Catch up? updated

[Britney25]

58 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Spot on @push/pull smackie, have you read my posts?  

Coming forward showing lots of interest (pull), then the "gentle push back" throwing her off (push) so she comes chasing.  That's exactly what push/pull is.  And it's intentional. 

Such a freakin game, however it often works so the game continues.

Like I said, can't be 100% certain that's what he's doing, it's quite possible he has genuinely lost interest; that's happened to me too, and it can happen suddenly with no warning.  

I'm guilty of doing this myself and have no regrets, but I don't advise chasing (texting him) as that sets a bad precedent for if you ever get into a relationship.  

It sends him the message that you can be easily manipulated which is never a good message to send and makes for a very unbalanced relationship imo.  

My hope for you Britney is it's neither of those two scenarios, and he will reach out today or tomorrow asking for a third date!

 

Like I said if he is playing a dumb game then he's lost me. At this point he doesnt have to text again. Why would I even play his stupid game back? Where are all the mature Men? I have to move back to Europe because in the USA it's so strange.

[Britney25]

10 hours ago, Ami1uwant said:

Valentine’s Day is like Christmas...you don’t want these holidays very early in the dating process.

 

if I do too much too soon she runs.  If I do something to simple or small she runs.

Well heres the funny part. He did text me Merry Christmas! Lol

[Gaeta]

6 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

 I have to move back to Europe because in the USA it's so strange.

Funny i'm canadian and this past week a single friend of mine said she'll have to find an American bf cause it's impossible here to find a serious man.

Edited February 14, 2021 by Gaeta

[Britney25]

Just now, Gaeta said:

Funny i'm canadian and this past week a single friend of mine said she'll have to find an American bf cause it's impossible here.

Really? Haha

[poppyfields]

3 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

He has not done anything wrong yet.

Agree, no he hasn't, this is all pure speculation at this point. 

Britney, on second thought, do what you want.  Text if you want, don't text if you don't want.

Don't allow anxiety, insecurity OR the suspicion he might be gaming you to drive your ship.

Do "you" as they say, be honest, genuine, real.  Trust that he's a good straight up guy until he gives you reason not to.

F*ck the game, it will exhaust you eventually.

 

[Britney25]

5 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Funny i'm canadian and this past week a single friend of mine said she'll have to find an American bf cause it's impossible here.

That why when you said I have to invite him on the 3rd date I was shocked because in Europe we dont do that. Ladies I mean. The Man takes charge and I'm so used to that 

[Britney25]

4 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Agree, no he hasn't, this is all pure speculation at this point. 

Britney, on second thought, do what you want.  Text if you want, don't text if you don't want.

Don't allow anxiety, insecurity OR the suspicion he might be gaming you to drive your ship.

Do "you" as they say, be honest, genuine, real.  Trust that he's a good straight up guy until he gives you reason not to.

F*ck the game, it will exhaust you eventually.

 

Thanks poppy.

No I'm not going to text him because I'm not so attracted to him yet. I'm open to him but no strong feels yet. 

[poppyfields]

11 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Well heres the funny part. He did text me Merry Christmas! Lol

Of course he did. He was in "chase" mode back then. 

 

[Britney25]

2 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Of course he did. He was in "chase" mode back then. 

 

Ok so how do I get the guy to keep chasing? I mean what stage is he in now? 

[Gaeta]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Ok so how do I get the guy to keep chasing? I mean what stage is he in now? 

No no. If he's after the chase and not a relationship why would you want to keep him chasing? Waste of your time and it's counter productive to obtain your final goal which is finding a serious man right!

[poppyfields]

6 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Ok so how do I get the guy to keep chasing? I mean what stage is he in now? 

You don't do anything.  Well, except maybe dump him and find a guy who isn't so much into the chase, the game, like I posted earlier.

Brit, you weren't into him at first, may I ask why? 

Did you sense he might be a bit of a player?  Is that why you initially rejected him? 

