Damien Darnell Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost three months. I overthink a lot about how I feel about her like if I really love her, do I really care about her and so on. I dealt with a lot of overthinking the past two days and I had not seen her until this morning. But it was different from all the other times. I was anxious my heart was racing I was uneasy I didn’t know what to say or do. I bound barely breathe. I feel terrible because I wasn’t happy like I usually was. What should I do???!!!
d0nnivain Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 You are making yourself nuts. Stop overthinking. Rather focus on what's right in front of you. Are you having fun & enjoying her company in the moment? At 90 days in you don't have to figure everything out. Stop trying. If you like her, keep seeing her. Give yourself many more months, at least a year, to figure out the deeper stuff. This early on you can only know for sure if it's a hard NO. You can't know if it's a yes yet. You need much more time.
ShyViolet Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 It sounds like you had an anxiety attack. You need to take steps to work on your anxiety. Maybe go to therapy. This probably has nothing to do with your girlfriend. You've only been dating her 3 months, you are definitely overthinking. If you enjoy dating her then just keep dating her, you don't need to make this huge, final decision of whether you love her or not. You are still just getting to know her.
d0nnivain Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 I looked at another thread of yours. You two are teenagers in HS. There is no need to figure any of this out for the next 7-10 YEARS. If you enjoy each other's company keep dating. Be nice to each other. Care for each other. Love won't develop into a forever thing for a long time. Stop rushing yourself. The pace you are on, dating for 3 months is just fine.
Fletch Lives Posted February 12, 2021 Posted February 12, 2021 Lot's of people worry if the are with the right person between months 2 and 18 of a relationship. Just don't get married too soon and you'll be okay! This will work itself out naturally over time. Either you will stay or you will go.
winny Posted February 12, 2021 Posted February 12, 2021 Are you generally an anxious person? What you are describing is an anxiety attack. You need therapy if you have more of them.
introverted1 Posted February 12, 2021 Posted February 12, 2021 1 hour ago, Fletch Lives said: Lot's of people worry if the are with the right person between months 2 and 18 of a relationship. Just don't get married too soon and you'll be okay! This will work itself out naturally over time. Either you will stay or you will go. He's 15.
Fletch Lives Posted February 13, 2021 Posted February 13, 2021 19 hours ago, introverted1 said: He's 15. Well that changes things a little, lol 1
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