Alonefornow400 Posted January 21, 2021 Posted January 21, 2021 I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while now including over a year. I’ve noticed that he has become extremely opinionated and has a comment for many things it really got on my nerves recently so I talk to him about it and told him that that wasn’t something I was gonna be able to live with. I’m an older individual and frankly I really don’t have the time or the interest in telling my boyfriend to behave like he should. I also want to share that he is extremely affectionate and very thoughtful. But he can also be to be honest an ass in what he says and how he says it. I don’t think he does it to be mean I just think he says it because he feels like saying it without regard to the effect it may have on the recipient. It’s starting to really get on my nerves again and sort of feels like I need to avoid him some extent even though when I’m with him I generally really enjoy myself a lot and we have a grade of chemistry. there are many examples of his behavior but the most recent one is that my son is interested in adopting a cat and even though my son is an adult in his 30s I work and took it upon himself to go to two shelters and pick up a cat send pictures and then tell my son over and over to file an application to get the cat and that if he’s in that he was inclined to just go get the cat himself and bring the cat to my son and my son didn’t like it he would keep the cat from suffer give to somebody else. I know in my heart that he would end up pressuring my son to keep the cat and they should not be his decision but it’s only been my sons. He finally gave up after a few days of harassing him. However I’m realistic, and I don’t wanna get in a situation where if we do eventually move in together which is very likelyI’m going to be under his thumb.
Wiseman2 Posted January 21, 2021 Posted January 21, 2021 He's been bullying your adult children for a while now. Are they still warning you about him? 1
dramafreezone Posted January 21, 2021 Posted January 21, 2021 I don't think it's unreasonable to insist that he treat you and everyone else around him with the appropriate respect we deserve as people. If you've already told him about it numerous times and he has had ample opportunity to change you have to decide if this is something you're prepared to live with for the foreseeable future or not. Sounds like you're not so there's your answer. 1
smackie9 Posted January 21, 2021 Posted January 21, 2021 You already talked to him, and the behavior hasn't changed. He's an adult and has been this way all his life, so he isn't going to change now. This is why we date...to find out what they are really like. He's a negative nelly. Be done with him and don't invest another day on this relationship. 1
smackie9 Posted January 21, 2021 Posted January 21, 2021 I read your other threads...your kids can't stand him...that's telling you something does it not? He's been pushing you to marry.....so he can have full control over you....flippin run for the hills lady. 1 1
chillii Posted January 22, 2021 Posted January 22, 2021 There was some very big things pointed out there from other threads with your kids and all , and his pressure , adding onto what you've said here as well. Sorry to say but l agree with others .
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