 

Edited February 14, 2021 by poppyfields

[winny]

34 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Thanks poppy.

No I'm not going to text him because I'm not so attracted to him yet. I'm open to him but no strong feels yet. 

Thats why you need help even while texting him? stop lying to yourself. You are invested in him too much already.

[winny]

31 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Ok so how do I get the guy to keep chasing? I mean what stage is he in now? 

Oh god..! How unhealthy is this mindset.. why you need someone to chase you??!!! And anyways you cannot make anyone do anything. People will always do what they want. Stop wanting to manipulate people and play games. 

[poppyfields]

1 minute ago, winny said:

Stop wanting to manipulate people and play games. 

Amen sista.  Great advice for both genders!

[winny]

2 hours ago, smackie9 said:

HAHAHA I know what he's doing....whether you would admit it or not, .....girl this guy has you on the edge of your seat! lol. He's doing the fine art of pickup....the push and pull method. #1....keep her guessing. You are biting your nails awaiting his next move. You keep saying "if he doesn't do this....by this time...I'm done!!" but you are actually doing " Should I send him a text? what should I say? I heard from him. He didn't mention the date! omg! I'm so confused!"  He's got you girl, eating right out of his hand. Good play on his part. This thread is now 10 pages long...he's got you chasing him.

Ha ha ha exactly..!!! She is borderline obsessed.

[Britney25]

Just now, winny said:

Ha ha ha exactly..!!! She is borderline obsessed.

Cut it out you guys. I'm just confused because I'm supposed to reject him not him me .

[Britney25]

7 minutes ago, winny said:

Oh god..! How unhealthy is this mindset.. why you need someone to chase you??!!! And anyways you cannot make anyone do anything. People will always do what they want. Stop wanting to manipulate people and play games. 

Ok ok I didn't mean it like that. I guess I meant why do I attract these Men?

[Britney25]

9 minutes ago, winny said:

Thats why you need help even while texting him? stop lying to yourself. You are invested in him too much already.

But I'm not texting him at least ha!

[Britney25]

34 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

You don't do anything.  Well, except maybe dump him and find a guy who isn't so much into the chase, the game, like I posted earlier.

Brit, you weren't into him at first, may I ask why? 

Did you sense he might be a bit of a player?  Is that why you initially rejected him? 

 

Well physically he wasnt my type. Hes shorter than me at least an inch. I just didnt feel physically attracted to him. His personality is so so. So after that I kept rejecting him, replying back the next day etc. He left me alone for a while and again came back liking my social media. I though hmm maybe let me give him a chance because I need to change my mindset and not shoot down Men on the first date that quickly. But now I know. He's either very shy or scared of making the wrong move? He didnt anything wrong yet..of course not but I got texts today from Men saying Happy Valentine's day! And nothing from him still. 

[Britney25]

7 minutes ago, winny said:

Ha ha ha exactly..!!! She is borderline obsessed.

Ok I'm going to stop now. I will update if he does text. 

[poppyfields]

Delete, no longer relevant.  

Edited February 14, 2021 by poppyfields

[Britney25]

21 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Delete, no longer relevant.  

?

[winny]

33 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Cut it out you guys. I'm just confused because I'm supposed to reject him not him me .

Its not a competition. Getting rejected by someone means you tried. Nothing wrong about it. It doesn’t make someone better or worse. 

[winny]

30 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Ok I'm going to stop now. I will update if he does text. 

Sounds good. In the mean time focus attention on other stuff in your life. Call a few friends.. watch a movie.. whatever keeps your attention away. 

[winny]

1 hour ago, Britney25 said:

Like I said if he is playing a dumb game then he's lost me. At this point he doesnt have to text again. Why would I even play his stupid game back? Where are all the mature Men? I have to move back to Europe because in the USA it's so strange.

Lets not blame USA LOL 

Its not about who you attract. You will always attract all sorts of people. Its up to you who you wanna keep and who you wanna let go. The quicker you get rid of time wasters the better.