BaileyB Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 Let’s just say he is not taking her to their favourite restaurant to tell her about his wonderful weekend with you... 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 1 hour ago, Cappygyal said: My cousin, the ex, and he all met in college. My cousin and the ex are good friends still and they are all in group chat. My cousin updated me and has been telling me to be cautious. I think she told me about this as a way to say, “see I told you”. And this woman posts all these screenshots to the group chat? Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 2 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: And this woman posts all these screenshots to the group chat? My guess would be that the ex has no knowledge of Cappy or, if she does, understands that Cappy is just a temporary plaything. The ex shares info with the cousin because they are good friends. In turn, the cousin is trying to warn Cappy about what is going on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 5 minutes ago, introverted1 said: My guess would be that the ex has no knowledge of Cappy or, if she does, understands that Cappy is just a temporary plaything. The ex shares info with the cousin because they are good friends. In turn, the cousin is trying to warn Cappy about what is going on. Yes, I got all of that. I find it fairly convenient that this woman posts all the screenshots for her friends to see, honestly. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted February 17, 2021 Author Share Posted February 17, 2021 53 minutes ago, BaileyB said: Let’s just say he is not taking her to their favourite restaurant to tell her about his wonderful weekend with you... Why would he? He’s trying to have his cake and eat it too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 1 minute ago, Cappygyal said: Why would he? He’s trying to have his cake and eat it too. No, he just really wants his ex back. As that hasn’t happened yet, he was willing to entertain other options. But now, it appears that he is going to make his pitch to his ex. No doubt, you will get a screen shot of her response. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 13 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Yes, I got all of that. I find it fairly convenient that this woman posts all the screenshots for her friends to see, honestly. I thought it was just with the cousin, who is the ex's bff. I guess I'm seeing it that the ex has been confiding in the cousin about the breakup and subsequent contact and then, perhaps out of excitement, shared the screen shot of the text about the dinner reservations. I'm not thinking it's staged, but more that the ex has no idea that the cousin is related to the girl her ex is currently smashing. Maybe I have this all wrong. 🤷♀️ Link to post Share on other sites
princessaurora Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 27 minutes ago, BaileyB said: No, he just really wants his ex back. As that hasn’t happened yet, he was willing to entertain other options. But now, it appears that he is going to make his pitch to his ex. No doubt, you will get a screen shot of her response. I had such a gut feeling he was going to hook back up with the ex again. I just didn't expect it to happen so fast. Sorry Cappygal, it's time for you to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 23 minutes ago, introverted1 said: I'm not thinking it's staged, but more that the ex has no idea that the cousin is related to the girl her ex is currently smashing. Perhaps she knows exactly what’s happening here and she is very aware that this information is filtering back... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amygirl908 Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 2 hours ago, Cappygyal said: How come you don’t think he’s playing her? He asked her to see her the moment I left. Which sounds like he’s trying to have his cake and eat it too. 😂😂😂 no he’s just spending time with the person he wanted to be with the whole time. He did get to have his cake and eat it too. You spoon fed it to him. 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 18, 2021 Share Posted February 18, 2021 Cappygyal, are you at all concerned that this could backfire on you and your cousin? What kind of a friend is your cousin to be doing this to her two other friends? I get that she is your cousin and all but it seems to me she's being pretty foolish. If they find out, she's toast. And before you say they won't find out, stranger things have happened. This is a big mess, IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted February 18, 2021 Share Posted February 18, 2021 On 2/13/2021 at 12:13 AM, Cappygyal said: So does he still want to be with his ex? I think he does. I think you are better off detaching yourself from this guy. The whole situation is too stressful and full of too much drama. You don't need that. You're better off dumping him and dating locally. And, keep your cousin out of your life life dear. 🤨 She has no business being involved with who you're dating even on a platonic level b/c she can create more drama that you do not need through gossip to you about his activities while you're apart from each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted February 18, 2021 Author Share Posted February 18, 2021 3 hours ago, Watercolors said: I think he does. I think you are better off detaching yourself from this guy. The whole situation is too stressful and full of too much drama. You don't need that. You're better off dumping him and dating locally. And, keep your cousin out of your life life dear. 🤨 She has no business being involved with who you're dating even on a platonic level b/c she can create more drama that you do not need through gossip to you about his activities while you're apart from each other. I don’t think she was trying to create drama. She has been trying to warn me to leave him alone since the beginning. She told me she doesn’t mean to hurt my feelings but that I needed tough love because I wasn’t listening so that’s why she told me/showed me the contact between him and the ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted February 18, 2021 Author Share Posted February 18, 2021 (edited) Well my best friend asked me how the sex was, I told her it was the best ever. She said well it couldn’t have been that great for him because he would’ve been a lot more distracted while I was there but he wasn’t. She said if he was thinking about her the entire time, looking at her social media while with me, told her happy vday, but most importantly if it was that good for him he wouldn’t have contacted her within 30 minutes of dropping me off at the airport. You think that’s true? Edited February 18, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator updated by OP Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 