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I broke up with my ex four years ago, but I still miss him.
I dumped him, but six months later I re-contacted him

We were together in third country, but I left for my home town for my work, we have become a long distance couple.
Sadly, we couldn't see it except the weekend in a month, and even the weekend was too short for us. But nonetheless, we loved each other

I was dissatisfied with it, So I had to make a decision to either go back to a third country or go to each other's home country.
I asked him if he would be with me in the future. but he said he couldn't tell if he could be with me in the future because he also lives in third countries and was not settled so he couldn't know what his future was right now.

I was hoping he would tell me the solution, but I was very upset because it wasn't, So in the end, I said goodbye to him and said all kinds of bad things.

But I still miss him..
He is currently in a relationship with another woman.
I sometimes messaged him like a friend, but one day his girl friend followed my Instagram and canceled it.

I was so surprised and so angry at the same time.
I didn't think his girlfriend would know me, and I thought he had told her about me.

I was angry and talked to him, and he said he was sorry it was her mistake. 
Do you guys believe this? I think this is her warning.
It's shameful that she seems to know everything about me.
I often told him my dreams about him or miss old days and that you are a good person. Of course he didn't respond to that message just laugh emoji, but.. I can't forgot him I really want to go back to him, Should I keep the distance from him?

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Having a social media platform is essentially public information. What you put out is visible to whomever follows you.

She was probably curious about you because he obviously mentioned you at some point. I’ve looked up my SO’s ex a few times in the beginning of us dating and then I realized it was harmful to worry about a non-issue.

And yes, I would absolutely keep your distance. I highly suggest letting this friendship go. It’s inappropriate when feelings are involved. You’ll never heal if you don’t let go once and for all. It’s been several years and he hasn’t come back yet...it’s unlikely he will.

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What you are doing is wrong. You broke up 4 years ago it's more than time for you to move on with your life. Stop talking to him, delete him, and start searching for your next love.

How would you have felt when you were together if an ex sent him messsges that she missed him, dreans about him, and missed the old days??

Quit it. 

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You didn't break up because there was something wrong in the relationship.  You broke up due to the circumstances & distance.   That said you have to apply logic to this.  It didn't work then because of the distance & there is no meaningful way to close it now in Covid.  You have to categorize him in your brain as that wonderful fling you had years ago.  Now you have to find a local guy to take your mind off him & stop longing for something that can never be.

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