Ravens97 Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 I'm a Gay male and have been seeing a boy remotely via zoom dates for the past few weeks. Everything has been going well and we're going to finally meet in a few weeks. There's just one potential problem - a height difference. I'm 5'7 and he's anywhere from 5'10 to 6'1. He does not know (although he does see my instagram pictures?) how short I am. I'm worried that he'll be turned off and disengage once he finds out. Don't want him to be caught by surprise when we meet but am also afraid of sounding insecure in bringing this up beforehand. In fact, he complimented me the other day saying "you are so confident and it's really attractive." Do gay men care about height? If it matters, I'm a more masculine top and (I think) he's a bottom, but do not know for sure. How should I handle this? Should I bring it up?
snowboy91 Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 Unfortunately I'm not sure if many of the regulars here are gay, so I'm not sure how helpful our answers will be. I'll give it a go anyway. I find that height is less of a big deal than most people think. It's often said in the hetero world that women always prefer a taller man, but every tall woman I've ever met knows that rule limits the dating pool and doesn't care if the man is shorter than her. So by that logic it isn't a hard rule. In the same-sex world (I'm going hard logic here), unless you have two people of identical height, one must always be taller than the other. Some may prefer taller, some may prefer shorter, and some won't care. If this guy wants someone taller than him, then you're not right for him. If it turns out he wants someone shorter, then you fit the bill. There's no point speculating until you meet him in person (or discuss it beforehand). 1
basil67 Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 (edited) I don't know if you want the opinion of an old, straight woman....but I don't think that 5'7 is short. And I agree that there's no point worrying in advance. If he thinks you're the bomb, he won't care about your height. Edited February 3, 2021 by basil67
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2021 Posted February 4, 2021 That's like asking if hair color matters. Your height will make you perfect for somebody & less desirable to somebody else. I'm not that knowledgeable about gay dating but I suppose whether you are a top or bottom may be a factor.
trident_2020 Posted February 6, 2021 Posted February 6, 2021 On 2/3/2021 at 4:12 PM, Ravens97 said: How should I handle this? Should I bring it up? Not on the first date.
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