dramafreezone Posted February 18, 2021 Posted February 18, 2021 On 2/17/2021 at 1:10 PM, poppyfields said: Bolded, I am kinda not believing you Britney. I could be wrong, but I sense you find his elusiveness and the fact he's not blowing up your phone somewhat intriguing. Which is precisely why guys play these types of games, because they work! Assuming that's what he's doing, either that or his interest is low and he's got you on a rotation or something. Because he's sure not behaving like a guy who's all that into you, but yet this thread still continues at 19 pages and counting. In any event, if you can scale back expectations and view him the way he views you, as just another option and date other guys, then cool, have fun with it! You never know how things might play out. Hope no one takes this the wrong way, but I take a lot of what women *say* about matters of their own heart with a grain of salt. I watch what they do, and what they respond to, and you're right, we have a 20 page thread about a guy she says she doesn't like. 2 1
poppyfields Posted February 18, 2021 Posted February 18, 2021 (edited) 23 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: Hope no one takes this the wrong way, but I take a lot of what women *say* about matters of their own heart with a grain of salt. I watch what they do, and what they respond to, and you're right, we have a 20 page thread about a guy she says she doesn't like. I don't disagree with you DF. Speaking for myself, I think a lot of it is false pride. I think it's pretty common, don't men do this as well? When we feel rejected (or believe we are about to be rejected, ghosted or whatever) we bury that feeling and put up a "front" acting like it doesn't bother us, like we don't care; later on it all comes to the surface and we crash. Can't bury negative feelings forever. I do this quite often, it's not good but it is what it is. Edited February 18, 2021 by poppyfields 2
dramafreezone Posted February 18, 2021 Posted February 18, 2021 5 minutes ago, poppyfields said: I don't disagree with you DF. Speaking for myself, I think a lot of it is false pride. I think it's pretty common, don't men do this as well? When we feel rejected (or believe we are about to be rejected, ghosted or whatever) we bury that feeling and put up a "front" acting like it doesn't bother us, like we don't care; later on it all comes to the surface and we crash. Can't bury negative feelings forever. I do this quite often, it's not good but it is what it is. Yeah, I guess not just with women. It's the classic "sour grapes" attitude. 1
poppyfields Posted February 18, 2021 Posted February 18, 2021 (edited) 12 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: Yeah, I guess not just with women. It's the classic "sour grapes" attitude. I think the "sour grapes" attitude is different, at least for me. I don't feel sour grapes (at least not at the time); I don't have bad feelings about the guy. I just shove it all down and pretend it's all fine, like it doesn't bother me and I carry on. And I really do feel that way at the time, until it all comes to the surface wreaking havoc on my emotions. Like I said, can't hide negative feelings forever; it's exactly what happened with my ex and why I ended it. Hey Britney, you still around? Pop in, let us know how you're doing when you get a chance, or if you hear from him. Edited February 18, 2021 by poppyfields
Author Britney25 Posted February 20, 2021 Author Posted February 20, 2021 On 2/18/2021 at 5:02 PM, poppyfields said: I think the "sour grapes" attitude is different, at least for me. I don't feel sour grapes (at least not at the time); I don't have bad feelings about the guy. I just shove it all down and pretend it's all fine, like it doesn't bother me and I carry on. And I really do feel that way at the time, until it all comes to the surface wreaking havoc on my emotions. Like I said, can't hide negative feelings forever; it's exactly what happened with my ex and why I ended it. Hey Britney, you still around? Pop in, let us know how you're doing when you get a chance, or if you hear from him. I'm here. Thanks nope. No text from him at all.
Author Britney25 Posted February 20, 2021 Author Posted February 20, 2021 6 hours ago, Gaeta said: @Britney25 Anything new Britney? Nope. He's not texting me at all.
Gaeta Posted February 20, 2021 Posted February 20, 2021 What is your plan? I'm a little surprise he has not kept in touch, I would not pursue this and I would certainly not reply when he text next.
Author Britney25 Posted February 20, 2021 Author Posted February 20, 2021 (edited) 13 minutes ago, Gaeta said: What is your plan? I'm a little surprise he has not kept in touch, I would not pursue this and I would certainly not reply when he text next. I really don't care anymore to be honest. If he does text I will update you, but yes I agree I'm not going to reply. I'm surprised as well lol Edited February 20, 2021 by Britney25 1
basil67 Posted February 21, 2021 Posted February 21, 2021 The fact that you'd update us if he contacts you means that you're giving him space in your head. Block him and free your mind of him. 2
peach302 Posted February 22, 2021 Posted February 22, 2021 On 2/20/2021 at 9:34 PM, Britney25 said: I really don't care anymore to be honest. If he does text I will update you, but yes I agree I'm not going to reply. I'm surprised as well lol Has he not messaged you at all then? Im curious
Author Britney25 Posted February 22, 2021 Author Posted February 22, 2021 Just now, peach302 said: Has he not messaged you at all then? Im curious Nope not at all. Maybe he was just for the chase just as now I'm saying yes to another meeting he's silent. 1
peach302 Posted February 24, 2021 Posted February 24, 2021 (edited) On 2/22/2021 at 7:12 PM, Britney25 said: Nope not at all. Maybe he was just for the chase just as now I'm saying yes to another meeting he's silent. Maybe he will contact you nearer the time. Has a date or time been set yet? Well hopefully that isn't the case. Unless you think hes not worth the trouble now.. Edited February 24, 2021 by peach302
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