brittanyjean259 Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 Here is a very good topic that i am curious about. what is so good ABOUT nc, why does it do nething good? doesnt it seem kinda icky to just not talk to some1 that you were in love with... will it benefit you? I know it is very difficult ...but doesnt it make you so sad doing it? does it get better?
slubberdegullion Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 Yes, it will make you sad. That's part of the process, and it cannot be avoided. There are a couple of things about NC which makes it an effective way to heal; It gives you time without your ex-partner's input to decide if you have made the right decision;It allows your ex-partner the same;It hurts, but it hurts less than remaining in contact and having all those old feelings dredged up again;It's less "icky" than staying in contact;It gives you and your partner time to heal;It takes much of the emotional rollercoaster out of the process, because there's never any second-guessing about whether to call the ex-partner or not. Those are just the reasons that came off the top of my balding cranium. Anyone else?
the_dude007 Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 I think the best part is the fact that it allows for you to put some perspective on the situation, and allows the other person the opportunity to miss you if they are in fact done with you. If you are in their lives, they don't have a chance to recall happy memories, only negative moments will be recalled because that's what your presence may remind them of, especially if the b/u was bad. It's meant to be a way to heal. And it is effective.
Author brittanyjean259 Posted October 16, 2005 Author Posted October 16, 2005 Your right, since ive been away from my ex all i can think about is good memories... but there too "occupied" to even have a simple glimpse of my memory.. i guess i am doing stuff the healthy way and i hope it will beneifit me even though it can be unbearable
scobro Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 Yes, it will make you sad. That's part of the process, and it cannot be avoided. There are a couple of things about NC which makes it an effective way to heal; It gives you time without your ex-partner's input to decide if you have made the right decision;It allows your ex-partner the same;It hurts, but it hurts less than remaining in contact and having all those old feelings dredged up again;It's less "icky" than staying in contact;It gives you and your partner time to heal;It takes much of the emotional rollercoaster out of the process, because there's never any second-guessing about whether to call the ex-partner or not. Those are just the reasons that came off the top of my balding cranium. Anyone else? Good ol Canadian advice Don Cherry couldn"t have said it better on Coaches corner;) .Where you at you near Oakville Slubberdeguillion?Go leafs Go!!!!!!
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