GNorris Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 Hi, im just after some advice really. I’ve been split up from my ex husband for about 18months. So in January a friend let me know he was divorcing his wife, one thing led to another and we slept together; it was a little awkward and I know everyone felt a little guilty, so anyway I’ve asked him around to mine and now he’s saying he has issues with his moral compass and he has a sports activity that my ex husband also participates in. Is he just giving me the brush off? And if so why not just be honest about it. Also do I text him and say I thought neither of us wanted anything serious just a bit of fun every now and again so what’s your problem
josedelamuerte Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 (edited) You tried hooking up. He's clearly not comfortable with it. You've made it clear that you're interested. I wouldn't pester him about it. He'll come around when and if he feels like it. In the meanwhile find someone else to sleep with. It is quite easy for a woman at any age to find partners for casual sex. Edited February 9, 2021 by josedelamuerte reworded for aesthetic purposes 3
Wiseman2 Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 Two married but estranged people getting together for sex happens. However he doesn't want a relationship.
elaine567 Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 2 hours ago, GNorris said: I’ve asked him around to mine "Mine" as in your new place, or "mine" as in the ex marital home? As he knows your husband the latter may be a bit uncomfortable for him. As this was awkward from the start then it is probably a no goer. 18 months in, you are ready to do this, I guess he isn't. As someone once said here, he felt like it was cheating, even knowing it wasn't.
smackie9 Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 Yup the brush off. Suspect you were set up...he was the one that reached out to you specifically to let you know he was divorcing his wife...not divorced "divorcing" wink wink may not be true. Then comes the elaborate excuses after the sex. He had plenty of time to think about the repercussions before even reaching out to you. Not looking good here.
winny Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 9 hours ago, GNorris said: Also do I text him and say I thought neither of us wanted anything serious just a bit of fun every now and again so what’s your problem No! You do not say anything. Find another person to hook up. Use dating apps. Very easy for women to find a hook up partner there.
Versacehottie Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 9 hours ago, GNorris said: Hi, im just after some advice really. I’ve been split up from my ex husband for about 18months. So in January a friend let me know he was divorcing his wife, one thing led to another and we slept together; it was a little awkward and I know everyone felt a little guilty, so anyway I’ve asked him around to mine and now he’s saying he has issues with his moral compass and he has a sports activity that my ex husband also participates in. Is he just giving me the brush off? And if so why not just be honest about it. Also do I text him and say I thought neither of us wanted anything serious just a bit of fun every now and again so what’s your problem He clearly doesn't want to keep doing it. BUT bolded above is really not how to entice someone to want to spend time with you. Should have used a different tactic that an accusatory, angry, negative tone. For someone that was already avoiding you, and you guys both were in a grey area that perhaps cross some boundaries as far as who you should be sleeping with after your break up, this is NOT the way to go about having some more time with him. Chalk it up to a one time thing and find someone else. He clearly thinks this is too messy. Sorry.
mortensorchid Posted February 12, 2021 Posted February 12, 2021 You're in a FWB situation not a relationship. You both are estranged from your spouses and not sure of what the future will hold, but you know that you are not in a relationship.
Author GNorris Posted March 8, 2021 Author Posted March 8, 2021 So I slept with this guy who is a friend. We've both just recently gone through marriage break ups. However since then, we've not had much contact, it kind of ended on a dodgy note with my ex ringing me the next morning, anyway I think I want a fwb situation with him, as I've been to emotionally damaged from the break up of my marriage and divorce. But I know I'm bit the type if person to just go around sleeping with random people, what do I do?
d0nnivain Posted March 8, 2021 Posted March 8, 2021 Is this about the same guy from a few months ago? What's going on? - Dating - LoveShack.org Seems to me the guy knows your husband & as a result would prefer not to hook up with you again. Stop bothering about him.
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