Author Britney25 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: But he is not chasing you. How was he on your date? He was a OK. Good conversation, told me he wanted to get together for a long time. Asking how is everything. Kissing me. Walked me to my car. Mentioned let's do this again. Everything was good except when he mentioned we should watch a movie together and checking out his place.
Gaeta Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: He was a OK. Good conversation, told me he wanted to get together for a long time. Asking how is everything. Kissing me. Walked me to my car. Mentioned let's do this again. Everything was good except when he mentioned we should watch a movie together and checking out his place. Gosh I wish you had told us that 10 pages ago lol Told you he wanted to get together for a long time on date 2: Player Checking out is place: Player 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 @Gaeta but didnt you say or was it @Poppy fields that he was definitely interested because he texted me after the date and then the next day?
Author Britney25 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: Gosh I wish you had told us that 10 pages ago lol Told you he wanted to get together for a long time on date 2: Player Checking out is place: Player Ok let's say he is a player so why not continue leading me on? Instead he left me on Liked message.
Gaeta Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: @Gaeta but didnt you say or was it @Poppy fields that he was definitely interested because he texted me after the date and then the next day? Absolutely. A gentleman will text/call his date after the evening to make sure she made home ok and to thank her. Same with next day. BUT his attitude on the date cancelled all that. 1
poppyfields Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Britney25 said: @Gaeta but didnt you say or was it @Poppy fields that he was definitely interested because he texted me after the date and then the next day? That was NOT me dear who said that. I never felt good about this guy, I thought him coming back and chasing/pursuing you AFTER you rejected him was suspect, remember? To me, it all sounds (and sounded) like a big freakin game. For your sake, I would love to prove myself wrong about this, I hope I am! Edited February 16, 2021 by poppyfields
Alpacalia Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 45 minutes ago, Gaeta said: That I hate. I find this so condescending from a man you had 2 dates with. Try being referred to as "love" followed up with a snap of him in a canoe with no shirt on. 3
Gaeta Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Ok let's say he is a player so why not continue leading me on? I can't help you with that. At 25 you may have time to waste doing that, I'm too old to even think misleading someone for revenge. My time is too precious 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 7 minutes ago, poppyfields said: That was NOT me dear who said that. I never felt good about this guy, I thought him coming back and chasing/pursuing you AFTER you rejected him was suspect, remember? To me, it all sounds (and sounded) like a big freakin game. For your sake, I would love to prove myself wrong about this, I hope I am! Thank you Poppy. Yes I remember what you said. Ugh I seem to be attracting players or this is what dating is like nowadays. Not sure
poppyfields Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 14 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Thank you Poppy. Yes I remember what you said. Ugh I seem to be attracting players or this is what dating is like nowadays. Not sure I can't help you there Brit. There's just too much damn advice out there - for both men and women, and that advice clashes. The roles are no longer defined and people are floundering around trying to figure out what to do. What "works"? So they follow these "rules" but the problem is the rules (games) that might work on some women, don't work for others and vice versa. In retrospect, I played the game too in some respects, and paid the price for it. And guess what? I am alone now, so what does THAT tell ya? Maybe the answer is to simply be real and genuine. If a guy runs from that, or gets turned off, let him. Or if you sense he's insecure and you REALLY like him, meet him halfway even if it is a game. I mean isn't it all a game in some form or fashion? I don't know anymore either Brit. Edited February 16, 2021 by poppyfields 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 4 minutes ago, poppyfields said: I can't help you there Brit. There's just too much damn advice out there - for both men and women, and that advice clashes. The roles are no longer defined and people are floundering around trying to figure out what to do. What "works"? So they follow these "rules" but the problem is the rules (games) that might work on some women, don't work for others and vice versa. In retrospect, I played the game too in some respects, and paid the price for it. And guess what? I am alone now, so what does THAT tell ya? Maybe the answer is to simply be real and genuine. If a guy runs from that, or gets turned off, let him. Or if you sense he's insecure and you REALLY like him, meet him halfway even if it is a game. I mean isn't it all a game in some form or fashion? I don't know anymore either Brit. Ok will update if he does text.
