Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Posted January 30, 2021 2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Go. Only way to tell if you even want to continue. Yeah I texted him so we'll see what he says lol will keep ya'll updated! 1
peach302 Posted January 30, 2021 Posted January 30, 2021 1 hour ago, sushiandtacos said: Help peach I'm still a little interested in meeting him but idk if his response means he's not excited to see me Sorry sushi didnt see this till now! I agree with wiseman. Meet the guy...and see what happens. I usually think face to face meetings are better and you can gauge how he feels about you and vice versa!!! 2 1
Interstellar Posted January 30, 2021 Posted January 30, 2021 Who doesn’t love sushi and tacos!? that guy’s missing out big time! 3 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 31, 2021 Author Posted January 31, 2021 So we both decided to reschedule bc its too late now for plans . I genuinely think he's really bad at planning. But I think I'm gonna see if he initiates next time and actually make a plan if not I guess its time to move on!
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 31, 2021 Author Posted January 31, 2021 24 minutes ago, peach302 said: Sorry sushi didnt see this till now! I agree with wiseman. Meet the guy...and see what happens. I usually think face to face meetings are better and you can gauge how he feels about you and vice versa!!! No worries peach!! Hopefully we'll be able to meet IRL bc I agree face to face is much better to gauge! 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 31, 2021 Author Posted January 31, 2021 22 minutes ago, Interstellar said: Who doesn’t love sushi and tacos!? that guy’s missing out big time!
peach302 Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 17 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: No worries peach!! Hopefully we'll be able to meet IRL bc I agree face to face is much better to gauge! Did he reply to u?
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 31, 2021 Author Posted January 31, 2021 3 minutes ago, peach302 said: Did he reply to u? Yes he says he is down to meet tonight but also prefers to reschedule because it is kinda last minute now. I took that as not meeting tonight and Idk if I want to give him another chance to reschedule...
peach302 Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 (edited) 18 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: Yes he says he is down to meet tonight but also prefers to reschedule because it is kinda last minute now. I took that as not meeting tonight and Idk if I want to give him another chance to reschedule... Ask him when he wants to reschedule for. Tell him you'd prefer sometime this coming week. So it doesnt drag on for too long. Its upto you though. Edited January 31, 2021 by peach302 1
Pumaza Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 He maybe not into it as you want him to be.Move on. 4
Watercolors Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 1 hour ago, sushiandtacos said: Yes he says he is down to meet tonight but also prefers to reschedule because it is kinda last minute now. I took that as not meeting tonight and Idk if I want to give him another chance to reschedule... Sounds like he's stringing you along. i'd forget about him. Doesn't sound like he's interested in meeting you in person or it would have happened already, despite COVID. There really isn't a justifiable excuse these days for not meeting someone in person from online dating. Online dating is rife with people who just want to text with someone but never meet in person. Don't be the one to double text him to ask him out and offer up a date and time and venue either. Don't lower yourself to do that. He had the chance to reschedule the date with you tonight via text, "Hey, tonight's last minute but how about next Thursday we meet for dinner at x-restaurant." See how easy that is to do? He didn't do it b/c he's not interested and will continue to string you along, as long as you let him. 3
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 31, 2021 Author Posted January 31, 2021 11 minutes ago, Watercolors said: Sounds like he's stringing you along. i'd forget about him. Doesn't sound like he's interested in meeting you in person or it would have happened already, despite COVID. There really isn't a justifiable excuse these days for not meeting someone in person from online dating. Online dating is rife with people who just want to text with someone but never meet in person. Don't be the one to double text him to ask him out and offer up a date and time and venue either. Don't lower yourself to do that. He had the chance to reschedule the date with you tonight via text, "Hey, tonight's last minute but how about next Thursday we meet for dinner at x-restaurant." See how easy that is to do? He didn't do it b/c he's not interested and will continue to string you along, as long as you let him. Well he did offer some dates for next week, just haven't responded yet due to doubts. But in the long run if this is how he plans for things I don't think my mental heath can handle that I just am deciding whether I should give him the benefit of the doubt because its only the beginning and we haven't met yet. But for sure I won't be the one to initiate plans for next time!
