My girlfriend won't be end her relationship with her sexually abusive father

[ShyViolet]

You are taking too much upon yourself here.  You are acting like her problems are your problems to figure out.  The only thing, and absolutely only thing that is your decision to make here is whether or not to be with her.  All the rest is not your decision and not your place to dictate how she should deal with.  It's her decision and her business how she processes the trauma she's been through, how she chooses to deal with it, whether or not she chooses to be in contact with her father, and how she "feeds" off her friend who also had trauma.  So either accept the package, or break up with her.  That's the only thing that is within your control here.

[iAMconcerned18]

@ShyVioletYup. Those would be my choices. I am trying to process what I need to do. Thanks for your reply.

[iAMconcerned18]

@ShyVioletMaybe but I also have a right to defend myself and my intentions with my girlfriend. There is no truth to me trying to control her and tell her what to do. So no nerves have been stricken. I’m simply seeking advice on how to deal with my girlfriend’s issues. I don’t want to be torn down for posting how I feel. I thought this was supposed to be a supportive community. 

[iAMconcerned18]

@introverted1Thanks for the tip