StrongHands Posted February 2, 2021 Posted February 2, 2021 It’s only Late Notice if YOU think it’s late notice. Being spontaneous can often lead to a really fun time.....your call 2
peach302 Posted February 2, 2021 Posted February 2, 2021 2 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: Hey guys so the guy who was flaky when we were supposed to meet asked to get drinks tonight but isn't it such LATE NOTICE?! Meet him. You may end up having a good time 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted February 2, 2021 Author Posted February 2, 2021 11 minutes ago, StrongHands said: It’s only Late Notice if YOU think it’s late notice. Being spontaneous can often lead to a really fun time.....your call Im also a little worried it's like a middle of the week booty call just to grab drinks?
StrongHands Posted February 2, 2021 Posted February 2, 2021 On 1/30/2021 at 3:39 PM, sushiandtacos said: No I still haven't replied, still debating lol Besides drinks were sushi and/or tacos on the agenda? If so, that could tip the scales in his favor....
Author sushiandtacos Posted February 2, 2021 Author Posted February 2, 2021 4 minutes ago, StrongHands said: Besides drinks were sushi and/or tacos on the agenda? If so, that could tip the scales in his favor.... lol sadly no I should tell him that
StrongHands Posted February 2, 2021 Posted February 2, 2021 6 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: lol sadly no I should tell him that Yes indeed Tell him to step up his game and “might” be able to squeeze him in on your social calendar
Author sushiandtacos Posted February 2, 2021 Author Posted February 2, 2021 8 minutes ago, StrongHands said: Yes indeed Tell him to step up his game and “might” be able to squeeze him in on your social calendar
StrongHands Posted February 2, 2021 Posted February 2, 2021 1 minute ago, sushiandtacos said: Oh, I was quite serious.....
Author sushiandtacos Posted February 3, 2021 Author Posted February 3, 2021 Well now we're down to planning for another time now lol...
Alvi Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 2 hours ago, sushiandtacos said: Hey guys so the guy who was flaky when we were supposed to meet asked to get drinks tonight but isn't it such LATE NOTICE?! 9 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: Well now we're down to planning for another time now lol... Well, I would call it quits just about at this point. If it is THAT hard to arrange the first meet, it is probably not meant to be. Doesn't even matter who is at fault anymore, you, him, circumstances, whatever. I would seriously next him. He asked you the very last minute to meet? This would drive me insane. Don't know what his situation or story is but this would annoy me greatly. Enough to block him. 1
StrongHands Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 18 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: Well now we're down to planning for another time now lol... Well, it’s never too early for a good plan It’s a Cali thing
Author sushiandtacos Posted February 3, 2021 Author Posted February 3, 2021 17 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: literally me hahah 2
basil67 Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 3 hours ago, sushiandtacos said: Hey guys so the guy who was flaky when we were supposed to meet asked to get drinks tonight but isn't it such LATE NOTICE?! Some of the best times of my life have happened at late notice. If you've got something else on, by all means stick to your plans...but if your calendar is free, you may have a great night. 5
winny Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 Gosh.. how much confusion and overthinking... just go and meet and see what happens. No one can make it a booty call unless you want it to be that. You can call, text. Whats the big deal. It will clarify things faster and you will know for sure his interest level. 2
StrongHands Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 22 minutes ago, basil67 said: Some of the best times of my life have happened at late notice. If you've got something else on, by all means stick to your plans...but if your calendar is free, you may have a great night. Basil is soooooooooo right. There is already a Genuine "like" for this guy so that by itself is enough to see what MIGHT BE...... 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted February 3, 2021 Author Posted February 3, 2021 14 minutes ago, StrongHands said: Basil is soooooooooo right. There is already a Genuine "like" for this guy so that by itself is enough to see what MIGHT BE...... Oh for sure I agree spontaneity can be fun, but just wasn't sure due to how he flaked this past weekend when we planned to hangout. If he hadn't done that before I think I would've been all for it seeing him last minute tbh 2