Alvi Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 He is probably multi-dating as many do on-line. Probably would not hurt you to meet him once if you believe that there might be something about this guy. If he can reschedule that is. But at the same time don't put all of your eggs in one basket. 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 31, 2021 Author Posted January 31, 2021 6 minutes ago, Alvi said: He is probably multi-dating as many do on-line. Probably would not hurt you to meet him once if you believe that there might be something about this guy. If he can reschedule that is. But at the same time don't put all of your eggs in one basket. Yes exactly!
Watercolors Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 1 hour ago, sushiandtacos said: Well he did offer some dates for next week, just haven't responded yet due to doubts. But in the long run if this is how he plans for things I don't think my mental heath can handle that I just am deciding whether I should give him the benefit of the doubt because its only the beginning and we haven't met yet. But for sure I won't be the one to initiate plans for next time! So he texted you some options for next week for a first date but you haven't responded now? It's Saturday. Respond to one of his first date options by tomorrow at the latest and see what happens. If you play games by not responding to his rain check ideas because you want to wait to see what he texts back, then you are setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment. Just respond to one of the first date options he suggested and see if he follows through. If he doesn't follow through to confirm it or to actually meet you in person, then you have your real answer. Right now, all you have are empty assumptions. 1
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 31, 2021 Author Posted January 31, 2021 2 minutes ago, Watercolors said: So he texted you some options for next week for a first date but you haven't responded now? It's Saturday. Respond to one of his first date options by tomorrow at the latest and see what happens. If you play games by not responding to his rain check ideas because you want to wait to see what he texts back, then you are setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment. Just respond to one of the first date options he suggested and see if he follows through. If he doesn't follow through to confirm it or to actually meet you in person, then you have your real answer. Right now, all you have are empty assumptions. Yes was planning on that I also didn't mean to play games I just wasn't sure if I'm okay with going out with him if plans for something then flakes when it comes to the day of. But I guess one way to find out is to reschedule and see if he does that again.
peach302 Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 28 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: Yes was planning on that I also didn't mean to play games I just wasn't sure if I'm okay with going out with him if plans for something then flakes when it comes to the day of. But I guess one way to find out is to reschedule and see if he does that again. If you don't try you'll never know.
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 31, 2021 Author Posted January 31, 2021 9 minutes ago, peach302 said: If you don't try you'll never know. What would I do without ya peach 1
peach302 Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 12 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: What would I do without ya peach Why, thank you sushi 1
ThatDude76 Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 (edited) Honestly, this guy is either A) Not into you ( Just stringing you along for attention, validation, and to kill boredom when nothing else is better ) B) Really insecure/ really nervous, and he cant plan anything or meet with you cause his fear cripples him Both don't sound great, but you can still give him the benefit of the doubt I suppose. Just try not to get too invested until you meet him. Edited January 31, 2021 by ThatDude76 2
peach302 Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 7 minutes ago, S2B said: This is the time when he should be showing you his best self. is this is his best = no way! He’s not made effort - except for a bunch of texts. tell him when he has a PLANNED date to offer then to ask you out! He's a young man in his early 20s. Probably doesn't know how to act or just starting out.
peach302 Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 1 minute ago, S2B said: Ya know what? That’s just an excuse for the hat I call “not good enough”. the guy is wasting her time. IF he wants a date all he really has to do is say “want to go out to ________ restaurant on Friday at 7? that is what it looks like when someone asks for a REAL date! They tell you what to expect and what time! then they ask if they should pick you up or meet there. it IS simple! This guy is playing games! Fair. Sometimes its good to give the benefit of the doubt though. He did ask and offer some dates to her for next week. Anyway time will tell. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 (edited) 7 hours ago, sushiandtacos said: Yes he says he is down to meet tonight but also prefers to reschedule because it is kinda last minute now. Uh, yeah, and that was his doing. He's not that excited about meeting you or he wouldn't have left it so long that it was "kinda last minute" and needed to reschedule. This was a very convenient "well, shucks, look at the time, better get going!"-type move. My guess is that he made plans to meet someone else instead and wanted a slick way to keep you on the back burner for next week in case the date doesn't go well. Don't bother. He's not as interested as you are and you haven't even met yet. Edited January 31, 2021 by ExpatInItaly 3
ExpatInItaly Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 54 minutes ago, S2B said: Ya know what? That’s just an excuse for the what I call “not good enough”. Exactly. I dated in my early 20s, and guys who were interested didn't disappear until the day of the date and then need to reschedule. 1
Fletch Lives Posted January 31, 2021 Posted January 31, 2021 When you are confused, that means he's not interested. 3
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