NTB Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 how long does someone have to be dating before she asks what her "title" is? and do you really need a title? can't you just be dating and good friends? if your were dating for 3 yrs and got serious just recently would you be looking for a title?
JS17 Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 how long does someone have to be dating before she asks what her "title" is? and do you really need a title? can't you just be dating and good friends? if your were dating for 3 yrs and got serious just recently would you be looking for a title? The answer is going to be different for everyone. If I just got out of a 3 year relationship I would say it is highly likely that I would push for things to move faster because it would be a rebound relationship. Other than that, I don't think it's necessary to have a title as long as the terms of the relationship are the same for both parties...ie. not committed but sexually exclusive, or fully exclusive without any titles or commitment. If you are dating and are good friends then you are dating. For me there's no inbetween. Friends or Dating. On the rare occasion there is the FWB but we are not dating, we're just friends (with benefits:D ) If you're dating someone new you need to be honest with her and let her know that you recently got out of a relationship and either want to take things very slowly or do not want a relationship, just casual dating.
Author NTB Posted October 15, 2005 Author Posted October 15, 2005 i don't get females sometimes, they tell you they just want sex. you agree........ and then they decide they need a title...... here i thought FWB was a good enough title
JS17 Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 Come on NTB, you and I both know that once you throw sex into the mix a lot of unexpected emotions come into play. Be wary next time a woman tells you they just want sex. Their minds usually clear after the act. There are a few out there that are ok with just but they are the vast minority.
whichwayisup Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 how long does someone have to be dating before she asks what her "title" is? and do you really need a title? can't you just be dating and good friends? if your were dating for 3 yrs and got serious just recently would you be looking for a title? When you become exclusive and intimate is when the title just happens. Maybe men don't need it, but women do. You can't just date and call it good friends because that isn't what it is. A good friend is someone you have fun with, confide in and don't owe any explanations to. Can come and go as you please. Like a FWB. Yeah, if I was dating someone for 3 years ofcourse I would want a title. I would want to know how serious things are going to get! But it wouldn't take me 3 years to want a title.
whichwayisup Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 i don't get females sometimes, they tell you they just want sex. you agree........ and then they decide they need a title...... here i thought FWB was a good enough title YOU know that most women can't do casual sex, without feelings involved. It's out of our control and the heart gets in the way. FWB means no committment, no strings attached. Unless BOTH of you are aware of this, it's not fair to her if she wants more and you don't. Be honest and upfront about what you think the relationship is to you...That way she atleast has a choice in the matter.
Author NTB Posted October 15, 2005 Author Posted October 15, 2005 she knew from the door this was SEX ONLY..... i'm a horny man and that's just how i told her upfront honest and simple, no hidden meanings just straight up....i told her "i'm horny your horny lets just have sex an nothing more that way we won't be so in the mood." and she agreed then months later she comes up with this title stuff and wanting more.....i told her last night again i don't want a relationship i just got out of one months ago and truth be told i'm jaded right now i don't trust females all i want is sex......but still she feels the need to call me this morning and ask if she can see me tonight so we can talk.... needless to say i used one of those female lines and said i couldn't cause i was washing my hair...... don't get me wrong i don't want to be a jerk or an a$$clown with this girl but i've tried to be nice and consider her feeling but it's like she thinks i am playing hard to get or something and that is not the case.
whichwayisup Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 Most women can handle FWB for only so long...Then the feelings just happen! I know you're aware of this. You need to break up with her or really slow things down because she is developing feelings for you. And you don't trust much right now. Nor it seems are you nice about it. You seem quite peeved that she called and you had to give her a line. Why not just respect her abit more, she isn't trying to hurt you. She cares. Is that a crime? I think you owe it to her to talk, atleast listen to what she has to say. Otherwise she is going to feel used. Just my 2 cents.
Author NTB Posted October 15, 2005 Author Posted October 15, 2005 i know what you mean i guess i will have to call her later to talk
whichwayisup Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 Yup. I do get where you are right now and even though you want sex, it's not a good idea to have long term FWB as for women the feelings just happen eventually. I do hope you work through it all and find someone you can be happy with.
augur Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 hmmm - I think I should have picked inquisitor as a username. Anyhow - Lets say she completely gets what you are saying - and then starts up with other guys as well as yourself. What are your thoughts on this? Is this what you want?
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