Trevor irregal Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 I could be sitting there happy thinking about my girlfriend thinking to myself dang she is so beautiful. After I say this a little voice in the back of my head goes “ no she’s no she’s ugly you don’t really like her”. But I do think she is beautiful she the prettiest girl in the world. To me no one can compare to her. I’m fighting against myself. I’m able to tell when it’s me thinking or the other thoughts. I know that they aren’t true. But after hearing these so many times it really tears you down. You start doubting if you really love your girlfriend or like her. I need help can someone please give me advice before it’s too late. Btw I have been reading very many different websites. The thing is I’m doubting myself. Because I have been hurt so much. I’m not trusting myself.
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 You're not trusting your eyesight in that you can't figure out whether or not she's beautiful because your mind argues with itself? Please clarify. You don't trust that you want her or you don't trust that you're evaluating her beauty accurately? What is it you don't trust and are fearful of?
Author Trevor irregal Posted February 10, 2021 Author Posted February 10, 2021 5 minutes ago, LivingWaterPlease said: You're not trusting your eyesight in that you can't figure out whether or not she's beautiful because your mind argues with itself? Please clarify. You don't trust that you want her or you don't trust that you're evaluating her beauty accurately? What is it you don't trust and are fearful of? I fearful that I don’t love her. I know deep down I love her but something in my mind keeps telling me I don’t.
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 If you're under the age of 22, how old are you?
Author Trevor irregal Posted February 11, 2021 Author Posted February 11, 2021 31 minutes ago, LivingWaterPlease said: If you're under the age of 22, how old are you? 15
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 11, 2021 Posted February 11, 2021 OK, thanks, Trevor. I'm so glad to know this because it makes your issue a lot simpler. You see the part of the brain that makes wise decisions (judgements) is not fully developed in a male until around the age of 30 years-old. As you get older your brain will be maturing and behaving in a way that helps you cope with a romantic relationship. Most guys your age may not even be concerned about the issue you're posting about. They might not know they have it or how to express it! So you're ahead of the game so to speak. But, just know your brain is behaving normally for a 15-year-old boy and will straighten itself out in time. If it drives you too crazy worrying about it why not take a break and not date anyone for awhile or date around some? Or just concentrate on your studies.
littleblackheart Posted February 11, 2021 Posted February 11, 2021 Even at 15, if a part of you thinks your gf is ugly for whatever reason and you only like her, the nice thing to do is to break up with her and work on your trust issues. You have plenty of time to find another girl that you'll find great all the time. Let her be with another boy who won't question himself so much about her too. Good luck!
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