princessaurora Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 3 hours ago, StrongHands said: It’s only Late Notice if YOU think it’s late notice. Being spontaneous can often lead to a really fun time.....your call Exactly. The first time I hung out with my now hubby was spur of the moment. I was visiting a friend about 15 minutes from where he lived and she disappeared for awhile to have sex with her boyfriend. I called my now husband to talk while they did the deed and he invited me over to his house to hang out for a bit. I liked him alot so I agreed to go over there even though everyone I told thought I was crazy. They all said it was a bad idea because it was 11pm at night and I had only met him briefly at a party a month before so he was probably just looking for a booty call. But I threw the rule book out the window and went anyway. It turned out to be a great night. We talked about some really deep stuff and ended up making out. Apparently it was one of the best decisions I've ever made because we'veve been married for over 20 years now. So yeah, I'm a big fan of spontaneity. Sometimes it's ok to throw caution to the wind, OP. I would just stop overthinking it and meet the guy. Like the old saying goes. We regret the things in life we didn't do much more than the ones we did. 4
StrongHands Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 2 hours ago, sushiandtacos said: Oh for sure I agree spontaneity can be fun, but just wasn't sure due to how he flaked this past weekend when we planned to hangout. If he hadn't done that before I think I would've been all for it seeing him last minute tbh I can see how him FLAKING has made you apprehensive but like I previously mentioned, you think or view him as a good guy so maybe second chances are in order. 2
poppyfields Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 (edited) 4 hours ago, basil67 said: Some of the best times of my life have happened at late notice. If you've got something else on, by all means stick to your plans...but if your calendar is free, you may have a great night. Agree! I was never into that "if he doesn't ask you out 3 days in advance" bs, and frankly never understood it. Other than it's just another shyt test which most men fail, so where does that leave you? sushi, meet the guy, be open, have a drink, have a blast! I think you will have regrets if you don't. Edited February 3, 2021 by poppyfields 3 1
Wiseman2 Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 8 hours ago, sushiandtacos said: asked to get drinks tonight but isn't it such LATE NOTICE?! So? Go if you want to. You keep playing games. Either meet or move on. 1
basil67 Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 5 hours ago, sushiandtacos said: Oh for sure I agree spontaneity can be fun, but just wasn't sure due to how he flaked this past weekend when we planned to hangout. If he hadn't done that before I think I would've been all for it seeing him last minute tbh He didn't flake. Flaking is when you have firm plans and someone drops them. But in this case, neither of you bothered to take any initiative. 3
StrongHands Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 Along the lines of being spontaneous is a great saying and appropriate in this situation: "Being spontaneous is being able to respond with confidence; calmly trusting that, whatever the outcome you will have a positive if challenging experience that will lead to greater self awareness success." 1 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted February 3, 2021 Author Posted February 3, 2021 12 hours ago, princessaurora said: Exactly. The first time I hung out with my now hubby was spur of the moment. I was visiting a friend about 15 minutes from where he lived and she disappeared for awhile to have sex with her boyfriend. I called my now husband to talk while they did the deed and he invited me over to his house to hang out for a bit. I liked him alot so I agreed to go over there even though everyone I told thought I was crazy. They all said it was a bad idea because it was 11pm at night and I had only met him briefly at a party a month before so he was probably just looking for a booty call. But I threw the rule book out the window and went anyway. It turned out to be a great night. We talked about some really deep stuff and ended up making out. Apparently it was one of the best decisions I've ever made because we'veve been married for over 20 years now. So yeah, I'm a big fan of spontaneity. Sometimes it's ok to throw caution to the wind, OP. I would just stop overthinking it and meet the guy. Like the old saying goes. We regret the things in life we didn't do much more than the ones we did. Thanks I enjoyed reading your story so much Going to work on not overthinking this year, I feel like that's something that holds me back a lot of the times. 2
michaelwilson Posted February 3, 2021 Posted February 3, 2021 Hmm, maybe he lost interest cuz it was too easy for him. As well it can be a guy who is just texting a long of girls at same time and he has chosen another girl instead of you? It might be the reason. Or why not just not to text him again, maybe something happened and he has some work. If you are interested in this guy it may be a good step in your future relationships.
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