18, 2021 Share Posted February 18, 2021 (edited) I think she's kinda right. Mindblowing sex may have distracted him for a bit, but for him to forget her, he'd need an amazing connection too. Edited February 18, 2021 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 18, 2021 Share Posted February 18, 2021 21 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: Well my best friend asked me how the sex was, I told her it was the best ever. She said well it couldn’t have been that great for him if he was thinking about her the entire time, looking at her social media while with me, told her happy vday, but especially because he contacted her within 30 minutes of dropping me off at the airport. She said if it was that good for him he would’ve been a lot more distracted while I was there but he wasn’t. You think that’s true? I am afraid so. Guys who are into you are into you, and you alone. They are not trying to get back with their ex. Sex is sex, many men (and women) can separate sex from feelings. Truth is the sex with you may have been good, but that can mean nothing if his heart and his feelings are elsewhere. He used you for sex I am sorry to say. He was supposed to be all loved up after the weekend, BUT as soon as he got rid of you, he was back making plans to see his ex... That's great for her, but not good for you... That is why it is never a good idea to get involved with people who are fresh out of another relationship. You may think you are all that and that he is bound to choose you, but you can't compete against history and love... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted February 18, 2021 Author Share Posted February 18, 2021 (edited) 18 minutes ago, elaine567 said: I am afraid so. Guys who are into you are into you, and you alone. They are not trying to get back with their ex. Sex is sex, many men (and women) can separate sex from feelings. Truth is the sex with you may have been good, but that can mean nothing if his heart and his feelings are elsewhere. He used you for sex I am sorry to say. He was supposed to be all loved up after the weekend, BUT as soon as he got rid of you, he was back making plans to see his ex... That's great for her, but not good for you... That is why it is never a good idea to get involved with people who are fresh out of another relationship. You may think you are all that and that he is bound to choose you, but you can't compete against history and love... But if he can separate sex and feelings that means the sex could’ve been really good for him too, right? My friend said if the sex was that good he would’ve waited a little longer to say something to his ex, not the moment he dropped me off. Edited February 18, 2021 by Cappygyal Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted February 18, 2021 Author Share Posted February 18, 2021 26 minutes ago, basil67 said: I think she's kinda right. Mindblowing sex may have distracted him for a bit, but for him to forget her, he'd need an amazing connection too. And he wasn’t distracted was he? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 18, 2021 Share Posted February 18, 2021 (edited) He sent her a Valentines message while he was with you and further contacted her as soon as he got rid of you. I'd call that "very distracted". She was never far from his mind. Looking at his behaviour, it's highly likely she was his fantasy while he was having sex/spending time with you. Edited February 18, 2021 by basil67 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 18, 2021 Share Posted February 18, 2021 If you are asking how good you are at sex, who knows? Sex is very subjective, so to some, good sex is awful sex to others. Sex is however usually better with a person you have feelings for, so here the sex was great for you but for him maybe not... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted February 18, 2021 Author Share Posted February 18, 2021 2 minutes ago, basil67 said: He sent her a Valentines message while he was with you and further contacted her as soon as he got rid of you. I'd call that "very distracted". She was never far from his mind. Looking at his behaviour, it's highly likely she was his fantasy while he was having sex/spending time with you. Ugh, yea you’re right. So you think my friend is right, that the sex couldn’t have been all that great for him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted February 18, 2021 Author Share Posted February 18, 2021 2 minutes ago, elaine567 said: If you are asking how good you are at sex, who knows? Sex is very subjective, so to some, good sex is awful sex to others. Sex is however usually better with a person you have feelings for, so here the sex was great for you but for him maybe not... No, not necessarily how good I am or not. Just wondering if my friend is right - if it was that good he would’ve been more distracted while I was there. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 18, 2021 Share Posted February 18, 2021 (edited) 8 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: Ugh, yea you’re right. So you think my friend is right, that the sex couldn’t have been all that great for him? Even the most mind blowing sex is forgettable if it's not with the person we really want to be having it with. Edited February 18, 2021 by basil67 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 18, 2021 Share Posted February 18, 2021 Just now, Cappygyal said: No, not necessarily how good I am or not. Just wondering if my friend is right - if it was that good he would’ve been more distracted while I was there. You were always on a hiding to nothing. Many women would have not even gone on this trip in the first place. Once it was obvious he was still besotted with her even when you were there, that was the time to leave. But you thought the sex would keep him with you, but that was a foolish idea... She dumped him originally for being a jerk, take that as a warning. Time to go find yourself a better man. Link to post Share on other sites
World Peace Guy Posted February 18, 2021 Share Posted February 18, 2021 On 2/13/2021 at 8:13 AM, Cappygyal said: I disagree, if he still wanted to be with her he wouldn’t forming other relationships with women, aka me. WHAT??? You're confused on what relationships are to most people. They are not about love. They are about selfishness. Have you never heard the old saying "he wants to have his cake and eat it too"? This is extremely common behavior. He does not love you, nor does he love his ex. He loves himself, and what will bring him pleasure or fun. That is all you are to him, a fling. Sorry. Obviously, I don't know the whole story, but you need to accept that him being with you, has nothing to do with whether or not he wants to be with her, with most people. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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