8, 2021 Posted February 8, 2021 2 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Maybe it bad but he's the one who still thinking about me. and you're thinking about him too 2
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 9 hours ago, basil67 said: I don't want anything from you. It's you who wants a date with this guy and it's you who's complaining about him not meeting your needs. Great that you texted him and great that you both picked Thursday. I just don't understand why, if you wanted a time and location soon, that you didn't continue the conversation. He's the one who ended the convo with a kiss. Plus this conversation was 7 days ago. That's too far out to even set a place and time. I dont want it to look like it's a medical appointment. All I want from him is to let me know now before Thursday to confirm. If I do that I come off as too eager, obviously men have a brain as well. It's not that difficult.
Author Britney25 Posted February 8, 2021 Author Posted February 8, 2021 Just now, peach302 said: and you're thinking about him too Because we set a date.
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