winny Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 (edited) 5 hours ago, poppyfields said: Don't we all fear rejection, at least on some level? I mean let's face it, rejection sucks, it hurts, so to me that's nothing unusual. Hopefully, it doesn't devastate us to the point of never taking another risk again, but rejection is NOT fun, it stings and it sucks when we really like someone. JMO, and course I cannot speak for Britney but I don't think she meant that comment the way it sounded. I think she's just confused because the guy appeared to be very into her, he was very attentive before their second date and during, he texted afterwards with kissey emojis, but now, nothing since. Not even so much as an acknowledgment of her last text. I think her reaction is understandable under those circumstances, I would be confused too! Rejection sucks. So a lot of people fear it. But...Its not right to use that fear as an excuse to justify unhealthy behaviors. Also, rejection hurts when there is too much investment. She has what 2 dates? And as far as I know.. these were not like whole day dates. Big question should be - why is she so invested after 2 dates to even feel like its a rejection that hurts so much. Edited February 15, 2021 by winny
winny Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 3 hours ago, Britney25 said: He added that he was busy at work supposedly. On Sunday?
Wiseman2 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 On 2/1/2021 at 5:08 PM, Britney25 said: I'm used to a Man planning of course. Probably best to focus on other guys you're talking to and meeting. He doesn't seem that enthused. Why would you expect a valentine greeting? Did you send him one first?
Author Britney25 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Probably best to focus on other guys you're talking to and meeting. He doesn't seem that enthused. Why would you expect a valentine greeting? Did you send him one first? He did wish me happy Valentines day after all and wants to get together again 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 He texted yesterday way late that he wants to get together again.
Author Britney25 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 6 hours ago, winny said: On Sunday? Yeah well he owns a business.
Alpacalia Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 Plenty of careers require working different hours that aren't 9 to 5. Did he mention a time/date for your next date? 1
Fletch Lives Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 So you have not gone on a date in two weeks with him? I'd say this thing is dead. Sorry. 1
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 3 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: So you have not gone on a date in two weeks with him? I'd say this thing is dead. Sorry. They were on a date Last Thursday. 1
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 18 minutes ago, Britney25 said: He texted yesterday way late that he wants to get together again. That's good. 17 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Yeah well he owns a business. And that very good. 2
Fletch Lives Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: They were on a date Last Thursday. Thank you, I just did not feel like reading through 14 pages today, I have a headache. Well, one date a week is fine. If they have been dating for less than 2 months, I would not expect anything special for Valentines' day. 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 49 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Plenty of careers require working different hours that aren't 9 to 5. Did he mention a time/date for your next date? No he just texted let's get together and I didnt get back to him as I was already sleeping when he texted that. I will respond today. 3
divegrl Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 14 minutes ago, Britney25 said: No he just texted let's get together and I didnt get back to him as I was already sleeping when he texted that. I will respond today. Yay! This is awesome.
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 It kinda sounds like this is his dating style. Mentions something about another date, then works around it last minute like, not too planned. 2
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 (edited) @smackie9: I agree it's his style. Also maybe not last minute, last week I think it was on a Monday that he invited her for Thursday cocktail @Britney25 can confirm. If he owns a business and has to put in some work on weekends and the odd week nights that would explain why he's not planning too ahead. Edited February 15, 2021 by Gaeta 2
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 The OP has to recognize this IS consistency and to stop worrying about it. 4 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 (edited) 8 minutes ago, smackie9 said: It kinda sounds like this is his dating style. Mentions something about another date, then works around it last minute like, not too planned. Exactly. I'm used to the Man saying "hey lets go to so and so" and waiting if it works for me but let's see. Edited February 15, 2021 by Britney25
Author Britney25 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 4 minutes ago, Gaeta said: @smackie9: I agree it's his style. Also maybe not last minute, last week I think it was on a Monday that he invited her for Thursday cocktail @Britney25 can confirm. If he owns a business and has to put in some work on weekends and the odd week nights that would explain why he's not planning too ahead. Yeah that's true...last date we planned like a week ahead. Now it's a little different. But he is consistent. I'm not worrying anymore. Thank you for the advice. 3
Author Britney25 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 1 minute ago, smackie9 said: The OP has to recognize this IS consistency and to stop worrying about it. Yes I'm not going to worry about it. 2
winny Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 2 hours ago, Britney25 said: Yes I'm not going to worry about it. you shouldn't have been worrying in the first place after 2 dates. 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 So I told him I'm free this weekend. He just like my message. 2
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 1 hour ago, Britney25 said: So I told him I'm free this weekend. He just like my message. Maybe he doesn't have the time to get into it right now. I would not expect someone at work to get into things and figure out a date. 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 15, 2021 Author Posted February 15, 2021 6 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Maybe he doesn't have the time to get into it right now. I would not expect someone at work to get into things and figure out a date. I understand
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 15, 2021 Posted February 15, 2021 Well, this is a bright spot on LS! So nice to see things developing so luv-a-lly!!!! Cheering for you, Britney! 2 1
Author Britney25 Posted February 16, 2021 Author Posted February 16, 2021 20 hours ago, Gaeta said: Maybe he doesn't have the time to get into it right now. I would not expect someone at work to get into things and figure out a he s He still didnt reply if the weekend works for him. I don't know about him if we match at all.
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