dramafreezone Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 10 minutes ago, poppyfields said: I can't help you there Brit. There's just too much damn advice out there - for both men and women, and that advice clashes. The roles are no longer defined and people are floundering around trying to figure out what to do. What "works"? So they follow these "rules" but the problem is the rules (games) that might work on some women, don't work for others and vice versa. In retrospect, I played the game too in some respects, and paid the price for it. And guess what? I am alone now, so what does THAT tell ya? Maybe the answer is to simply be real and genuine. If a guy runs from that, or gets turned off, let him. Or if you sense he's insecure and you REALLY like him, meet him halfway even if it is a game. I mean isn't it all a game in some form or fashion? I don't know anymore either Brit. It seems to be too far gone for the most part. Men have their rules and now women have their rules and it's like a standoff at the OK Corral, back in the wild western times. The key is finding a man or woman who doesn't care about a set of rules and ditching your own rules. Don't know if that's realistic though. Edited February 16, 2021 by dramafreezone 2
Alpacalia Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 What is it that you like about this person, from the two dates you've had?
poppyfields Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 (edited) 14 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: It seems to be too far gone for the most part. Men have their rules and now women have their rules and it's like a standoff at the OK Corral, back in the wild western times. The key is finding a man or woman who doesn't care about a set of rules and ditching your own rules. Don't know if that's realistic though. So very true. I have never been one to follow the "standard" rules circulating out there, I have always made my own rules, thinking this was good! I play by my own rules. Problem is they are still rules, it was still me playing the "game"! Ugh. I thought it was necessary but it still didn't protect me, so what the hell do I know? lol Anyway, not for me to worry about, since I have chosen to not date for awhile and focus on school and ME! Edited February 16, 2021 by poppyfields
dramafreezone Posted February 16, 2021 Posted February 16, 2021 2 minutes ago, Alpaca said: What is it that you like about this person, from the two dates you've had? Just a shot in the dark, but probably makes her feel sexy, desirable. 1 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 3 minutes ago, Alpaca said: What is it that you like about this person, from the two dates you've had? I like that he texted immediately after our dates telling me he had a good time and wants to see me again. I also liked our conversations. 1 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 Just now, dramafreezone said: Just a shot in the dark, but probably makes her feel sexy, desirable. Yes but he isn't the only one
Author Britney25 Posted February 17, 2021 Author Posted February 17, 2021 1 hour ago, dramafreezone said: It seems to be too far gone for the most part. Men have their rules and now women have their rules and it's like a standoff at the OK Corral, back in the wild western times. The key is finding a man or woman who doesn't care about a set of rules and ditching your own rules. Don't know if that's realistic though. That's very hard
basil67 Posted February 17, 2021 Posted February 17, 2021 1 hour ago, Britney25 said: Yes but he isn't the only one So why are you staying connected when you're frustrated with him? Why not date one of the other guys who makes you feel sexy? 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 17, 2021 Author Posted February 17, 2021 @Poppy fields he just texted hes put of town but would love to next week. I dont know what to think.
Author Britney25 Posted February 17, 2021 Author Posted February 17, 2021 27 minutes ago, basil67 said: So why are you staying connected when you're frustrated with him? Why not date one of the other guys who makes you feel sexy? He just texted Hes out if town this weekend but would love to next week
Author Britney25 Posted February 17, 2021 Author Posted February 17, 2021 2 hours ago, dramafreezone said: It seems to be too far gone for the most part. Men have their rules and now women have their rules and it's like a standoff at the OK Corral, back in the wild western times. The key is finding a man or woman who doesn't care about a set of rules and ditching your own rules. Don't know if that's realistic though. He texted hes going out of town but would love to next week
Gaeta Posted February 17, 2021 Posted February 17, 2021 (edited) Big meh... He did not answer right away for next weekend because he was waiting to hear from another date pending. He's offering the following week, no mid-week date, he's not eager to see you. I would not pursue. Edited February 17, 2021 by Gaeta 2
Author Britney25 Posted February 17, 2021 Author Posted February 17, 2021 (edited) 26 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Big meh... He did not answer right away for next weekend because he was waiting to hear from another date pending. He's offering the following week, no mid-week date, he's not eager to see you. I would not pursue. Hell yes I'm not going to chase him. I'm ignoring his message. Wont reply back. But to be fair I told him I'm not available this week until the weekend hence he didnt mention mid week. Edited February 17, 2021 by Britney25 Forgot to add
Alpacalia Posted February 17, 2021 Posted February 17, 2021 2 hours ago, Britney25 said: I like that he texted immediately after our dates telling me he had a good time and wants to see me again. I also liked our conversations. Yes, it's refreshing when people demonstrate common courtesy and the delight that comes with pleasant conversation.
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